American Torry-Ann Hansen SENDS BACK Adopted Russian Son Artem

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

Why aren't we adopting kids in the US?

That's what I said when I first hear this (though I admit it's not the point). Thanks, at least I know I'm not alone on that one.

This is disgusting. You can't just return a little boy like he's a purse or a lawnmower. I question the mental stability of two people who could put a child on a plane to Russia with no one to care for him on the other end. If he was really that bad, why not take him to a psychiatric facility to be evaluated and his behavior somewhat stabilized while they contact the agency and figure out what to do? I've always thought poorly of parents who use psych hospitals as dumping grounds for kids they don't know what to do with but given the alternative....GOOD LORD WHAT WERE THEY THINKING? Even if it was more than you bargained for, even if there were things the agency didn't disclose, even if you just flat out didn't know what to do...there were a number of better, safer, saner options.

[AOII Angel]

Carnation,
Best of luck with your next adoption. I think (even as a proud non-parent) that the key to parenting is realizing that every child is different. I get the impression that you and your husband would not be disappointed if your next child was not able to achieve as much as your other children in the world of academics. We all have our own gifts, even if they aren't all academic.

[PiKA2001]

This thread makes me think of the movie Orphan. I'm sorry, but I don't blame her for sending him on his way if he was a little Jeffrey Dahmer in the making.

[carnation]

Thought-provoking article on wrongful adoption:

http://www.salon.com/life/broadsheet...boy/index.html

[BabyPiNK_FL]

I think it's great. It probably keeps countless children out of the system. It's sad that there are so many more. They have a weekly feature on a local news station (not the aforementioned one). It's called Forever Family, the kids are almost always non-mixed black children with siblings or a developmental issue. They interview the child and they get a chance to talk about what they want to do with their lives and who they are as a person and how badly they want a family. The news reporter always says what type of home they would ideally like to place the children in as well. It breaks my heart and I never hear any follow up as to whether they have found a home (although I am not sure if they are allowed to say).

[christiangirl]

I have a sponsor child in Honduras. Everytime I get a letter or card from him (and for weeks afterward), I wish I were in a place in life where I could take him out of that orphanage and adopt him. I don't care about the cultural differences, he is such a beautiful little boy and so smart and sweet. If he wanted to come, I'd take him.

I've always wanted to adopt an older child and I know that the child I get may very well have developmental or mental issues. The child I give birth to may have those issues, though. I certainly wouldn't send him back like he's a piece of defective merchandise. There are better ways to handle that, period.