Released from Rush

[ladybug12]

Upperclass quota at UTK is 9 this year, so it is possible to have a successful outcome as a sophomore.

And utgirl94, you were not "blacklisted." You had full party schedules going into pref. All of the chapters had to keep releasing PNMs each round.

I hope that you made lots of new friends this week. UTK is a beautiful campus!

Study hard, get involved, and keep your options open. Good luck to you!

[AOII Angel]

Who knows.. you may have given off an air of disinterest to each of the chapters. It's unusual for this to happen, but it does occur. Unfortunately, you didn't make enough of an impression to make that final cut. Recruitment is so hard at these massive SEC schools. Don't take it too personally, because these chapters make these decisions with so little information. You've seen that through the past few days. Contact the Greek Life office to let them know you are interested in COB. There may not be any opportunities, but you never know. This year, get to know as many sorority women as possible, and try your hardest not to be bitter about this process. We know it sucks. Not everyone shines in these parties.

[agzg]

And now we get to the point where posters start feeling awkward and feel the need to make things up.

[utgirl94]

Originally Posted by agzg

And now we get to the point where posters start feeling awkward and feel the need to make things up.

I am not trying to make this awkward. I do not know much about the selection process and am just wondering.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by utgirl94

I am not trying to make this awkward. I do not know much about the selection process and am just wondering.

We can't share much about the selection process besides what you already know, because each organization does it differently, and all of how they do it is private.

[ASTalumna06]

utgirl, you need to forget about recruitment. It's over. What's done is done. With your GPA and involvement in extra-curriculars, you sound like you would be a good sister (on paper). However, it didn't work out this time around. You can't change the past - all you can do is move forward.

Contact the Greek Life office, find out about COB opportunities, and if that doesn't work out, go through recruitment next year.

In the meantime, study, meet new friends (maybe some sorority sisters?), and get involved in other activities.

And whatever you do, don't dwell on the reasons why you MIGHT have been cut. You'll drive yourself crazy.

[utgirl94]

I REALIZE THAT. I AM NOT ASKING FOR THE REASON WHY, I DIDNT REALIZE IF YOU HAD ALL FULL PARTIES THAT COULD HAPPEN AND WOULD APPRECIATE IF YOU WERENT SO HARSH.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by utgirl94

I REALIZE THAT. I AM NOT ASKING FOR THE REASON WHY, I DIDNT REALIZE IF YOU HAD ALL FULL PARTIES THAT COULD HAPPEN AND WOULD APPRECIATE IF YOU WERENT SO HARSH.

Originally Posted by utgirl94

I REALIZE THAT. I AM NOT ASKING FOR THE REASON WHY, I DIDNT REALIZE IF YOU HAD ALL FULL PARTIES THAT COULD HAPPEN AND WOULD APPRECIATE IF YOU WERENT SO HARSH.

QFP. Even after the edit, capslock is considered yelling.

Something for PNMs/aspirants to remember is that sorority and fraternity members may be (what some consider unnecessarily) harsh sometimes but we are where you are aspiring to be. Do not try to come at harsh members the way they come at you. There is a power and knowledge differential. If you truly have membership aspirations, you ultimately need the GLOs and their members (even the harsh ones) more than the GLOs and their members need every single PNM/aspirant. Many of us had to deal with harshness from some GLO members (and members of any company or organization we want to be affiliated with) but we somehow got/get over it to accomplish what we want to accomplish.

Good luck to you!

/lane swerve general lesson for life

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by utgirl94

I REALIZE THAT. I AM NOT ASKING FOR THE REASON WHY, I DIDNT REALIZE IF YOU HAD ALL FULL PARTIES THAT COULD HAPPEN AND WOULD APPRECIATE IF YOU WERENT SO HARSH.

Because each chapter functions independently and statistically it CAN happen. Why? We don't know. 6 individual chapters can make the decision to drop you just like 3,4 or 5 could. You were just unlucky.

[Hartofsec]

Originally Posted by utgirl94

I REALIZE THAT. I AM NOT ASKING FOR THE REASON WHY, I DIDNT REALIZE IF YOU HAD ALL FULL PARTIES THAT COULD HAPPEN AND WOULD APPRECIATE IF YOU WERENT SO HARSH.

utgirl,

I hope this all works out for the greater good for you -- I know of several great girls who had a difficult experience their freshman year, but returned to rush -- stronger than ever -- as sophmores.

I hope that you will throw your energies into involvement on campus. One way or another, this will help you meet people, make friends, and network. Should you decide to rush later, you will not only have great activities to list, you will know existing members in the chapters.

(hugs) The only way to guarantee that you will never be Greek (or anything else) is not to try. Try out for other campus positions/organizations/honor societies as well -- even those you don't make provide great interview experience, which will come in handy even beyond your college years.

Best of luck to you.

[knight_shadow]

LOL

[agzg]

This is what I get for being kind.

[carnation]

Okay people, let's back off. utgirl94, you've said your part and we recognize how devastating it is.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by carnation

Okay people, let's back off. utgirl94, you've said your part and we recognize how devastating it is.

The discussion will die on its own. I think utgirl94 will grasp what they are saying.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by utgirl94

I REALIZE THAT. I AM NOT ASKING FOR THE REASON WHY, I DIDNT REALIZE IF YOU HAD ALL FULL PARTIES THAT COULD HAPPEN AND WOULD APPRECIATE IF YOU WERENT SO HARSH.

Really?

Originally Posted by utgirl94

I just wish I had an explanation as to why i was "released"

Originally Posted by utgirl94

How do I sign up for COB? and What may be some of the reasons I was released??