Single ladies, how do you respond to "why aren't you married yet?" - Page 3

kdonline · #1 05-19-2008, 02:23 AM

Where did I read this response... was it here on GC at some point..?

A single woman was asked by an older aunt, "Why aren't you married?"
She replied, "Why aren't you dead?"

Haha.. I never had the guts to use that line..

But I was 33 when I got married. As those before me posted, I too had a blast during my 20s! And now, I'm an "older mom" - just had my 2nd child at 40 (had my first born at 37)!

To think that there are people my age who have 20 year old kids!!! Or even teenagers! Ack - no wonder so many people have mid-life crises...because they didn't live it up in their 20s!

christiangirl · #2 05-21-2008, 11:19 PM

I don't get asked this question per se, but I get asked "So are you dating anyone yet?" quite a bit. Everytime I go into work actually. I work at a hospital and no matter WHAT ward I'm on, I'll run into at least one person who wants to set me up. I just say "I am seeing someone. See that bag full of textbooks? We've been together since August. Jealous type, doesn't like to share me with anybody."

Oh, and the ever popular "You're still a virgin? Oh, we'll have to fix that" as though I'm broken.

Once someone asked me that and I said "Your boyfriend is still married?"

She had it coming.

WinniBug · #3 05-23-2008, 07:46 AM

I know this doesn't answer the OP's question, but people will continue to ask about your personal life, even after you get married.
My husband and I got married June, 2006...and since then, EVERYONE's asked "When are y'all having kids?" And I've had people tell me that once we have a child, people will just ask when the next one will be here.

Blacksocialite · #4 06-04-2008, 11:48 AM

I simply tell people that I love my life and the freedom (and lifeskills) being Single has afforded me!

I could have been married many times but I've opted to wait for the right partner.

I'm 37 and have a boyfriend - but I've never been married.

Fabunni · #5 06-04-2008, 02:07 PM

Wow. I see a lot of single women here. I am from Liberia and I am looking for my queen. I am looking for a woman who can arouse my intellect as well as my loins.

PeppyGPhiB · #6 06-05-2008, 03:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Fabunni

Wow. I see a lot of single women here. I am from Liberia and I am looking for my queen. I am looking for a woman who can arouse my intellect as well as my loins.

Your lions? OH, your loins!

AOII_LB93 · #7 06-07-2008, 11:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Fabunni

Wow. I see a lot of single women here. I am from Liberia and I am looking for my queen. I am looking for a woman who can arouse my intellect as well as my loins.

Isn't this a line from "Coming to America"? I think I remember Eddie Murphy saying this to Arsenio.

KSUViolet06 · #8 06-07-2008, 01:17 PM

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Originally Posted by AOII_LB93

Isn't this a line from "Coming to America"? I think I remember Eddie Murphy saying this to Arsenio.

Ding ding!

twinkle555 · #9 06-07-2008, 02:04 PM

My parents asked me this yesterday (actually they told me I was "getting old" and I had to hurry up...Im 23 btw). It pissed me off. I know the only reason they are asking/mentioning it is because my 24 year old cousing just got engaged and is getting hitched in October. I have a bf of 3 years+ so apparently according to my family I should be engaged/married. The icing on the cake was when my mom told me that they wouldnt be able to pay for a wedding for me anyways

!! So apparently my quickie wedding is going to be a lavish ceremony in the downtown courthouse. Yea..im in SUCH a hurry now..

christiangirl · #10 06-11-2008, 03:00 AM

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Originally Posted by twinkle555

My parents asked me this yesterday (actually they told me I was "getting old" and I had to hurry up...Im 23 btw).

I'm finishing my first year of grad school and am approaching 23...I'm "getting old" as well, so I'm right there with ya.

I went to a theme park with a guy friend who lives in my apartment building last week. All my friends know I've liked him for months and were so excited that I'm "finally dating."

I told them that wasn't a date, it was a go-see.

Definitely not marrying that one, he was such a punk.

DivineDiva47 · #11 07-02-2008, 09:12 AM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

I'm finishing my first year of grad school and am approaching 23...I'm "getting old" as well, so I'm right there with ya.

I went to a theme park with a guy friend who lives in my apartment building last week. All my friends know I've liked him for months and were so excited that I'm "finally dating."

I told them that wasn't a date, it was a go-see.

Definitely not marrying that one, he was such a punk.

LOLOL...Yall are a mess how's 23 old? I will be 33 in Sept...now that's a number for ya! Don't even think about marriage until your 30! I promise there's little light that will go on and then your like...who's this woman..smile! Take your time-God will bring him to you just work on you and being the best YOU-you can be!

I Love the "go see" comment! I am gonna have to use that..LOL!

MTSUGURL · #12 06-11-2008, 12:28 PM

The bonus to me not being married yet: My parents have had time to go to many tasteless or plain out tacky weddings. They also did quite a bit of stuff for my brother's wedding themselves. Their response to this? "Honey, when you get married we'll just pay for whatever you want."
It might me long coming but it'll be pretty...

KSUViolet06 · #13 06-11-2008, 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by MTSUGURL

The bonus to me not being married yet: My parents have had time to go to many tasteless or plain out tacky weddings. They also did quite a bit of stuff for my brother's wedding themselves. Their response to this? "Honey, when you get married we'll just pay for whatever you want."
It might me long coming but it'll be pretty...

Same here. My dad has said that my potential wedding will be "whatever I want." Of course probably not six figure budget "whatever I want" but enough for me to have something nice. I'd probably just do a small deal anyway (i.e. a Sandals destination wedding or something) and use the rest of the money for a down payment on a home.

bluefish81 · #14 06-25-2008, 08:56 PM

Ugh, I got too many combinations of "Are you seeing anyone?" "When are you going to get married?'" at a cousin's wedding this weekend that I stopped counting when I hit the double digits. This is why family get-togethers make me ill. And I've got three cousins that are currently engaged - one who's my age, one who's 20 and one who's 21. Yay. I really wanted to be snotty and respond that unlike one of my younger cousins who's already on round two, I'm planning on only doing this once, but I didn't.

maxdielr · #15 06-30-2008, 12:31 AM

[FONT='Verdana','sans-serif']I have a lot of combination of "are you seeing anyone?" too”why you don’t have a boyfriend?" my best friend is in a mission of finding me a boyfriend and I hate it, she things I’m that despiser that she brought me a t-shirt that say “dude be my boyfriend” it is pretty funny, the thing is that at this moment of my life I don’t want a bf. I’m focus in school and having fun, I don’t need the jealousy, and the time consuming of relationship and I don’t want to get hurt again. I understand she want me to be happy and don’t feel out of the group, most of my friend are in relationships, but I think I’m capable of finding someone if that is what I wanted to do [/FONT]