NHPC sororities. How did you choose which to pleadge for?

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

wow, how did I miss this?

To ....:
I am being serious when I say if the NPHC sororities on your campus have not grabbed your heart, then they are not for you. As for the other two, since they are not on your campus you would have to wait until they return, or consider intaking through an alumnae chapter.

You need to realize that joining a NPHC (National Pan-Hellenic Council--the difference in the names is that we hyphenate Pan-Hellenic instead of making it one word) means a LIFETIME commitment. You will be expected to join an alumnae chapter and continue your service and sisterhood through that NPHC org.

I agree that websites do not give you a feel for the full nature of an org, which is why you need to talk to RL NPHC members.

*Why am I being so nice this weekend? *

S/he doesn't think s/he has enough information about your sorority...

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by ....

I already knew if I wanted to undergo MIP for the others I would have to go elsewhere

Wow !!

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by ....

Well thank you for your honest opinion. I already knew if I wanted to undergo MIP for the others I would have to go elsewhere

I think you need to honestly ask yourself why do you want to join a sorority? If it is because of the "collegiate" experience you have seen--stepping, strolling, parties, etc. that is not a good reason considering that should be only three-four years at the most.

If you are really looking for a lifetime sisterhood than you have plenty of time to research, get to know members, participate in activities, etc. We aren't going anywhere, so you can wait and pursue alumnae after you have found what is in your heart.

And to answer you original question, the most influential people in my life happened to have been Deltas, including my mother. And although when I first went to college I was also impressed with another group, I just knew in my heart that Delta was for me.

Are you a first generation college attendee?

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by ....

yes I am.
before coming to college I DID NOT want to be in a sorority because of movies like stomp the yard and because of all the stereotypes and bad things I heard. Since being here, I have decided that I want to be in a sorority because they are exactly the opposite (at least at my campus) of most of the stereotypes.
I was only looking for answers as you stated. You thought you were interested in another org., but you found something better for you in the one you chose.

1) Entertainment avenues NEVER provide accurate information. They never can and never will. These organizations are like learn as you go. Like on the job training.

2) Then you get to college and you magically discover that they are opposite to what you thought. That hurts.

3) Then IMO, you are missing Ladygreek's point for choosing her sorority--she chose it because it was in her heart. That is the keyword here. She may have glanced at others for a split second, infinitesimal moment. But thrashing about to say, "Is XYZ sorority really for me"--what more do we need to sell you on with our merits?

Honey, it is either there or its not... Either you feel something or you don't...

Most of us all agree on that...

We will all agree that being part of organization takes lots of work, patience and management, but we had it in our very hearts to pursue our respective sororities.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by ....

You thought you were interested in another org., but you found something better for you in the one you chose.

You misunderstood me, or I wasn't clear. I went to college with Delta in my heart. That was tested by another org., but Delta won out BECAUSE it was truly in my heart.

That is the key to choosing an org to pursue.

ETA: I should have read ahead sistergreek Monet, you hit my point on the nail.

[LatinaAlumna]

Originally Posted by ....

not one respose has been about my question

I gave you a response.

I said "it's called research, getting to know members, attending open events, etc."? Do you not remember that? That was my ANSWER. That is how I chose my sorority.

I'm out. I can't take any more of this tomfoolery.

[LatinaAlumna]

Originally Posted by ....

THAT WAS NOT MY QUESION!

Did you, or did you not, ASK TO KNOW HOW PEOPLE CHOSE TO PURSUE THEIR ORGANIZATIONS?

I told you how I chose mine, twice now.

[LatinaAlumna]

Originally Posted by ....

I asked about your journey... did you chose to research sororities not offered on your campus? Did you talk to people from other chapters of the sorority that you were looking into? everyone does the basics that wants to be in a sorority. I wanted to know the things that people did above and beyond the basics.

My journey = my personal business.

I gave you the basic areas that I explored prior to making my decision to pursue membership.

