How do you deal with REJECTMENT

[Still BLUTANG]

seriously,

your sisters might think you're great but wanted to give someone else (even an unidentified person) a chance to do the job. this doesn't mean they're not confident in your abilities, but that maybe they wanted to offer an opportunity for growth & development to someone else.

Are you involved in a lot of other activities? maybe they thought you wouldn't have time to devote the necessary attention to this position. as previous posters have said, get involved on a committee - but learn to lay back and let someone else lead.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

D'oh! agzg stole mine!

Birds of a feather, and all that? (Or in this case, featheryer?)

[epchick]

You all are being so mean to the OP, maybe you just misunderestimated her!

[KSUViolet06]

Rarely is the question asked "is our children learning?"

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Rarely is the question asked "is our children learning?"

I think they is.

[southbymidwest]

They may still see you as a valued member, just not in that position. Buck up, put your big girl panties on, don't whine or moan or be witchy to the girl that did get the position. And don't bug your sisters asking why you didn't get it. It doesn't matter anymore, it is done. Be gracious. Move on to other opportunities.

[Zillini]

I've seen many officer elections over the years and can honestly say that the most qualified candidates don't always get elected. Some of the reasons I've seen:

- Candidate was already active in a ton of campus orgs, clubs, challenging course load/major, had a job, etc. Chapter members wanted someone with more time to dedicate to their org.

- Candidates experience was primarily external, meaning on campus orgs/clubs. Chapter members wanted someone who was active, committed, and proven herself within the Chapter. In addition, members may not know about someone's external experiences while they know exactly who always shows up at the house for work.

- Chapter members voted for who was more popular instead of who was more qualified. These are 18-21 year olds and they don't always see the big picture.

- Candidate knows she's the most qualified and got cocky. Chapter members thought electing her would fuel her ego and she needed to be taken down a notch.

- (How shall I put this delicately?) Chapter members voted for a less qualified candidate who was more "polished and personable". After all the Pres is also the official public face of the Chapter.

[thetygerlily]

Originally Posted by Zillini

I've seen many officer elections over the years and can honestly say that the most qualified candidates don't always get elected. Some of the reasons I've seen:

- Candidate was already active in a ton of campus orgs, clubs, challenging course load/major, had a job, etc. Chapter members wanted someone with more time to dedicate to their org.

- Candidates experience was primarily external, meaning on campus orgs/clubs. Chapter members wanted someone who was active, committed, and proven herself within the Chapter. In addition, members may not know about someone's external experiences while they know exactly who always shows up at the house for work.

- Chapter members voted for who was more popular instead of who was more qualified. These are 18-21 year olds and they don't always see the big picture.

- Candidate knows she's the most qualified and got cocky. Chapter members thought electing her would fuel her ego and she needed to be taken down a notch.

- (How shall I put this delicately?) Chapter members voted for a less qualified candidate who was more "polished and personable". After all the Pres is also the official public face of the Chapter.

Zillini makes some great points. And sometimes, like with membership selection/recruitment, the chapter/nominating committee/etc sees a piece of the picture that you don't. A couple years in, I was slated for a position and when they called me, I literally asked "Really? Are you sure?" I was completely surprised, it wasn't something I expressed interest in, and I wasn't sure it was right for me. But utlimately they were right and it was my favorite role as an officer.

Perhaps the chapter saw something in someone else that you or maybe even she didn't know was there. Or maybe it came down to involvement (too much or too little, internal or external) or popularity. We really can't know. The best thing to do, assuming you still want to stay involved, is try to let it pass and give your all to whatever comes next. Good luck to you!

[Ghostwriter]

I just went into a "funkitation" and then transferred to a different school. That will teach them to not elect me VP!!!

[MaggieXi]

Back in the day (I can't believe I graduated 10 years ago) we had a huge problem with cliques in our chapter. I will admit that the girls at that time that were part of the executive board were all part of the same clique and would slate other girls of the same clique into the positions for the following year even though there may have been members that were more qualified.

[LucyKKG]

Originally Posted by thetygerlily

Zillini makes some great points. And sometimes, like with membership selection/recruitment, the chapter/nominating committee/etc sees a piece of the picture that you don't. A couple years in, I was slated for a position and when they called me, I literally asked "Really? Are you sure?" I was completely surprised, it wasn't something I expressed interest in, and I wasn't sure it was right for me. But utlimately they were right and it was my favorite role as an officer.

That's what happened when I was slated for marshal. We were a brand new chapter (just colonized), so I was pretty offended to be nominated for that and had no idea what it was. I thought I would be slated for VP of something, but I ended up LOVING being the marshal.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by LucyKKG

That's what happened when I was slated for marshal. We were a brand new chapter (just colonized), so I was pretty offended to be nominated for that and had no idea what it was. I thought I would be slated for VP of something, but I ended up LOVING being the marshal.

Boo to you for the seriousity of you responsitness.

[moe.ron]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Boo to you for the seriousity of you responsitness.

Seriusli

[LucyKKG]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Boo to you for the seriousity of you responsitness.

Irregardless, at least I acknowledged the goof in my first post.


OMG my freaking spell check didn't underline that! Oh the humanity!

[southbymidwest]

I believe the technical term for clique issues is "cliquetationism".