In-law venting thread - Page 13

Munchkin03 · #1 11-04-2011, 02:51 PM

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Originally Posted by ellebud

So...my (probable) future dil called last night. She wants to go shopping with me...and the girls, if possible. (!) We are going Sunday. Why? To quote her, "I like your taste. You find nice clothes and you see possibilities in stuff."

That's really sweet.

southbymidwest · #2 11-05-2011, 03:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ellebud

So...my (probable) future dil called last night. She wants to go shopping with me...and the girls, if possible. (!) We are going Sunday. Why? To quote her, "I like your taste. You find nice clothes and you see possibilities in stuff."

She is also joining us for the Day After Thanksgiving...which in our house is national holiday (along with January 1st).

Sigh...........(with joy). She wants to bond.

Wonderful, yay, yay, yay!!! What fun! She's a smart girl. Hope you find some smashing deals and have a great time in your shopping forays! I was so very lucky to have a wonderful, wonderful mother-in-law (and grandmama to my girls), whom I absolutely adored. I would have done just about anything for her. I miss her. I wish you a strong and loving relationship with your possible dil, if it comes to be.

KSUViolet06 · #3 11-30-2011, 08:26 PM

If you guys think you have problems, you should check out Monster-In-Law on A&E. Wow. There are some real gems on that show.

aephi alum · #4 12-01-2011, 01:59 AM

Ugh. I had the Thanksgiving From Hell with the in-laws.

A bit of background: To be fair to MIL, she is going through a very rough patch. GMIL (MIL's M) is 95 years old, and despite being healthy all her life (until recently, she was hospitalized only twice, and it was for the birth of her two children), age has caught up with her. She's been in and out of hospital for congestive heart failure, and she recently had an episode that I believe is the beginning of the end. It is possible that we will not see her again before she passes on.

MIL's brother is useless - he fled to California long ago, leaving all "taking care of Mom" responsibilities" to his sister. GMIL is also my husband's last surviving grandparent. All my grandparents passed on long ago.

The ILs were scheduled to come to us on Saturday 11/26. Knowing everything that was going on, we had offered to host. Well, my husband and I had a huge row that morning, and we called them asking to postpone to Sunday so we could sort things out between us. MIL ***INFORMED*** us that they were coming on Saturday whether we wanted them there that day or not. (There was no reason they couldn't have come on Sunday instead.)

So they turned up and proceeded to spend the next EIGHT AND A HALF HOURS whingeing about everything going on.

I know they needed to vent about GMIL's medical situation, and that's fine, and I listened patiently and advised as I could. (I'm not in the medical profession, but when you're the daughter of two doctors, you pick up a few things.)

But it went downhill from there. When we got to the point where MIL was whining because her bridge scores weren't as good as they could be, I wanted to toss her off the balcony. Your mother has one foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel and you're worried about your bridge game???

They arrived at 3 and stayed until 11:30. FIL downed most of a handle of Tanqueray. MIL had several drinks of Bailey's (it doesn't take much to get her drunk). And there was wine. So, on top of everything, they were sloshed. I should have cut them off, but that's easier said than done.

AAAAAAAAAAAAUGH.

They need to go to Florida. And stay there.

ellebud · #5 12-01-2011, 03:12 AM

"I am so sorry that you are going through such turmoil. What do you think that you can do to make your life easier?" "I know that you are in such pain. What one thing can you do for yourself everyday that will make you happy?"

"Will you help me with......? I love the way you....."

Trust me. I works. Well...most of the time. The worst thing is that you become a hero. At least your husband will think you're a hero.

I have suffered through many a bad holiday with the in laws. The good news is we stopped having holidays very early on. Now that my mil lives with the bil and his wife the mil wants us "together" again. I said that we would be DELIGHTED to come...as a party of 15. They don't want that many Jews in their home. Oh well.....

(I use the above quotes when they come to my home."

agzg · #6 12-01-2011, 09:56 AM

You guys. Live-in's mom is getting married today. It was supposed to be a courthouse wedding.

Last Monday (before Thanksgiving), she tells me (just me! Not live-in!) that the plan has changed, she wants me to help her pick out a wedding dress, and live-in will be walking her down the aisle at 7pm.

WTF?

KSUViolet06 · #7 12-01-2011, 09:58 AM

^^^I just shuddered.

/planner alert.

agzg · #8 12-01-2011, 09:59 AM

It's so much worse than that but I've already spent so much time angry and stressing about it that I can't even bring myself to tell the whole story.

She's in her awesome to batshit insane cycle. Over the summer she was awesome, now she's batshit. Hopefully she goes back to awesome after we "give" her a "break" after Christmas.

