Rudest PNM You Had to Deal With

[carnation]

Originally Posted by KillarneyRose

I bet the stupid girl was trying to be "a breath of fresh air". She probably hoped the sisters would be all like, "Rushee Pigg really calls it like she sees it; we need people like that at XYZ". Epic fail, anyone?

You've undoubtedly hit that right on the nose!!

[HannahXO]

Somehow I've managed to avoid the rudest of the rude... but I did have one

I am a bio major, and the girl I was bumping was an engineering major- obviously, we're both pretty busy. So I go to bump her, and she tells me, "This is Patty PNM, we were just talking about our majors." This PNM was a math major (I think? something like that) and kept on insisting that her major was too time consuming for sorority life and she was a unique snowflake because only she spent lots of time on her schoolwork and there was no WAY we could understand the position she was in. First of all, why would you start rush if you were really that set against making time for a sorority? And second of all, why on earth would you be the only one with time-consuming classes? It's college, everyone's busy regardless of their major, and the president told you our chapter GPA during the presentation, clearly we are not a group of slackers. Learn some time management!

ETA: PizzaLove, stories like yours make we wish that there was a way to report PNMs that rude to panhellenic so that other groups would be aware of their "other side" and cut them. There are a lot of logistical issues with this, but...if it could work it would be nice.

[ADqtPiMel]

Originally Posted by HannahXO

ETA: PizzaLove, stories like yours make we wish that there was a way to report PNMs that rude to panhellenic so that other groups would be aware of their "other side" and cut them. There are a lot of logistical issues with this, but...if it could work it would be nice.

It's totally possible and happens frequently at the campus where I advise. When PNMs are inexcusably rude, the chapter reports it to the Greek advisor, who posts a note on the front page of ICS (the recruitment software). The chapters can then do with the information what they want.

[BraveMaroon]

We had a legacy who came through - her grandmother was a sister, and this was the last granddaughter, and the only one who had come to a school with a her sorority.

Grandma had sent us a long letter and a collage of pictures of her granddaughter. So we knew everything about this chick.

When our sister greeted her and mentioned we'd heard a lot about her from her grandmother, her reply was:

"My grandmother is crazy, and I am not joining this sorority." Our sister burst into tears.

Our advisors would NOT let us cut her, but it would have been sweet to let the other sororities know about her.

It would have been sweeter to call Grandma and have little snowflake cut out of the will.

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by BraveMaroon

We had a legacy who came through - her grandmother was a sister, and this was the last granddaughter, and the only one who had come to a school with a her sorority.

Grandma had sent us a long letter and a collage of pictures of her granddaughter. So we knew everything about this chick.

When our sister greeted her and mentioned we'd heard a lot about her from her grandmother, her reply was:

"My grandmother is crazy, and I am not joining this sorority." Our sister burst into tears.

Our advisors would NOT let us cut her, but it would have been sweet to let the other sororities know about her.

It would have been sweeter to call Grandma and have little snowflake cut out of the will.

do you know what happened to this little darling?

[AlwaysSAI]

^^^I'd like to know as well.

And, I hope she didn't join SK. Wouldn't have been fair to the chapter.

[Shellfish]

When I was an advisor, my girls told me about a PNM who took a bite from a cookie (we served food at every party back in the day) and said, "Ew! This has animal fat in it!" Then she threw the partially eaten cookie back on the tray.

It was routine for the chapter president to say a few words to everyone at the end of a party, and I remember that some PNMs would continue to chat among themselves while she was speaking.

The rudeness that still bugs me, though, was from some other advisors. We were still doing bid matching by hand, so one night I went to the Greek office promptly after the pref party, still in my Laura Ashley dress and pearls. We were waiting around for all the advisors and bid lists, so I tried to break the ice with some new advisors from one sorority. They were wearing embellished sweatsuits, which, er, weren't my thing, but I did say, "You look like you'll be comfortable for the long night ahead," to which one of them snapped, "That's because we dressed properly." Then they went back to talking to each other. Pretty nice, especially considering that for years before that, that sorority never had anyone present for bid matching, so an extra alum or national visitor from KD had occasionally handled their list.

[ASUADPi]

Originally Posted by Shellfish

The rudeness that still bugs me, though, was from some other advisors. We were still doing bid matching by hand, so one night I went to the Greek office promptly after the pref party, still in my Laura Ashley dress and pearls. We were waiting around for all the advisors and bid lists, so I tried to break the ice with some new advisors from one sorority. They were wearing embellished sweatsuits, which, er, weren't my thing, but I did say, "You look like you'll be comfortable for the long night ahead," to which one of them snapped, "That's because we dressed properly." Then they went back to talking to each other. Pretty nice, especially considering that for years before that, that sorority never had anyone present for bid matching, so an extra alum or national visitor from KD had occasionally handled their list.

