Insincere/rehearsed comments?

[ree-Xi]

As for their comments being insincere, I think you find such statements in any social situation. Say you're at a party where you know maybe one or two people. You might meet a bunch of new people, some who maybe you didn't click with, or might not run in the same circles with. When parting, what do people say? "Nice to meet you!" "Hope to see you again!"

I would rather have girls be polite to me than glare at me and roll their eyes because we didn't click, or say "BUH-bye". I'm sorry that you feel slighted, but you have only a few choices when saying goodbye to a lot of people you just met. It's so important not to read into anything, no matter what situation you are in, whether it's recruitment, a job interview, or audition.

Lastly, there could be sisters who sincerely want to see you again. Every group has their own membership selection practices, so there could be a contingent of girls who did want you to come back. There are so many variables.

[skylar27]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

As for their comments being insincere, I think you find such statements in any social situation. Say you're at a party where you know maybe one or two people. You might meet a bunch of new people, some who maybe you didn't click with, or might not run in the same circles with. When parting, what do people say? "Nice to meet you!" "Hope to see you again!"

I would rather have girls be polite to me than glare at me and roll their eyes because we didn't click, or say "BUH-bye". I'm sorry that you feel slighted, but you have only a few choices when saying goodbye to a lot of people you just met. It's so important not to read into anything, no matter what situation you are in, whether it's recruitment, a job interview, or audition.

Lastly, there could be sisters who sincerely want to see you again. Every group has their own membership selection practices, so there could be a contingent of girls who did want you to come back. There are so many variables.

I didn't say I felt slighted. I was wondering whether this is a rehearsed thing sisters usually say this to girls who get released or they actually might be interested in me. Oh I also don't know if it makes a difference but I went to the informal recruitments and didn't go to formal at all. On the other hand I'm going to be a junior. However my school is not that big on greek life, the biggest chapter probably has only 80 girls.

About feeling awkward, they were the ones who approached me afterward I didn't go up to them. I actually felt awkward. lol


EDITED: to clear it up informal for the sororities at my school happens during different times so I was able to go check them out. I also went not knowing a clue what was happening (just to check it out) but ended up loving it toward the end. I do think that made a difference between me and the other girls who hardcore wanted it and had letters of recs and knew a lot of the girls already.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by skylar27

I didn't say I felt slighted. I was wondering whether this is a rehearsed thing sisters usually say this to girls who get released or they actually might be interested in me. Oh I also don't know if it makes a difference but I went to the informal recruitments and didn't go to formal at all. On the other hand I'm going to be a junior. However my school is not that big on greek life, the biggest chapter probably has only 80 girls.

About feeling awkward, they were the ones who approached me afterward I didn't go up to them. I actually felt awkward. lol


EDITED: to clear it up informal for the sororities at my school happens during different times so I was able to go check them out. I also went not knowing a clue what was happening (just to check it out) but ended up loving it toward the end. I do think that made a difference between me and the other girls who hardcore wanted it and had letters of recs and knew a lot of the girls already.

Ok, you're coming across as a bit defensive. People are offering supporting information because, like any social situation, things are NOT always as cut and dry. When decisions have to be made based on numbers, there will always be people who don't make the cut. Heck, many people have to pick and who who they can invite to their wedding (depending on their budget).

It sucks not to be invited to something you want to be part of. Again, I look at such comments in two ways: some people can be sincere and really mean it, and others are trying to be polite. I'm sorry that you can't understand what people are telling you.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by skylar27

EDITED: to clear it up informal for the sororities at my school happens during different times so I was able to go check them out. I also went not knowing a clue what was happening (just to check it out) but ended up loving it toward the end. I do think that made a difference between me and the other girls who hardcore wanted it and had letters of recs and knew a lot of the girls already.

If you do choose to go through recruitment again, you have the power of information now. Perhaps, knowing more about what to expect, you can do things like get recs, work on conversation skills, or whatever it is you might be able to improve upon (not knowing your campus culture or you personally). If you have made friends with active members for the sake of friendship, let them know that you plan to go through again (if it's not silence period yet).