Auburn University Recruitment - Fall 2010 - Page 4

aumom2010 · #1 08-09-2010, 09:21 AM

Thanks for the encouraging posts and advice. After the first month I figure we will know more about whether it will be a situation she can live with, or if we should seek a change.

I'm just hoping that rush will be a positive experience and give her lots of new friends.(Thus taking her mind off roommate troubles.) I'll report back later today with her 2nd day impressions.

ree-Xi · #2 08-09-2010, 03:50 PM

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Originally Posted by aumom2010

Thanks for the encouraging posts and advice. After the first month I figure we will know more about whether it will be a situation she can live with, or if we should seek a change.

I'm just hoping that rush will be a positive experience and give her lots of new friends.(Thus taking her mind off roommate troubles.) I'll report back later today with her 2nd day impressions.

/hijack/
Over time, my first roommate and I did not get along for various reasons, but the one major problem is that she smoked - a lot - and I have lung problems. She refused to go outside or into someone else's room, and she smoked more than just cigarettes. (Only one dorm at the time was non-smoking, the one that had had a fire the year before.) I didn't realize her smoking habits until we'd already been there for a few weeks, and roommate changes were not allowed after I think the first week.

I think that your daughter should talk to her RA sooner rather than later to find out what her options are, and then to have a frank discussion with the roommate to see if some agreements can be made in certain areas. If they can't come to a compromise, then she can exercise her choice to change (if allowed). Or, perhaps they can try this semester and if things don't work out, change next semester. One thing to remember is that sometimes, we are stuck with people that we just don't get along with. It's a learning experience.

/end hijack/

Bamamom13 · #3 08-09-2010, 04:34 PM

My husband worked in Residence Life for many years. They will not do anything immediately. Not all of the students have moved in yet. They will wait for that to happen and then for the dust to settle to figure out where the openings are and then assess all of the move changes that have been requested. All she can do right now is put in for a room change and then wait.

sweetmagnolia · #4 08-09-2010, 05:07 PM

Thanks for making this thread, AuburnDad. For those of us who are counting down the days until recruitment starts, it's very helpful/exciting to hear about your daughter's!

pam713 · #5 08-09-2010, 05:19 PM

AuburnDad, so glad that things are off to a good start with your daughter!

AUMom2010, last year my daughter had similar problems with her suitemates at Auburn. The girls were only sharing a bathroom, but my daughter and her roommate felt like they shouldn't have to also share that bathroom with a host of random guys (especially when suitemate and guy were sharing the shower together.) Smoking is a huge offense in the dorms, but other than that, the RA may not be very helpful. (She certainly wasn't in my daughter's case.) I would certainly encourage your daughter to try and switch roommates, rooms or even dorms if she feels like she can't live with this girl. She may have to be a "squeaky wheel" to get anywhere, though.

aumom2010 · #6 08-09-2010, 07:01 PM

I have counseled my daughter to try to get along with her roommate and wait till the end of the month, and to try to work out compromises.

As far as recruitment goes, "Cassie" said that today went fine, although she did end up putting 4 of the 7 groups she visited today on her cut list. She felt she had presented herself well in all the groups. She had only one instance of "awkward silence" and that was because her host kept looking away and cutting her eyes over to someone else as if she wanted to get away. She also said that her roommate and several other girls she talked to said that they had lots of awkward moments. She has at least 7 or 8 groups where she feels she could be happy.

We are new to everything Greek, but I am wondering if we have been kidding ourselves about the amount of partying and drinking that goes on in sororities. Almost everyone in her Pi Chi group cut one group because they thought they would not party enough, and that group was one of my daughter's top five.

My belief going into this was that all sororities have some party girls and some girls who drink very little if any, and don't sleep around. Am I wrong?

I will be curious to hear from Auburn dad and get "Emma's" take on the first round.

aumom2010 · #7 08-09-2010, 07:12 PM

Since Auburndad has baseball teams, I thought i would go with ice cream flavors.

Her top 12

Cake batter
pralines and pecan
vanilla
chocolate
peach
strawberry
cookies and cream
mint chocolate chip
butter pecan
chocolate almond
chunky monkey
cookie dough

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cookies and cream
rocky road
fudge ripple
jamoca
pistachio

carnation · #8 08-09-2010, 07:18 PM

aumom, the girls in the Pi Chi group may think they 'cut' that group but it may well show up on their schedules tomorrow because they too will be cut!

