FSU Recruitment 2012 - Page 4

aopi4evr · #1 08-23-2012, 10:51 PM

Talked to my daughter briefly tonight and she was very positive about the 2nd round. She actually had 8 favorites this time! I am hoping she ends up with a good schedule tomorrow. I'm already writing a more thorough recruitment story to post later after this is all done. Good luck to everyone tomorrow!

pinapple · #2 08-24-2012, 05:05 PM

any updates?

FSUDad · #3 08-24-2012, 05:36 PM

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any updates?

Shannon is still in it with her favorite but is also keeping an open mind. For reasons which I hope to reveal later, I have decided to put up her updates on a 2 day delayed basis.

PKTKKG · #4 08-24-2012, 06:11 PM

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Shannon is still in it with her favorite but is also keeping an open mind. For reasons which I hope to reveal later, I have decided to put up her updates on a 2 day delayed basis.

Glad she is hanging in there and keeping that open mind!! Thank you for letting us know how she is doing and we are hoping for the best for her.

WCsweet<3 · #5 08-24-2012, 08:44 PM

Bid day is Sunday. Pref night, or as they call it "Sisterhood Day", is logistically similar to every other day of recruitment. The PNM will be called back to however many chapters and will visit each house. The night ends with the PNMs ranking the chapters. The parties are typically more serious and often involve some sort of ceremony where there are speeches about sisterhood and how much the chapter has meant to some of the members. The ranking that night is also a little more serious because she is ranking in order of whom she would like to receive a bid to most. I believe FSU PNMs go to three parties (max).

aopi4evr · #6 08-24-2012, 08:44 PM

Thanks! Can't wait to hear tomorrow's results! My daughter had a full schedule today and is absolutely exhausted.

BabyPiNK_FL · #7 08-25-2012, 12:25 AM

I happened to pass by the houses today because I was in town and wanted to take pics with the Phi Mu house. I couldn't because recruitment was happening but I did get some pictures of the house with the tents and the PNMs lined up for the last parties of the day. I must say some of the fashions we saw driving around campus were interesting! Me and my mother had a good laugh in the car. Also girls without flip flops really should reconsider running barefoot...

debann127 · #8 08-25-2012, 10:16 AM

Well, sorry that I didnt post yesterday. I think this is as emotional for me as it is for her. My daughter received 7 of a possible 8 party invitations. Unfortunately, there was only 1 favorite on it and it was hard for her. I thought she was going to pull out but she went to all 7. A new favorite emerged and she really thinks that she could see herself at 2 of the 7. Now it gets a bit tricky, they hear at 11am today and I'm hoping that those 2 are on her party schedule or she will probably just drop out. This can be a real gut-wrenching experience and I tried to console her that it could work out today. I'm hoping for the best but preparing for the worst.
So my question is, when these girls go to the parties today, do they get any indication of if they will receive a bid or not from the ladies that they speak with.

AXOrushadvisor · #9 08-25-2012, 10:22 AM

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Well, sorry that I didnt post yesterday. I think this is as emotional for me as it is for her. My daughter received 7 of a possible 8 party invitations. Unfortunately, there was only 1 favorite on it and it was hard for her. I thought she was going to pull out but she went to all 7. A new favorite emerged and she really thinks that she could see herself at 2 of the 7. Now it gets a bit tricky, they hear at 11am today and I'm hoping that those 2 are on her party schedule or she will probably just drop out. This can be a real gut-wrenching experience and I tried to console her that it could work out today. I'm hoping for the best but preparing for the worst.
So my question is, when these girls go to the parties today, do they get any indication of if they will receive a bid or not from the ladies that they speak with.

I think the answer to your question is yes and no. I think some women have a very easy time expressing their desire to have a woman join their sisterhood, however, that active is only one vote in the Chapter. So they could flat out tell her what she wants to hear but that might not be the reality of situation.

Wallace · #10 08-25-2012, 10:27 AM

If you attend a chapter's preference party you are on that chapter's bid list, it's a question of where on the bid list. From what I understand, legacies are suppose to be listed first on bid lists.

FSU's Rho Gammas gives the PNM's their preference invitations privately and individually. You may not hear from your daughter right away. It took awhile for my daughter to text me last year.

Good luck to her!

pinapple · #11 08-25-2012, 11:45 AM

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Originally Posted by debann127

Well, sorry that I didnt post yesterday. I think this is as emotional for me as it is for her. My daughter received 7 of a possible 8 party invitations. Unfortunately, there was only 1 favorite on it and it was hard for her. I thought she was going to pull out but she went to all 7. A new favorite emerged and she really thinks that she could see herself at 2 of the 7. Now it gets a bit tricky, they hear at 11am today and I'm hoping that those 2 are on her party schedule or she will probably just drop out. This can be a real gut-wrenching experience and I tried to console her that it could work out today. I'm hoping for the best but preparing for the worst.
So my question is, when these girls go to the parties today, do they get any indication of if they will receive a bid or not from the ladies that they speak with.

