Decided to rush last minute- a couple of questions

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by ChioLu

Wow -- wished these had been forbidden when I went thru Rush the 1st time.
At 1 chapter, I got asked what my father did and how much money he made ...!
(I replied, "Enough" -- I was horrified someone could even ask.)

I was asked what my parents did, with no direct reference to money, it still made me very uncomfortable, because why else would you ask it?

[naraht]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Boys, booze, bible, and bank account.

Ah. Who are they dating, do they (or how much do they) drink, what religion are they and how much money do they/their parents have? Right?

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by naraht

Ah. Who are they dating, do they (or how much do they) drink, what religion are they and how much money do they/their parents have? Right?

Yeah, it's just a sort of mnemonic for issues that a good rusher steers away from.

[DubaiSis]

Congratulations on a seemingly successful rush so far. The one thing that makes it easier for you is you were looking for a sisterhood, not to be in the cool house that has the best mixers on campus. When you cut that element out of the process, you see that there are great groups out there and the value in each.

There is so much going on for the sorority members that while it may seem impossible to miss a wedding ring, it could absolutely happen. But my guess is it was noticed one way or another, and they chose not to address it. And while some sororities may not allow married members, it certainly doesn't apply to everyone, and I think that's a rule to resolve the "living in" problem. I wouldn't worry about it, but if you are concerned, you can always mention it prior to the pledging ceremony. Since "boys" is one of the verboten topics, this kind of strays into touchy ground. But I would have recommended you mention it during the preference party. When you're talking about your husband, you're not exactly talking about your latest hook up last weekend.

[AZTheta]

You might not find what you are looking for (re: initiation "policies") in the public sections of the GLOs' websites.

[TheNxtNancyDrew]

Don't forget Bush/Barack, aka politics! I think that's the real reason we can't elect Romney... No B!

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by TheNxtNancyDrew

Don't forget Bush/Barack, aka politics! I think that's the real reason we can't elect Romney... No B!

Just go with "ballots."

[33girl]

Thanks, because I was going to think of a fun word for Romney

In all seriousness, if this organization does give you a bid...you need to let them know you are married. I hope that in this day and age being married isn't forbidden in any NPC groups, but you never know, and it would be rotten on your part to make them unknowingly violate policy.

And beyond that...they need to know this info, from your mouth, unless you're never going to introduce them to your husband. Don't "assume" that they checked your Facebook and so everything is hunky dory.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by 33girl

\ I hope that in this day and age being married isn't forbidden in any NPC groups, but you never know, and it would be rotten on your part to make them unknowingly violate policy.

I am shocked that it is even a possibility! Do we actually know of groups that have this rule?

[honeychile]

Alpha Delta Pi used to have that rule, but I think it's been removed.

As for the bucks, look at it this way: what if a bid is given to someone who truly cannot afford it? Maybe it's literally thousands of dollars, by the time housing, dues, parlor fees, etc are all counted. There may be some people better prepared to pay for the sorority experience.

And if you only knew how much I hate, hate, hate writing that, but it's a reality. Even on my campus, there was one house that was so much more expensive than the others that they basically only took legacies and the rich girls!

[AZTheta]

Congratulations! (and appreciate that you get the lane swerve/derailing stuff, too! It's GC, after all!!!)

[CautiousSenior]

Originally Posted by AzTheta

Congratulations! (and appreciate that you get the lane swerve/derailing stuff, too! It's GC, after all!!!)

More like the internet in general. Another forum I am part of has some of the most bizarre derails ever- this is actually at least related to the topic at hand, LOL!

[adpiucf]

Congratulations! Hope you'll stick around and join us on GC.

[thetalady]

Congratulations!