Transferring from a small college to a state school. Am I still considered a brother?

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by naraht

Almost? Just curious, which fraternity or sorority don't allow the chapter a vote? For Alpha Phi Omega, I've seen everything from chapters that flat don't allow transferring in to chapters that make sure the potential transfer goes through the chapter history part of the pledge program to those that don't have much more than having the potential transfer introduce themselves at Business meetings...

Not every organization allows chapters a vote. You transfer your membership through NHQ/IHQ and that's that. Whether the chapter likes you and accepts you is a different story but your membership is still officially transferred

[naraht]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Not every organization allows chapters a vote. You transfer your membership through NHQ/IHQ and that's that. Whether the chapter likes you and accepts you is a different story but your membership is still officially transferred

OK. Ug, but OK... Thank you.

[das343]

Such horse****. Who are they to say I'll fit in? Is this high school again? I got bids to 4 different fraternities on my campus, each one with a different stereotype. They included: the rich kids, the bros, animal house/the stoners/football players (FIJI), and the nerds/intellectuals.

If each one of those fraternities thought I could fit in with their fraternity, then I don't see why I can't fit in with the FIJI at my new school.

I never said I don't want to volunteer. I said I don't need to waste my summer proving myself to the chapter at my new school, that's what the school year is for. I'm down to volunteer, I had 150 volunteer hours from last year and helped set up a philanthropy event that raised 1600 dollars.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by das343

Such horse****. Who are they to say I'll fit in? Is this high school again? I got bids to 4 different fraternities on my campus, each one with a different stereotype. They included: the rich kids, the bros, animal house/the stoners/football players (FIJI), and the nerds/intellectuals.

If each one of those fraternities thought I could fit in with their fraternity, then I don't see why I can't fit in with the FIJI at my new school.

I never said I don't want to volunteer. I said I don't need to waste my summer proving myself to the chapter at my new school, that's what the school year is for. I'm down to volunteer, I had 150 volunteer hours from last year and helped set up a philanthropy event that raised 1600 dollars.

QFP.

You are a waste of ritual, letters, and bids.

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

QFP.

You are a waste of ritual, letters, and bids.

Holy shit this is the best insult I've ever heard.

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Holy shit this is the best insult I've ever heard.

snap, snap, snap! and a loud Amen!

[33girl]

Originally Posted by das343

Helping? Volunteering? I did that stuff when I was a brother at my old school, why should I take time out of my summer to help out now just to "prove" myself as a brother??

I'm all for volunteer work and such during the school year and other activities associated with the fraternity, but I don't understand what I have to prove. I went through the same process as every other FIJI and became a brother. What do I have to prove?

Honestly, I'll be insulted if they reject me, because that's not what FIJI is about.

Jackhole, it's not about proving, it's about getting to know brothers who are doing the same thing in a more relaxed atmosphere before the craziness of rush starts up. If you weren't so busy having a giant chip on your shoulder you would know that.

OK, maybe you're right. FIJI should totally revise their policies and allow any brother to reaffiliate anywhere. So let's say they do that. Fine. There is NOTHING they can write down that says the members of your new chapter have to like you, hang out with you outside required events, elect you to office, or live with you. I can't imagine anything more fun than spending the remainder of your college career as "the guy nationals forced on us."

Leave your rotten attitude at the door, contact some of the brothers over the summer via facebook and see if anything is happening where you could make some face to face connections, and hopefully things will work out fine. But they won't work out fine if you keep bellowing "I'm a BROTHER and you should HAVE to make me part of your chapter." I'm hoping this is just you venting and getting your worries out so you can act a little less like a snot-nosed brat when dealing with actual humans.

Originally Posted by jazing

Perhaps at your owl chapter a lot of the pledge process went under the rug (as in you did some stuff you would never tell others) and this new chapter doesn't do that.

I know this is probably a typo but I would love it if AEPhi really did have something called an "owl chapter."

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Holy shit this is the best insult I've ever heard.

Ha. I think it is supposed to be "bids, letters, and ritual." The OP probably does not know the difference.

[IUHoosiergirl88]

I'm going to respond to this sh*tshow only by saying that I may actually know what school this kid is transferring to. Another forum I post on had someone who's transferring from a 'small school' to a state school and asked about transferring membership. I gave him the same response about contacting the chapter and voting him in and he said it was' shallow and lame' and that greek life 'isn't what it's cut out to be after all.' He also capitalized greek life to Greek Life just like this kid did... coincidence? Potentially...but the attitude is horrendous

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by das343

Such horse****. Who are they to say I'll fit in?

The active members of the chapter, just like the active members of the chapter you currently belong to got to decide whether you'd fit in with them or not. Ditto any other chapters that offered you bids.

If each one of those fraternities thought I could fit in with their fraternity, then I don't see why I can't fit in with the FIJI at my new school.

Maybe you will fit in with them, or maybe you won't. But it's their call. And if they say "no," you'll still be a FIJI and still be their brother -- you just won't be a member of their chapter.

It's funny, though, how you keep talking about what brotherhood is about, but when it's suggested you ask how you could start helping and volunteering with the chapter now, you see that as being about wasting your summer and "proving" yourself instead of being about acting like the brother you claim to be. And by funny, I mean sad.

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by das343

Such horse****. Who are they to say I'll fit in? Is this high school again? I got bids to 4 different fraternities on my campus, each one with a different stereotype. They included: the rich kids, the bros, animal house/the stoners/football players (FIJI), and the nerds/intellectuals.

If each one of those fraternities thought I could fit in with their fraternity, then I don't see why I can't fit in with the FIJI at my new school.

I never said I don't want to volunteer. I said I don't need to waste my summer proving myself to the chapter at my new school, that's what the school year is for. I'm down to volunteer, I had 150 volunteer hours from last year and helped set up a philanthropy event that raised 1600 dollars.

That is it... I call BS on this poser. I just can't believe that such a horse's ass is really a fraternity member. I don't believe a REAL brother would have such nasty things to say about his potential new chapter before he has even met them.

Now go away.

[das343]

Wow that's just ignorant. We need less people like you in Greek Life. My brothers would definitely not agree with your statement.

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by das343

Wow that's just ignorant. We need less people like you in Greek Life. My brothers would definitely not agree with your statement.

You better hope the brothers of your new chapter don't say the same about you.

[Greek_or_Geek?]

Originally Posted by das343

Wow that's just ignorant. We need less people like you in Greek Life. My brothers would definitely not agree with your statement.

But the brothers at your new school would.

[Titchou]

Why don't you direct your opinions to your Grand Council or whatever FIJI calls it and request they change their policy and procedures? We can't do anything here but direct you to your own resources (national web site/officers) which you seem not to be able to do on your own.