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just a few more details to help everyone...
another predicate... and only one other after this. this, at least in my opinion, will help many of the participants in this thread with some confusion about my family... and will hopefully clarify a few aspects of our lives. thank you for your anticipated understanding.
no, our father was not president of the university nor was he a famous politiician... he was an excellent and highly respected attorney. remember... i was the one who went away to school.
my father's family had been and were truly blessed... but they were most certainly a true blessing to so many people... especially our city. they were very phlianthropic in their generoisty. they truly helped make our city a much finer place to live, love and enjoy life. they loved the arts and were very generous. there were a few "places" named after them, so consequently our last name was quite well known... and we consequently always were asked... "not that family!"
now, please... please no negative comments, i am not bragging nor am i saying "look how wonderful and beautiful i am"... this was just a truly wonderful moment in my life. my senior year in high school, i was given the wonderful opportunity to meet and get to know many young ladies from large cities, medium size towns to small towns and, yes, even farms... and those young ladies were truly among the most poised and charming as "ufpiphi" has said. i really do not this want it spoiled, but it explains why so many people knew us or knew of us. football is big in the state where we lived. near the end of football season... on the road to a state championshsip, they also had another road for the ladies. we had an "all state homecoming queen." at the beginning of playoffs they gathered all, and i mean all... of the homecoming queens from all over the entire state to select the "all state homecoming queen." no one from my school or our our city had ever won this title. this was the closest thing to a "beauty pagent" i had ever been exposed to... on the outside i was trying to be very poised but inside i knew i was totally out of my element and i knew it and i was very frigthened. i had just turned seventeen and had never been to or though anything like this and i was not schooled in "beauty pagents" like many of the other ladies had been. that was really "unchartered territory" for me. this was probably the only time in my entire life that i regretted our mother shielding us from what she had endured with the miss america pagent.
mother is definitely a different generation... and no she did not compete in pagents all over everywhere. back then she was the beauty queen for her university who then had to represent her university in the state pagent. she was and is a strikenly beautiful woman, she is almost "regal" in her bearing and appearance. she had absolutely no idea what she was getting into... it was just a a responsibillity she had to fulfill... but there were wonderful scholarships and she had to represent her university. well... represent them she did. our grandmother, like our mother... had schooled her well with music and vocal lessons most of her life. she won the first and only time she had ever competed in anything like that, but that is how it was back then... and that was her life. she really did not care for the whole spectacle of atlantic city and was actually very glad and relieved she did not win and never expected to. however, she thoroughly enjoyed the activities and duties during the ensuing year while she represented our state... especially the fully insured corvette convertible she got to drive for a year. that part of it would have been wonderful, but all of the parades and fairs and events got old and really interferred with her education. like many, she soon realized that she need to either take the entire year off or drastically reduce the number of hours and activities she could take or participate in. her universiity was wonderful in accomodating her... but she also felt as though they made far too much of it, but it was a "bragging right" and a source of pride for her smaller university... and especially her sorority. she never goes to any of the reunions or the state pagent.
so i get the privilege of going and participatiing in this huge gathering of all of the young ladies who were the respective homecoming queens from seemingly every school in our state... large and small. oh... they were stunning! i think it really frightened all of us... all of these young ladies dressed in so many different ways, so many differernt types of girls and so much anticipation and joy. but along with that same the typical high school drama. screaming, yelling and crying. in retrospect, it was somewhat like recruitment and helped me somewhat understand what might happen. mother had found this abolutely gorgeous fulled beaded gown... not flowing, but a sheath that to me just oozed of elegance (and, yes... i wore hose with sequins of the back... lol... but they did not show as it was a full length gown and it fit me!) wow, she has great taste! i felt like a "queen" and that really helped make me feel much more at ease and made the entire experience fun and interesting. i did not retreat into my very poised and quiet style, i wanted to enjoy this as this was the only time in my life i would ever get to do anything remotely like this and it was a truly wonderful experience. even syd was alright with it and was vicariously enjoying it through me... and she was with me every step of the way until we were presented (good training for the debutante season to soon follow!) much to everyone's surprise, i won. so i had met truly wonderful, beautiful, funny, kind, caring, elegant, normal, funny, witty and intelligent young ladies from all over my state. we all know how overly dramatic high school girls can get... and this was high school drama as high as it can get. i loved it and loved everyone i met. i must admit i did not know that i would have to go to all of the football games, large and small, all over creation and smile, wave and watch all of these football games from schools i had never heard of. for me, it got old really fast and took me away from "my real life"... until the large schools came on their march to the state championship... that, for me, made it the thing of dreams and made for a truly wonderful year. so, going to a large comrehensive state university, beinig the "all state homecoming queen"... people i had never met knew me and knew syd... or knew of us. so i went into recruitment having people so graciously greet me as though we had been friends forever. but again... that was a "positive - negative".... as there were those who totally disdained the entire spectacle... but that is life. for me, it was a year of dreams come true.
sorry for the indulgence... and there is only one other "thing" i promise, all will soon know what i have been alluding to throughout this thread.
cheers!
Last edited by recruitment; 07-10-2007 at 11:16 AM.
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