Looking back, were you right?

[thetaprincess]

Looking back on it. I know I could of fit into two other houses on campus. But I came in not knowing everything. I also came in with the notions of a friend at a differnet campus who had went through recrutiment before. I ended up joining a top chapter at my school year end and year out. Looking back at my aluma matter I love the pride. I love my kite family. Its just so enjoyable.

I remember getting some bad impressioins especailly at one house in the first round. I wished at times I would of been more open to the other house that I preffed. THey were a good house too. I think I could of easily fit into other houses. I had friends at other houses.

I still talk to my the group of close friends I made in my pledge class. I love my theta sisters and know it was where I should be.

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

^^^I thought he died?

Nope, his grandpa and great grandpa died. haha

[Scully]

Looking back, I was definitely influenced before I rushed Junior year. My ex-boyfriend joined a fraternity when we were freshmen. And I had absolutely no intentions of going Greek. However, as time went on, I befriended sorority girls who dated his brothers. And got to know them as individuals first. Not as a collective group. Honestly, I hadn't even heard of any reputations until after I pledged! In my head, I wanted to give each of the chapters on campus a fair shot, and I really could have seen myself in one or two other groups, but I was always drawn back to the girls I was comfortable with. And AEPhi welcomed me with open arms. I have never regretted it.

[nittanyalum]

Originally Posted by Sedrick

You Idiot! My great grandfather and father died I'm the youngest one jeez for the love of gizmos!

Maybe you should let his username/memory on GC rest in peace with him...

And hey, at least you still have your grandfather, right?

[AOE2AlphaPhi]

There was one chapter that I really sold short when I was going through recruitment. I know now that these women have probably the strongest sisterhood on my campus, but that formal recruitment has always been a struggle for them. I really wish that I had given them more of a chance.

[SMUalphachi]

Not at all. Because we have deferred recruitment, I felt like I already knew the chapters on my campus. But a pledge class has a lot to do with the culture of the entire chapter, and looking back I feel I could have fit in with probably nearly every house on my campus. Luckily we have eight good chapters, so I feel a lot of girls feel the same way as I do. I definitely ended up in the right place for me, and though I feel as if I could probably fit in at a lot of the other houses, I am in the best fit for me.

Interestingly, on one day the two top houses I preffed were two I went into saying I would never join -- one was a top chapter and one was a "lower" one. While I didn't end up in either of those houses, I am glad I had an open mind during rush. I love both of those groups now... I just love mine more!

[Soliloquy]

All of these answers are so PC.

C'mon now, not everyone had a perfect experience and fit. There are a lot of girls who depledge and go through rush again!

[SMUalphachi]

Originally Posted by Soliloquy

All of these answers are so PC.

C'mon now, not everyone had a perfect experience and fit. There are a lot of girls who depledge and go through rush again!

I was one of them! Even though it was a hard year, I'm glad I did because I wouldn't have been in my chapter if I hadn't. But maybe it was because of that year that I opened my mind some of the other chapters that I said I would never be in.

I certainly didn't have a perfect experience the first time. My answer would have been different if you asked me after that week.

[honeychile]

I don't believe in living in the land of "woulda coulda shoulda", but my regrets came in my sophmore year. Most of my favorite sisters had been seniors & graduated, or were in my pledge class but didn't live in the suite. I went through a real soul searching (should I have given XYZ more of a chance? what about ABC?) at that time.

Then, we had Initiation, and I realized I was where I was meant to be all along. I've never looked back since.

And quite frankly, I think quite a few people go through the "I'm not a pledge anymore & coddled; I'm a sister with responsibilities and that's hard!" phase. More than are willing to admit it.

[Low C Sharp]

Yes. If anything, I became more convinced by the stereotypes as time went by and I knew more and more people who confirmed my impression of the group.
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[PiPhiERDoc]

Originally Posted by Low C Sharp

Yes. If anything, I became more convinced by the stereotypes as time went by and I knew more and more people who confirmed my impression of the group.

My thoughts EXACTLY! Its funny now to go back as an alum and see how much of this is STILL true soooo many years after my rush experience...

[KillarneyRose]

I rushed as a first semester freshman, but I had hung around on campus my last couple of years of high school and had ironclad preconceptions about the sororities. I would only consider three of them and cut the other nine after the first round. I was, um, quite impressed with myself back in those days

Freshman and Sophmore years, I pretty much agreed with, and perpetuated, the stereotype of my sorority. But later on, I was more active on campus and got to know members of houses that weren't top notch, so to speak. I found that the girls from the "fat" house weren't all fat, the girls from the "JAPpy" (not my phrasing) house weren't all princesses and the girls from the "troll" house weren't all short and roly-poly. I even tutored one of the "brainiac" house girls in statistics.

I'm sure at one point those houses had a preponderace of girls who fit the stereotype (which is how they got stereotyped in the first place), but gradually I think the actual make-up of the house can often change. Unfortunately, it's hard to lose the stereotype.

[speedsters]

looking back, i couldn't see myself in either of the other chapters at my college. i went to a small college with 3 sororities and a deferred recruitmemt, where all fall semester you can get to know each of the sororities through panhel events, chapter informal events and general campus life.
i became friends with a few ZTA's through crew, and the social scene at my college and one of the girls i was friends with was recruitment chair, who suggested i attend the fall panhel day and from the fall panhel day (and the first three months of college) i knew the sorority i fit into was ZTA. during recruitment, you could really see how different the three chapters were from each other and i knew what chapter i fit into and even which pnm's were most likely to join, from events in the fall and also campus life.

i loved my collegiate experience and i don't regret one second of it

its funny, as a senior i could tell during recruitment which chapter a pnm would join, for some its obvious as they've spent all fall semester with xyz sisters or you can just tell with some girls.

and its hard to stereotype exactly what made each sorority different, but especially junior and senior years, i had many friends in the other two sororities, and one of my best friends was president of on of the other sororities. so it was a small greek campus, but friendly and noncompetitive.

[SWTXBelle]

It's been so long, it's hard to say. Some chapters I was spot-on; others, not so much. I have been amused by the stereotype of Gamma Phi on many (I'm sure not all) campuses - it is similiar enough that 2 of my sisters (from across the nation) and I correctly figured out a recruitment story code because of that stereotype of laid-back, friendly girls.

[ForeverRoses]

before I rushed (as a sophomore) I had my heart set on a chapter because of two women from my dorm that I adored. I even went to a few grab-a-dates with them when their boyfriends couldn't go. However one girl from my hs was also a member of this chapter and we never really got along. But based on the two that I loved I was set (so I thought). I even went so far as to buy a cross-stitch pattern book with their flower as the theme.

Then I went through rush, and ended up in a different house and noticed that one of the new members of the house I had wanted was a woman that I did not get along with at all.

So I grew up strong where I was planted even if it wasn't the flower garden I would have originally chosen!