But...yes, the groups have a mixture of partiers and more serious girls. Of my 6 Greek daughters, 3 were the 'designated drivers' and that was fine by them. All of Auburn's groups are so big now that there's a huge range of personalities in each one!

Katmandu · #9 08-09-2010, 07:48 PM

aumom,

I have two sons in college and recently served as an advisor. I won't lie, there is a lot of partying in college these days. There was a lot of partying in my day, too. The difference is that we were typically partying with 3.2 beer (legal at 18) and many of the girls today party with hard liquor(legally or illegally obtained). Back in the day, we spent a lot of time in line for the one bathroom in the bar, drastically cutting down on the actual amount of weak beer that we consumed. Current drinkers spend a lot of time knocking back strong, sweet, candy like drinks. Of course this is a generalization, but it's what I have experienced.

The sororities will have a huge mixture of women--ranging from extremely conservative and religious to wild child, and everything in between. She would be able to find kindred spirits in all of the chapters.

Regarding the roommate, some of that could be shocktalk. If your daughter is a straignt arrow, and has made that clear verbally or non-verbally, the roomie could be exagerating for effect. Maybe it was a conversation that simply went south. Hopefully she isn't as wild as she said. If so, maybe she won't be in college long....At any rate, your daughter will spend most of her time with her new sisters. Yea!! Best of Luck to her and all the AU PNMs!!

FSUZeta · #10 08-09-2010, 07:11 PM

there will be partiers and non-partiers in all the sororities. sounds like girls are listening to "tent talk"(gossip) to me.

MerryGPhiB · #11 08-09-2010, 07:35 PM

Auburn Dad... so glad the Giants are in it ( and the Cubbies too)! And glad Emma had a good day!

Au Mom I agree with carnation, my daughter went to a school that is considered a " 'party school" and she is not a drinker. She too was a DD for events, she got along just fine, in fact she ended up as the chapter President.

I'm excited to see what houses both ladies get back tomorrow.

AUMOMMY · #12 08-09-2010, 07:50 PM

My daughter too said there are partiers and non partiers in each group. I hope that she didn't just meet the partiers. Most of the sororities have a list of campus groups their girls belong to, most vary widely. She might want to review those sites.

33girl · #13 08-09-2010, 08:42 PM

aumom2010 - I agree with Katmandu that the roomie might just be trying to pull your daughter's chain. Unless she drinks, smokes and boinks in their room, it would probably be a good learning experience to stick it out. If she's in a sorority she's going to encounter all types of people and better to deal with it in this situation than with a sister a year or two down the road. Plus, sometimes it's easier to be roommates with someone you're NOT best friends with.

And yes, in any group as large as the sororities at Auburn (or any SEC school for that matter) there is going to be everything from soup to nuts as far as partying is concerned. Just tell your daughter not to listen to the gossip and to go where she feels comfortable.

kchaptergphib · #14 08-09-2010, 11:28 PM

HOOOOOOLY COWW! GO CUBS GO!

Thanks so much to AUMom2010 & AuburnDad for these tidbits & updates. So many of us are such recruitment nerds and can't get enough of this

I'm glad both seem to be keeping good attitudes and wish them continued luck. As cuts come, remember that they do get to go back to some amazing chapters and could click more on a second, third visit.
Again, best of luck!

southbymidwest · #15 08-09-2010, 10:25 PM

Totally agree with katmandu and 33girl. But aren't most dorms these days non-smoking? I know, I know, the smoke still clings to hair, skin and clothes, and stinks up the dorm room. Yuck.

I will also say that I knew a decent number of girls who lived "sheltered" lives before they went off to the big school (but not all, obviously), who, after a few weeks, decided to let their wild child out, because they could. They proceeded to drink anyone under the table with that bleacchy 3.2 beer, and while they were under that table, screw anyone under there too. Then there were the girls who found a boyfriend after 2 weeks and always had the joker in the room. This was 30 years (oh God no, it can't be!) ago. Some things never change. She will figure it out. But like everyone said, it wouldn't hurt for HER to talk to the RA soon to find out what her options would be, and any deadlines, just in case she finds that she is in an untenable situation with her roommate.