Why are recs absolutely necessary at some schools, while not expected at others? - Page 11

DubaiSis · #1 03-08-2013, 01:35 PM

You're right. I know that there is NOTHING I'm going to be able to do to change the rush process at those schools. But I also know that in a discussion of why some schools require them and others don't when the results are the exact same, it bears repeating that there is NO valid reason to require all the man hours it takes to get this herculean task solved. Obviously it will be done the long way from here to eternity because it fits the culture, but don't confuse that with being a GOOD system.

HQWest · #2 03-09-2013, 10:56 AM

LOL indeed

Titchou · #3 03-10-2013, 08:49 AM

One, I say to PNMs with bad grades: "you know, I'm going to have to be honest about your grades." It may not be fun to have to say but I feel I owe it to them to be honest with them.

Two, no PNM who was a "no" ever asked me for a rec. I have only done about 3 or 4 and I don't think any of them knew or thought about whether I am in a sorority.

carnation · #4 03-10-2013, 08:56 AM

I'm glad that the 3 no-recs I've written over the years never asked me for a rec. All 3 knew better than to do that since they realized I knew what all they had done. Can you imagine being asked to write one by some really awful kid?

AOII Angel · #5 03-10-2013, 09:06 AM

When you live out of the rec bubble region, I think it's more common to run into this. I was honest about it, and asked for an explanation. It also gave me an opportunity to discuss the probable outcome of recruitment. Northern girl heading to SEC with bad grades equals bad result. :/

Titchou · #6 03-10-2013, 10:34 AM

Excellent way to handle, AOII_Angel.

AGDee · #7 03-10-2013, 07:05 PM

What about a girl who you know is kind of a drama queen, always stirring things up among her close friends?

HQWest · #8 03-10-2013, 07:15 PM

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Originally Posted by AGDee

What about a girl who you know is kind of a drama queen, always stirring things up among her close friends?

I would prefer not to have the drama queens myself. They usually escalate in some way in my experience

AOII Angel · #9 03-10-2013, 07:08 PM

I don't know, Dee. I figure those kinds of women can benefit from membership. drama queens are in every chapter, but some of these women are turned around by college.

diamondmom · #10 03-10-2013, 07:50 PM

We had a girl that went through last year at a highly competitive SEC school. while searching her facebook, twitter and other social media we came upon a youtube video that was not totally complimentary. In fact it was down right crude! It was forwarded onto many of the chapter of this campus and this PNM was cut prior to skit day. Amazing enough she received a bid. After first semester she transferred due to grades and the inability to pay (also a concern via the "network"). You can run but you can't hide

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KillarneyRose · #11 03-11-2013, 02:47 PM

Don't know what it's like now but back when I was at Pitt I don't think we would have known what to do with a rec if we'd ever received one from a rushee. Our National wants one rec on each girl, so just got them from local alumnae prior to initiation without the pledges ever knowing about it.

AnchorAlumna · #12 03-11-2013, 03:17 PM

That's totally opposite of the way recs are intended.

Not saying it's not still done.

KillarneyRose · #13 03-11-2013, 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

That's totally opposite of the way recs are intended.

Not saying it's not still done.

You mean what I wrote? If so, I agree completely. It was, to me, more checking a box than anything else.

33girl · #14 03-12-2013, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by KillarneyRose

Don't know what it's like now but back when I was at Pitt I don't think we would have known what to do with a rec if we'd ever received one from a rushee. Our National wants one rec on each girl, so just got them from local alumnae prior to initiation without the pledges ever knowing about it.

Yeah, but you guys probably had "Pittsburgh recs." "She went to VALLEY? OMG. No. Just no." LOL

KillarneyRose · #15 03-12-2013, 03:01 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

Yeah, but you guys probably had "Pittsburgh recs." "She went to VALLEY? OMG. No. Just no." LOL

LOL, you're probably on to something there. If so, when I went through they'd all have been "Oooh, she went to Fox Chapel...GET HER!!!" not knowing that I actually didn't have two nickels to rub together!