Every person's journey is different. I can tell you this, though: You're not doing it right.

[icelandelf]

Originally Posted by ....

I asked about your journey... did you chose to research sororities not offered on your campus? Did you talk to people from other chapters of the sorority that you were looking into? everyone does the basics that wants to be in a sorority. I wanted to know the things that people did above and beyond the basics.

and you figure if you keep asking, over and over and over and over and over and over and over, you'll essentially wear everyone down with your good naturedness and sweet curiosity, and we'll all just tell you. I think I got it now.

[Velocity_14]

Originally Posted by ....

well then I guess I dont know shit then. I go off of what I have been told from informationals.... sorry for being a real person that trusts answers I receive from bros and sorors

We. Are. NOT. Your. Sorors.

You. Do. NOT. Have. Any. Sorors.

[Velocity_14]

Originally Posted by Velocity_14

We. Are. NOT. Your. Sorors.

You. Do. NOT. Have. Any. Sorors.

^^^Again I say.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by ....

well then I guess I dont know shit then. I go off of what I have been told from informationals.... sorry for being a real person that trusts answers I receive from bros and sorors

And do you ask as many bullisht questions as you have done here? You really think there is anonminity here? Okey. Whatever. Good Luck With That!!!

And I am NOT your soror!!!

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by ....

Actually yes I do ask as many questions in person as I do and no question is a "bullshit" question in my opinion. Just because you already know the information does not mean that you should look down on me.

Quote feature is your friend!!!

Then ASK them!!! We are looking down at you because you think you have anonminity here... Good luck thinking that way!!!

Come here with appropriate questions, and we will give you appropriate answers until we tell you to SEARCH!!! When we say it, it is not because we like saying it. It is because it has been asked before and you can read, learn and come to your own conclusions...

But real time, face to face is what gives you the full flavor of these organizations.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by ....

I never said it was your issue. I asked for your story and you FINALLY gave it. I never asked anyone to care about me, my situation, or my journey. My question? How did YOU choose? That was my ownly question from the start and everything else that was said by everyone else was away from what I was asking. Thank you for you responses though, even though it always seems like you have to end with some form of hostility, a put down, or venturing to look down on me.

You need to phrase your question differently because the pronoun "you" capitalized is being interpreted differently from your implied intent.

And we also said your question that you are seeking has been said before, ad nauseum, and we are tired of it.

Your feelings are hurt because we know you have failed to do your research and are obsequious when we say to search again.

Others can view that I did not have a choice... But, everyone has a choice in these matters. I chose to be with my family and heritage.

And well, you choose how to want to respond and how to feel. And if you feel demeaned, because there are directed questions toward you, I can tell you not to pursue a doctorate in any field, because you will be made to feel a lot worse...

[Bluetiful]

Originally Posted by ....

Thank you for you responses though, even though it always seems like you have to end with some form of hostility, a put down, or venturing to look down on me.

A simple "thank you AKA Monet" would have been more than enough! She REALLY has extended herself for you in this thread and yet you're accusing her in the same sentence you're thanking her!?

I wish you would stop posting. I feel embarrased for you. You don't LISTEN or in this case, you don't READ. You have an answer for everything and I don't mean that in a good way. If you are always this way, my guess is that no NPHC org will ever invite you to join. My advice to you: Save any bit of dignity you may have left (and pray to God that noone has figured out who you are yet) and simply step away from the keyboard. Just don't post anymore. Don't reply. Just don't. No matter what. Don't do it. Start fresh. Leave this in your past. LEARN FROM THIS EXPERIENCE and don't make the same mistake twice! If you don't know what "mistake" I'm referring to, then you haven't learned what you need to learn from this experience! Go back and read this thread from the beginning. Allow it to teach you. LatinaAlumna's posts did indeed answer your question early on. Regardless of what organization you are trying to learn about, her answers/posts can be applied to any organization. You're not seeing it, but it's all there in her posts.