I could really use some advice! - Page 2

FSUZeta · #16 06-01-2011, 01:33 PM

ZTA does not have a legacy intro. form., but if we did, I would have filled out a legacy form and a rec.,if they provided different info. about the pnm. The legacy forms I have seen from friends sororities ask different information than the recommendation form does.

honeychile · #17 06-01-2011, 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

ZTA does not have a legacy intro. form., but if we did, I would have filled out a legacy form and a rec.,if they provided different info. about the pnm. The legacy forms I have seen from friends sororities ask different information than the recommendation form does.

Definitely. The mother fills out the legacy form, and can fill out a rec, too. It would be even better if another alumna fills out the rec. Of course, that's if your sorority uses a Legacy Form.

AnchorAlumna · #18 06-01-2011, 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by pam713

Think church appropriate.

Sadly (I think, anyway) lots and lots of people have no idea what this means.

honeychile · #19 06-01-2011, 02:30 PM

^ Sadly, I agree. But these are women who are supposedly intelligent enough to get into a college. Surely they could ask someone who knows what "church appropriate" means. A teacher, for example, would know.

33girl · #20 06-01-2011, 07:14 PM

The phrase "church appropriate/worship service appropriate" regarding rush clothes needs to die in a fire for multiple reasons.

1. The PC reason - many people have never or very rarely been to a worship service of any kind and have no clue what you would wear to one. Using this phraseology makes rushees uncomfortable.

2. The practical reason #1 - "church appropriate" is different everywhere. In some churches, the majority of the congregants wear suits and dresses to work on a daily basis and this is the one day they don't have to do it. They look at suits as "everyday" and not church wear. They wear nice polos and khakis, but obviously those don't work for pref parties.

3. Practical reason #2 - "God doesn't care what you wear" has gotten interpreted by "It's OK to go to church in the jeans you wore to milk the cow in." I honestly would be ashamed to go through the Taco Bell drive thru in some of the things I see, let alone to church. Don't get me started on the teenage girls whose parents obviously think it's ok for their daughter's tits to be hanging onto the communion rail.

I would never, EVER tell someone nowadays to wear "church attire" unless we were from the same congregation and I knew what I was talking about.

wayoutwest · #21 06-01-2011, 11:00 PM

Seriously you all, this is so helpful (: I feel so much better now!

FSUZeta · #22 06-03-2011, 08:39 AM

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Originally Posted by HQWest

If you do happen to come on down south for recruitment -
Remember to keep an open mind and HAVE FUN during recruitment. No matter where you are from, you might find a chapter with a couple of girls from your neck of the woods, and its always fun to have a friend when you go home for break.
Plus, membership is for a lifetime - so if you are feeling torn - it might help to look at chapters that are also big back home.

Please excuse me for being contrary, but I think it is much more important to join a chapter that you feel comfortable with, whether said sorority has a huge presence back home or not. You are spending 4 years living with these women and you have to be happy and be invested in the group.

You will find alumnae chapters all over the country, and if there is no alumnae chapter of your sorority where you settle, you can start one or join the alumnae panhellenic chapter there.

AOII Angel · #23 06-03-2011, 10:34 AM

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

Please excuse me for being contrary, but I think it is much more important to join a chapter that you feel comfortable with, whether said sorority has a huge presence back home or not. You are spending 4 years living with these women and you have to be happy and be invested in the group.

You will find alumnae chapters all over the country, and if there is no alumnae chapter of your sorority where you settle, you can start one or join the alumnae panhellenic chapter there.

Ditto. What is big in your home area may not even be offered at your university. I think that is poor advice. If you are thinking maybe you'd transfer home and join a chapter, remember that many sororities don't automatically allow this.

33girl · #24 06-03-2011, 12:21 PM

I agree. That is flamingly terrible advice. The "girls from her neck of the woods" might be people she has nothing in common with. As far as joining ABC because ABC has lots of alum chapters back home, maybe 1) she never intends to live back in her hometown and 2) the alums in her hometown might all be from the same college chapter and she wouldn't feel as comfy as she could there.