Cardinal Rule Broken by Our Greek Advisor ;-( - Page 5

gee_ess · #1 08-13-2012, 07:45 PM

Jumping in the fray-

I understand the OP's moral dilemma but if she pursues the issue, she looks like a mean-spirited, career destroying, NPC beeotch.

If the advisor was performing poorly at her job, conducting herself in a negative manner, misusing her connections with her NPHC group, the this might be a reason to raise a red flag. But, she is doing a fanastic job. The OP is on record as having raised the concern during the interview and the panel hired her anyway.

This is not a deal breaker for someone doing a good job. This information will only destroy a woman who obviously doesn't think/know she did anything wrong. The OP will be ruined for what looks to others like she is"making a mountain out of a molehill"

Kevin · #2 08-14-2012, 10:07 PM

You don't even know if a rule has been broken. Stop the moral indignation BS and figure that out before you start recklessly giving advice to people.

Kevin · #3 08-14-2012, 11:47 PM

What the hell does that have to do with anything?

1) It hasn't been shown that this behavior actually broke a rule; and

2) OP is still not the dual membership police. Her duty is to her student body and her own organization, maybe NPC, but most likely not to an NPHC group or anyone else.

I could ask whether you're high for continuing to post here, but I don't do that sort of thing.

DrPhil · #4 08-15-2012, 12:00 AM

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I could ask whether you're high for continuing to post here, but I don't do that sort of thing.

Clearly you do. If 33girl responds a certain way will you pretend she is "not classy" or simply missed your joke?

Senusret I · #5 08-15-2012, 07:54 AM

....know your memes.

http://knowyourmeme.com/memes/first-world-problems

DrPhil · #6 08-15-2012, 09:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Senusret I

....know your memes.

http://knowyourmeme.com/memes/first-world-problems

Exactly. One of many memes that some people consider outdated and offensive.

/I know that poster did not mean it that way but there are different audiences.

gee_ess · #7 08-15-2012, 08:28 AM

Would it be a bad option for the OP to register her concerns (since she has no hard proof and to go after some is very tricky as stated earlier) with a 'higher up' within her university. That way, she has expressed her concern and explained the potential repercussions this may have for her university/campus in a decisive way.

I still believe her duty and obligation is to her university first. That is the role she was serving when they hired her. And let's remember, she brought up her concerns about this lady's dual membership at the time and was pooh poohed.

So, why not take it a step further but one that lets her soothe her ethical feathers and also closes the door as far as her obligations. If there is ever a problem with the dean, and they turn around and start looking for people to blame, the OP has Covered Her A**.

sigmadiva · #8 08-15-2012, 08:54 AM

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Originally Posted by gee_ess

Would it be a bad option for the OP to register her concerns (since she has no hard proof and to go after some is very tricky as stated earlier) with a 'higher up' within her university. That way, she has expressed her concern and explained the potential repercussions this may have for her university/campus in a decisive way.

I still believe her duty and obligation is to her university first. That is the role she was serving when they hired her. And let's remember, she brought up her concerns about this lady's dual membership at the time and was pooh poohed.

So, why not take it a step further but one that lets her soothe her ethical feathers and also closes the door as far as her obligations. If there is ever a problem with the dean, and they turn around and start looking for people to blame, the OP has Covered Her A**.

To the red bold: Then let it die. She should not take it any further!

Obviously the school does not care. At this point, for the OP to push this further when it is obviously not an issue for the school can only hurt the OP, and not the Dean.

It seems that enough people know about it and are not pursuing the issue. The OP should take a hint and back away from the issue.

When she brought up her concern and it was not taken any further, then the OP carried out her moral duty. The OP did all she could, and should, do.

Like I said, the OP does not know who the Dean knows, and who knows the Dean, that allowed the Dean to get the job. It may seem as if the OP is going after the Dean, but I can assure you that in that line of fire there are more school admins who will be hit.

Also, as much as we honor and respect our greek membership, and as much as it is important to us, as far as a College / University is concerned, other than RM issues, Greek Life is not high on the priority list. A College/University can completely eliminate Greek Life and the school will still operate.

Yes, this Dean is "guilty" of dual NPC-NPHC membership, but that is not going to have any impact on the University obtaining funding. And from the University's perspective obtaining funding is really all that matters. So, since this dual membership has no impact on the University obtaining funding it is really a dead issue as far as the school is concerned.

gee_ess · #9 08-15-2012, 09:21 AM

I totally agree, SigmaDiva ! My post was an attempt to pacify the supporters of both sides of the issue.

sigmadiva · #10 08-15-2012, 09:30 AM

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Originally Posted by gee_ess

I totally agree, SigmaDiva ! My post was an attempt to pacify the supporters of both sides of the issue.

Oh, okay!

AOII_LB93 · #11 08-15-2012, 01:53 PM

So my question is this...what exactly is it that OP wants to accomplish (in general) with this information if she makes a call, contacts an IHQ/NHQ or whatever? Do we want to see this new dean fired?

So OP, what do you want to see happen? I guess that's the part I missed or wasn't answered.

Is it shady? Yes. I would be pissed, but what do you want done about it?

knight_shadow · #12 08-15-2012, 02:02 PM

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Originally Posted by AOII_LB93

So my question is this...what exactly is it that OP wants to accomplish (in general) with this information if she makes a call, contacts an IHQ/NHQ or whatever? Do we want to see this new dean fired?

So OP, what do you want to see happen? I guess that's the part I missed or wasn't answered.

Is it shady? Yes. I would be pissed, but what do you want done about it?

I've been wondering the same thing

gee_ess · #13 08-15-2012, 04:46 PM

Based on how intense the discussion became on this thread, I think the OP wants to forget she brought it up!

Kevin · #14 08-15-2012, 05:01 PM

The intensity of the discussion has more to do with the personalities of GC than the subject itself. We could have a serious heated discussion over Coke vs. Pepsi on GC.

DrPhil · #15 08-15-2012, 06:06 PM

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The intensity of the discussion has more to do with the personalities of GC than the subject itself.

That is not true.

I see nothing "intense" about this discussion. The OP created a sockpuppet so this person knows GC personalities enough to ignore language and tone if necessary. As for the actual topic, some people consider this to be a potentially important issue and some people do not. Simple as that.