DreamfulSpirit · #9 12-01-2011, 01:58 PM

My DH is one of 6 boys. The oldest is married, has 2 kids, and runs his own business. DH and his oldest brother are the only 2 who are married. Another one is engaged, but they won't be married for a while. The other 4 brothers, including the one who's engaged and his fiancé, are hopelessly unmotivated. One just started a job, another just got a job...but here's hoping they stick with the jobs for a while. The other two and fiancé just make excuses as to why they can't apply or get jobs. Mind you these last 2 brothers, are both OLDER than my DH. Apparently going to school just isn't an option either.

When we went to my in-laws for thanksgiving dinner, we walked in and DH's brothers were watching Jeff Dunham on TV. He's hilarious, and we were all laughing the entire time! Howver, MIL thinks it's just disgusting, the jokes, and whines and complains the entire time bout it.

One thing that I LOVE about DH, is that he keeps his family's drama separate from me. I mean we talk about it, but he won't let his brothers or his parents try and ask me for anything. I really appreciate it, cause otherwise if they heard what I have to say...I'm not sure they'd like me all that much anymore!

aephi alum · #10 01-15-2012, 01:48 AM

My husband has DECIDED that we will be spending Passover with the in-laws in Florida this year.

GMIL supposedly has one foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel. (According to her daughter, she has had one foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel for a couple of decades.) So she "can't" fly up for Passover. So we are REQUIRED to fly down to Florida.

Of course, that week is spring break for most primary and secondary schools, so EVERYONE wants to fly out to see Grandma and Grandpa, therefore airline tickets are 3x as expensive as normal.

And, of course, it is comPLETEly unacceptable to celebrate during a different weekend.

MIL and FIL will be in town for two weeks before Passover, but we can't celebrate Passover then because GMIL won't beeeeeeee there.

AUGH.

GeekyPenguin · #11 03-04-2012, 02:29 PM

FBIL and his fiance have decided the only possible time they could get married is when we're on our honeymoon, so can we move it please?

NO.

KSUViolet06 · #12 03-04-2012, 02:51 PM

^^With everything you go through, I probably would have eloped by now.

agzg · #13 12-02-2011, 11:11 AM

So, the weddings are over. Thank goodness.

Now she's mad at me over Christmas Eve. I didn't realize going to the church of my choosing was going to cause so much drama. It's funny though, she's not going to church.

ASUADPi · #14 12-22-2011, 08:33 PM

I hate my SIL so much. I hate how my brother has completely changed who he is and his personality because of her.

I hate how incredibly NEGATIVE my SIL is! She sucks positive energy from you until you are complete exhausted.

First she decided to talk shit about her own sister at lunch yesterday. Then she had the gull to state that her sister isn't even talking to her anymore and she "doesn't understand why" and that the only reason that she saw her nephew was because Melissa wanted to her to meet him. Mind you my SIL is the ONE who cut off communication with her sister because Melissa got pregnant and my SIL has been trying to get pregnant for the last 3 years (more later about that). My SIL is so jealous of her sister that she CAN'T SEE STRAIGHT and that is why she doesn't talk to her. Then, the underlying comment about seeing her nephew was more that "my sister did this too me in spite of me".

She then went off in the car about my youngest brother and again had the gull to make complaints about behavior that he has that she DOES THE EXACT SAME THING!!!!! Pot calling the kettle black much!

I have never felt so defeated in my life with the amount of negativity that comes from her mouth!

As for the whole baby issue I just want to say the following to her....

"if you really want to get pregnant why don't you f*&king listen to what the doctor told you to do. The doctor told you to cut alcohol out of your lives, you didn't do this. The doctor told you to lose weight, you didn't do this. The doctor told you to exercise. You chose not to do this either. The doctor finally told you to eat better, you somewhat did this but with the amount of alcohol you and my brother consume any good eating you do is going to be counteracted by the alcohol. So until you do the things that the f&*king doctor told you to do, stop BITCHING about you're not being pregnant. Stop COMPLAINING every month on facebook that you aren't knocked up yet."

aephi alum · #15 12-22-2011, 11:15 PM

ASUADPi - yeow! If your SIL is so determined to get pregnant, she needs to follow her doctor's advice. And if she won't quit drinking alcohol now, would she do so if she got pregnant? Hello, fetal alcohol syndrome.

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Great news ... MY IN-LAWS HAVE MOVED TO FLORIDA!

They still have their house in New York, but they're hoping to sell it this coming spring. They also have the use of GMIL's condo in NY, and they're supposed to inherit the condo when GMIL passes on. So they're planning to be snowbirds for a few years and then stay in Florida full time.

If I could, I would add enough

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