I would do everything in your power to encourage her to not drop. I know it is hard. People are judging your child. How can it not be emotional? But you have to understand at this point everyone that is going back is liked. It is now a numbers game. Just like a favorite emerged yesterday, who is to say another favorite can't shine today? SHE CANNON'T TURN BACK THE HANDS OF TIME. Three weeks from now when she meets some awesome girls from "unliked" sorority ABC she might end up desiring to be part of a sisterhood she was already welcomed in. She has to try her darnedest to seperate the "top house" tent talk from her goal, which (and this in my opinion based on the fact that she is rushing as I type) is to join an amazing sisterhood.

She will only have this one chance for the next year. Whether she drops now, or see it through bid day, that does not change. So where is the harm in her attending prefs at even her bottom choices if that means an opportunity to have a connection made that has not been made yet. If she doesn't go, the possibility is zero. In my opinion, dropping after this round, in any recruitment (SEC, Big 10 or whatever) is the biggest mistake PNMs make. Dropping after round 1 because sorority life is not for you...I get. She has had about 65 minutes with these girls. She has heard years of rumors and "tent talk". She needs to seperate her ears from her heart and give any of the wonderful women that are welcoming her to their home a shot. She should establish a relationship durning a new member period before considering dismissing a group on what now is only speculation

PKTKKG · #12 08-25-2012, 11:49 AM

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I would do everything in your power to encourage her to not drop. I know it is hard. People are judging your child. How can it not be emotional? But you have to understand at this point everyone that is going back is liked. It is now a numbers game. Just like a favorite emerged yesterday, who is to say another favorite can't shine today? SHE CANNON'T TURN BACK THE HANDS OF TIME. Three weeks from now when she meets some awesome girls from "unliked" sorority ABC she might end up desiring to be part of a sisterhood she was already welcomed in. She has to try her darnedest to seperate the "top house" tent talk from her goal, which (and this in my opinion based on the fact that she is rushing as I type) is to join an amazing sisterhood.

She will only have this one chance for the next year. Whether she drops now, or see it through bid day, that does not change. So where is the harm in her attending prefs at even her bottom choices if that means an opportunity to have a connection made that has not been made yet. If she doesn't go, the possibility is zero. In my opinion, dropping after this round, in any recruitment (SEC, Big 10 or whatever) is the biggest mistake PNMs make. Dropping after round 1 because sorority life is not for you...I get. She has had about 65 minutes with these girls. She has heard years of rumors and "tent talk". She needs to seperate her ears from her heart and give any of the wonderful women that are welcoming her to their home a shot. She should establish a relationship durning a new member period before considering dismissing a group on what now is only speculation

Well said!!! This is an emotional week for EVERYONE and it can be hard to see clearly through all of the long days, walking, talking, etc. And you are totally right about the really short amount of time spent during this week with girls and when you take the time to really give things a try you can be amazed at the wonderful world of sisterhood, fun, and having that home away from home.

debann127 · #13 08-25-2012, 10:40 AM

If you attend a chapter's preference party you are on that chapter's bid list, it's a question of where on the bid list. From what I understand, legacies are suppose to be listed first on bid lists.

Really, I didnt know that. Thats interesting. The way I understand the bid lists, there is an A list (not ranked) and a B list that is ranked.

Wallace · #14 08-25-2012, 10:49 AM

This is my understanding of how bid lists work from reading multiple threads on this site. If I am wrong, please someone correct me. Thanks.

PKTKKG · #15 08-25-2012, 11:42 AM

Hope things work out today for all of the FSU girls.

And for the mom's and dad's, encourage your daughters to go to Preference as I know girls who were dropped by their favorite only to have a great experience at Pref and really click with the houses they go to. They are only obligated if they sign their Pref card, so they have nothing to lose by attending parties.

And the general explanation of the bid lists are pretty accurate. If a woman receives an invitation to Pref she is definitely on that chapter's bid list and that is a real indication that the chapter would accept her as a new member. With the bid list though it is just a matter of where the PNM falls along the list. And the way recruitment is organized, Greek Life does their best to match a PNM with her preferred chapter. However, that does not guarantee a first preference match.

I knew many girls who received their second (or third) choices and had a GREAT greek experience - chapter leaders, campus leaders, you name it things can all work out. And my advice to girls is that you can be happy wherever you make your mind up to be happy.

Thanks for sharing your stories - we will be thinking happy and positive thoughts for all of you!!