University of Mississippi - Ole Miss Panhellenic Sorority Recruitment 2013

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by MaryPoppins

Hilly Holbrook, the main antagonist and the town's racist, snooty ringleader from The Help. Hilly could get very testy and did things to others most normal moral people would deeply regret.

oh. OH! Ugh. Thanks, MP, for the reference. I had blocked it out of my mind.

I'm with Titchou, very grateful that my escapades weren't captured for posterity in perpetuity.

[DubaiSis]

Oh, Old Row, we might be holier than thou NOW, but our parties were every bit as bad, stupid, dangerous, etc., as yours are now. Actually, I think generally kids are savvier about what's what than they were back in my day, the 80's. The problem for so many parents is, yes, I might have done several seriously stupid and health threatening things as a teenager, but my kids would NEVER do any of that. Sleep with a boy she doesn't know? Get so drunk she passes out in a fraternity house? My snowflake? NEVER! Which is to say the exact same thing our parents were saying 30 and 40 years ago.

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

Oh, Old Row, we might be holier than thou NOW, but our parties were every bit as bad, stupid, dangerous, etc., as yours are now. Actually, I think generally kids are savvier about what's what than they were back in my day, the 80's. The problem for so many parents is, yes, I might have done several seriously stupid and health threatening things as a teenager, but my kids would NEVER do any of that. Sleep with a boy she doesn't know? Get so drunk she passes out in a fraternity house? My snowflake? NEVER! Which is to say the exact same thing our parents were saying 30 and 40 years ago.

Yeah but the guys didn't have roofies back then....I know what you're saying. I'm a 60's flower child and yes we did stuff our parents would have cringed at...and that was with a 21 year old drinking age, campus curfew, and very few people with cars or apartments. Certainly no women students had apartments. it wasn't allowed. But I can honestly tell you - it's different today. They all live with their boyfriends, have freerun of the place at 18 - or younger. Toto, we are not in Kansas any more.

[Sciencewoman]

Originally Posted by Titchou

Yeah but the guys didn't have roofies back then....I know what you're saying. I'm a 60's flower child and yes we did stuff our parents would have cringed at...and that was with a 21 year old drinking age, campus curfew, and very few people with cars or apartments. Certainly no women students had apartments. it wasn't allowed. But I can honestly tell you - it's different today. They all live with their boyfriends, have freerun of the place at 18 - or younger. Toto, we are not in Kansas any more.

They had roofies in the 80s. One of my sorority sisters was a victim...and the perpetrator was one of our fraternity busboys. She and her family didn't press charges, but he was persona non grata in the Greek community because the word got around.

[TriDeltaSallie]

Originally Posted by Titchou

But I can honestly tell you - it's different today. They all live with their boyfriends, have freerun of the place at 18 - or younger. Toto, we are not in Kansas any more.

It is completely different. And I only graduated in 1990. Seriously, people. This was not the norm even twenty years ago. I cannot think of one sister who acted like this in a chapter of 100 women. Did girls sleep with their boyfriends? Yes. Did girls sleep with guys they liked? Yes. But this is something completely different.

[Hearttoheart]

Does anyone know how party invites are handled at Ole Miss? Do they get slipped under their doors the night before, or do they pick them up minutes before they are expected to attend round 2 and/or pref?

How much time do the girls have to process their invite list prior to actually attending the parties? Seems to me that if they are having a less than perfect recruitment, they may need time to collect themselves before having to put on a pretty face.

Somebody told me they were slipped under their doors the night before, but that doesn't seem right...

[KKGAlumDGMom]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

Oh, Old Row, we might be holier than thou NOW, but our parties were every bit as bad, stupid, dangerous, etc., as yours are now. Actually, I think generally kids are savvier about what's what than they were back in my day, the 80's. The problem for so many parents is, yes, I might have done several seriously stupid and health threatening things as a teenager, but my kids would NEVER do any of that. Sleep with a boy she doesn't know? Get so drunk she passes out in a fraternity house? My snowflake? NEVER! Which is to say the exact same thing our parents were saying 30 and 40 years ago.

I'm just thankful the legal drinking age was 18 in the state I went to college.

[Titchou]

Glad I grew up with just drugs, sex and rock 'n roll...

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Titchou

Glad I grew up with just drugs, sex and rock 'n roll...

And from all accounts, the pot was a lot less potent back then.

Re living with boyfriends, we (this is the mid-80s) had a girl basically living with her boyfriend on our floor in the dorm (this was not a 24 hour visitation dorm BTW). His roommates were assholes and he was a good guy, so no one cared. If they did, I didn't know about it.

AGDee is right in that AIDS (especially after Magic Johnson was diagnosed) changed things up, but being at a small school in the middle of nowhere, we were slow to get the memo. When I was in college, being a virgin was something to be ashamed of and you would never admit it. 6-7 years later, people were virgins or abstinent and proud of it.

Re that article, I think there are a lot of girls saying "oh, I just want to hook up and not get emotionally involved, I don't want to get tied down, I want a career, blah blah blah" that are completely full of shit. You can say over and over and over that you're just doing something for physical release, but hearts and emotions are funny things. We didn't really "date" either. We went to fraternity parties and hung out together. If you hung out with the same person all the time, you were a couple. The only people having actual "dates" were longterm couples who would go to a nice restaurant or whatever.

[HQWest]

Originally Posted by 33girl

And from all accounts, the pot was a lot less potent back then.

Re living with boyfriends, we (this is the mid-80s) had a girl basically living with her boyfriend on our floor in the dorm (this was not a 24 hour visitation dorm BTW). His roommates were assholes and he was a good guy, so no one cared. If they did, I didn't know about it.

AGDee is right in that AIDS (especially after Magic Johnson was diagnosed) changed things up, but being at a small school in the middle of nowhere, we were slow to get the memo. When I was in college, being a virgin was something to be ashamed of and you would never admit it. 6-7 years later, people were virgins or abstinent and proud of it.

Re that article, I think there are a lot of girls saying "oh, I just want to hook up and not get emotionally involved, I don't want to get tied down, I want a career, blah blah blah" that are completely full of shit. You can say over and over and over that you're just doing something for physical release, but hearts and emotions are funny things. We didn't really "date" either. We went to fraternity parties and hung out together. If you hung out with the same person all the time, you were a couple. The only people having actual "dates" were longterm couples who would go to a nice restaurant or whatever.

Yes. I think that there are a lot more in the media that are highlighting the outliers. There is a lot of craziness that goes on at parties, but not as much as movies or tv would have you believe. And if she is seeing the same guy over and over - they are in a relationship (just not a very good one.)

[HQWest]

The thing is - going to these prerecruitment parties - no one wants to be THAT girl before you even walk in the door.

[DubaiSis]

My chapter was pretty prudish under anyone's definition, and we wouldn't have passed a Facebook test.

[misscherrypie]

*Lane swerve* Our chapter is so prudish that we would pass a Facebook test. Every single one of us. I think that the most out of line thing that any of us has was someone taking a picture of us toasting with water in glasses at a restaurant and one of the glasses had a snapped off half open rose bloom in it. Such is our humor.

I like boring. :-)

*back into lane*

Originally Posted by misscherrypie

*Lane swerve* Our chapter is so prudish that we would pass a Facebook test. Every single one of us. I think that the most out of line thing that any of us has was someone taking a picture of us toasting with water in glasses at a restaurant and one of the glasses had a snapped off half open rose bloom in it. Such is our humor.

I like boring. :-)

*back into lane*

[DubaiSis]

Seriously, you never heard of this type of behavior? I did and I was in school before you.