Wedding etiquette - Page 4

honeychile · #1 03-31-2010, 01:01 PM

^^I sent a VERY nice wedding gift to a couple three years ago (I know the groom via soccer). Never got a thank you note, had to ask if they received it (I used a registry), and they're now divorced due to the bride having several affairs. I think that's the Tacky Trifecta.

Munchkin03 · #2 03-31-2010, 01:34 PM

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^^I sent a VERY nice wedding gift to a couple three years ago (I know the groom via soccer). Never got a thank you note, had to ask if they received it (I used a registry), and they're now divorced due to the bride having several affairs. I think that's the Tacky Trifecta.

Sometimes I think there's a correlation between how tacky your wedding is and how doomed your actual marriage is. I know that's kind of mean and not at all true. But sometimes it IS true!

LucyKKG · #3 03-28-2010, 09:21 PM

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This deserves to be on here http://www.etiquettehell.com/

Omg this site has some real gems! I've been reading it for a while now...

FSUZeta · #4 03-29-2010, 01:25 PM

ree-thanks so much for going to this wedding. i needed a good laugh! hopefully you took photos?

KSUViolet06 · #5 03-30-2010, 09:13 PM

Speaking of poor etiquette, my mom's friend just received a wedding invitation in which the RSVP card lists the prices of the meals next next to the meal choices.

jdrama · #6 03-30-2010, 09:14 PM

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Speaking of poor etiquette, my mom's friend just received a wedding invitation in which the RSVP card lists the prices of the meals next next to the meal choices.

Tell her to NOT go lol! That's tacky!

honeychile · #7 03-30-2010, 10:16 PM

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Speaking of poor etiquette, my mom's friend just received a wedding invitation in which the RSVP card lists the prices of the meals next next to the meal choices.

Ten will get you twenty that there's a cash bar, too!

If I absolutely "had to" attend this wedding, I think I'd ask how much the kiddie portions cost, or that we'll skip the meals.

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I think I would've tripped the kid...

I can be very strict about wild children. My favorite method is to put a hand on each shoulder and to tell the wayward child to "quit embarrassing your family and go sit down." It's never failed - although parents usually shoot me a few nasty looks.

KSUViolet06 · #8 03-30-2010, 10:53 PM

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Ten will get you twenty that there's a cash bar, too!

If I absolutely "had to" attend this wedding, I think I'd ask how much the kiddie portions cost, or that we'll skip the meals.

There probably is a cash bar.

I actually don't know if the price listing meant that they have to pay for the meal, or if it was done in a "this is how much your meal costs, so this is how much our gift should be" kind of way.

Either is ubertacky.

Gusteau · #9 03-30-2010, 11:10 PM

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I actually don't know if the price listing meant that they have to pay for the meal, or if it was done in a "this is how much your meal costs, so this is how much our gift should be" kind of way.

When I read you first post I thought it was more of an "order the chicken, or else" tactic than a pay for your meal thing. If its the latter, my only response is

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When my cousin got married - it lasted for a hot minute - all of "the Aunts" boycotted the wedding, which was a pretty significant statement of their disapproval. The marriage's two month lifetime pretty much goes to show that the Aunts are always right.

For non-Italian-Americans (because I'm not sure if this happens in other backgrounds): The Aunts, being my great aunts, are the ultimate judges of family social etiquette. There are usually a large number of them (because your grandparents undoubtedly have 10+ siblings) who hold court at family gatherings and look out to judge and catalog missteps on the part of hosts and guests. If they boycott an event it kind of equates to Soviet countries boycotting US Olympic Games - the message is clear. At least one of the is probably named Chickie.

honeychile · #10 03-30-2010, 11:13 PM

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There probably is a cash bar.

I actually don't know if the price listing meant that they have to pay for the meal, or if it was done in a "this is how much your meal costs, so this is how much our gift should be" kind of way.

Either is ubertacky.

I'm sure it's basically a price tag for how much you "owe" the couple as a wedding gift - but if it's that tacky, I'd put it in a bond that they can't touch within 10 years. It'll give them something else to argue about during the divorce proceedings.

When I was a divorce counselor, I heard more people than I care to mention talk about "we spent $100 a head on this wedding and your family only gave us $50 each!" TACKY!!!!!

sceniczip · #11 03-30-2010, 11:14 PM

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Speaking of poor etiquette, my mom's friend just received a wedding invitation in which the RSVP card lists the prices of the meals next next to the meal choices.

I feel like this goes beyond tacky and into some realm that I was unaware existed until right now.

jdrama · #12 03-30-2010, 09:13 PM

I think I would've tripped the kid...

starang21 · #13 03-30-2010, 10:25 PM

i think it's called a wishing well.

everyone can use money. particularly if you're starting a life together.

starang21 · #14 03-30-2010, 10:27 PM

ok, well maybe in not in this instance, lol.

KSUViolet06 · #15 03-31-2010, 02:01 PM

I've seen plenty of couples do what Munchkin described and have a white bar.

I've also seen couples have an open bar with the couples' signature cocktail and like 3 other drinks.

There's nothing worse than going to a wedding, ordering a drink, handing the bartender a tip and having him say "that'll be $7.00" because the bar is cash and you had no idea (because invites don't indicate that there's a cash bar and you always assume that it's open). Ewww.