[mini hijack]

I guess I don't get that (behavior). From my viewpoint, yes we may be in different houses but 1. we are all greek and 2. we are all NPC sisters together. While we were all founded at different times and schools, I believe that overall the underlying principals of our respective sororities are generally the same.

I had friends in high school and as soon as we started college and went different houses it was like we couldn't be friends anymore, which I thought (and still think) is kind of lame.

[end mini hijack]

back to the regularly scheduled thread

[ellebud]

On the other side: When I was doing recruitment, during the FIRST era of mini skirts (but a few years after "hours" were abolished) I was doing recruitment for AEPhi. As I mentioned, Jews went AEPhi and all others went elsewhere. (ok, we had two or three exceptions).

A girl came through, blue chip all the way. (I still remember her name btw.) We had a wonderful conversation. We "knew" that she would never accept an invitation back...but she did. She kept us until Prefs when pressure got to her.

She was upfront in the end. She was being pressured by friends and family to go to a different house and to not be a ground breaker. But she loved us and wanted us to know that she wasn't dipping in the Jewish pond for s**** and giggles.

No matter what she was lovely and elegant and only eighteen. And she had class, spoke honestly and, she was truly the perfect ten: and never said a mean word tp anyone at any house.

[sdtennisgal]

OK, this girl wasn't the rudest, per se, but a bit too candid. As a junior, I ended up talking to a girl from a smaller town in our state that was known for being a bit...redneck. She was extremely pretty (spitting image of Jessica the Baby Vampire in True Blood), had a great smile, quick witted, and was initially very charming, albeit dressed a little to casually. We started talking about majors, and it came out that she was interested in architecture/design. My fault for asking, but I said, "Well, how do you like the layout of our house?" I immediately heard how awful our green carpet was (...I was not a fan either, to tell the truth) then she started telling me how well two other sorority houses were laid out compared to ours. As I was the last girl she talked to at the party, no one else heard the conversation and I did not raise it. She did not get invited back to our house, but she joined another house (which had recently reorganized, and was considered "up and coming"). I ended up sitting at the same table as her and her date at a fraternity dance the following spring and we ended up talking quite a bit (our dates were both tools and were too busy "bromancing" graduating brothers), and she ended up apologizing in retrospect and explained she was just nervous, which I understood. I ran into her a couple more times on campus (she was an officer in her chapter her sophomore year) and she was always quite friendly.

[txAOII_15]

i had a girl last spring that asked everyone in my bumping group what their parents did for a living and where they vacationed. i heard from the other bumpers in my group that she had refused to talk to them - the only reason she talked to me was because i told her that my dad was a retired lawyer which was fine with her until she pressed for more info and i mentioned that he had done a lot of pro bono work during his career tied to the chicano rights movement. she did wind up getting a bid form another group though

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by txAOII_15

i had a girl last spring that asked everyone in my bumping group what their parents did for a living and where they vacationed. i heard from the other bumpers in my group that she had refused to talk to them - the only reason she talked to me was because i told her that my dad was a retired lawyer which was fine with her until she pressed for more info and i mentioned that he had done a lot of pro bono work during his career tied to the it

Weirdly, it was VERY common for both the PNMs and the Sisters to ask these type of questions, albeit very candidly, during (rush) when I was an active. One of my best friends from another chapter was cut from her legacy chapter - where her grandmother had been a founder, and both aunts & her mother were sisters - because she hadn't been to Europe yet! Worse, they TOLD her grandmother the reason! But it all worked out well, as she became an ADPi!

Similarly, the worst PNM I can remember dropped the F-bomb during a party. So many sisters were so upset that, even though she got a bid, our chapter was torn in half over her - and she never did get initiated!

So, if you think Recruitment is tough now, it used to be even more restrictive!

[KillarneyRose]

Originally Posted by honeychile

One of my best friends from another chapter was cut from her legacy chapter - where her grandmother had been a founder, and both aunts & her mother were sisters - because she hadn't been to Europe yet! Worse, they TOLD her grandmother the reason! But it all worked out well, as she became an ADPi!

That had to be the 9th floor sorority! Believe me, if the 2nd floor sorority cared about stuff like that I wouldn't have made it past the first round! lol

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by KillarneyRose

That had to be the 9th floor sorority! Believe me, if the 2nd floor sorority cared about stuff like that I wouldn't have made it past the first round! lol

It happened at WVU, at a sorority not at Pitt. Although, we DID have three 9th floor legacies!

[ThetaPrincess24]

We had one this year that texted during the entire time she was there. She ended up dropping out of recruitment. Rumor has it she had her heart set on one chapter and was even rude to the Gamma Chi's.