Facing Reality

IrishLake · #1 05-01-2010, 12:48 AM

are you in college and greek? if you are in college, but not greek...and if i were in your shoes, i would go through recruitment with her, and not sign a preference card (if you both would make it that far). just so she has someone who is right there with her (if she's emotionally fragile). you wouldnt be expecting a bid, and wouldnt be hurt if you didnt get one.

tell her if she does decide to go through, she needs to get her letters of rec submitted now, and get lots of them. alumni, active members, etc. and then tell her that as a senior, she only has a very slim chance of going anywhere. but it might be worth it just to meet new friends, both those who are greek, and those who are rushing. sometimes, seniors wont count towards quota, so anything is possible.

33girl · #2 05-01-2010, 02:13 AM

I wouldn't go through rush w/her if you aren't truly interested...that can backfire in the worst of ways, as in the sororities liking you and not her. It sounds like a bad Family Ties episode, but it really does happen.

She wants to "rewind" and forget all the crap that happened to her in the past, and she thinks joining a sorority will enable her to do this and start afresh. THIS ISN'T GOING TO HAPPEN. Even if she gets a bid - she is never going to be that 18 year old girl again. I would encourage her to get counseling at the campus center. If she does that and still wants to rush, support her, but don't sugar coat it. It will not help her.

aopirose · #3 05-01-2010, 09:41 AM

That ship has already sailed for your friend. The best you can do is to encourage her to look elsewhere. If she still wants to go through, you can't stop her. She just needs to be prepared for any disappointment.

Ggirl617 · #4 05-01-2010, 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by IrishLake

are you in college and greek? if you are in college, but not greek...and if i were in your shoes, i would go through recruitment with her, and not sign a preference card (if you both would make it that far). just so she has someone who is right there with her (if she's emotionally fragile). you wouldnt be expecting a bid, and wouldnt be hurt if you didnt get one.

Can I suggest NOT doing this? If you are interested in recruitment for your own reasons, by all means go through. However, if you're not, you're taking 1 spot away from a girl who would love to attend preference at a chapter, and might not get to, if they give the invitation to you.

KSUViolet06 · #5 05-01-2010, 08:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Ggirl617

Can I suggest NOT doing this? If you are interested in recruitment for your own reasons, by all means go through. However, if you're not, you're taking 1 spot away from a girl who would love to attend preference at a chapter, and might not get to, if they give the invitation to you.

This.

Also, how would she be supporting her friend anyway? It's not like they'd be going to the same parties, in the same recruitment group, etc. I can see if both are interested in sorority life, but this is not the best idea if you don't actually want to join.