Ole Miss Rush/Recruitment~2007

[OleMissGlitter]

Originally Posted by Ole Miss Phi Mu

I have to agree with OTW. Encourage her to stick it out and get involved with the sorority. Its only been a few weeks and like anything else friendships aren't instant, so give it some time. If she feels the same way by the time Initiation rolls around, then she could drop and re-rush, so long as she doesn't initiate. If she does drop and decides to re-rush, she WILL have a more difficult time getting in a sorority than she did this year, so keep that in mind. Best of luck to you and your daughter.

Ole Miss Phi Mu and OTW said it perfectly....it takes time to get settled into a sorority.

[junebug1357]

Thank you so much for all your input it has definitely helped, but I have a few more questions. I'm sorry to bother you guys again, but having never been in a sorority myself I am completely clueless to the whole process.
1. say that she does decide to drop does that sort of put a "black mark" on her during the recruitment process
2. all of her good friends are in different sororities does that help her chances at all

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by junebug1357

Thank you so much for all your input it has definitely helped, but I have a few more questions. I'm sorry to bother you guys again, but having never been in a sorority myself I am completely clueless to the whole process.
1. say that she does decide to drop does that sort of put a "black mark" on her during the recruitment process
2. all of her good friends are in different sororities does that help her chances at all

1. Having pledged another sorority may affect her chances. No one can really tell you with any certainty that it will/won't, but it is a possibility. At Ole Miss, your best shot at recruitment is typically your freshman year, so her chances of getting a bid will decrease a bit if she rushes next year. It is possible, but she will experience heavier cuts in the beginning because of her class standing.

2. Having good friends in a sorority doesn't guarantee a better chance at getting a bid there, especially at a school like Ole Miss where there are SO many girls rushing.

In my opinion, she should stick it out with her current sorority. If she drops out and rushes again next year, her chances of getting a bid won't be the same as they were this year.

[OleMissGlitter]

I have know personally two girls who de-pledged and got their first choices the second time they went through as sophomores. I also know one girl who de-pledged and she was released from all houses her sophomore year. So it just depends. Ole Miss Rush can be cruel to upper classmen, but it can be very kind as well. "Rush is not a guaranteed process," to quote a former Greek Life Director here many years ago.

[kelcaopi]

Also remind her that you get out of a sorority what you put into it. I'm not saying she's not trying but it's easy for new members to sit back and not get involved then say "I don't fit in." The more involved she becomes the more people she'll meet and the more fun she'll have. The chapters at Ole Miss are huge so I'm sure she can find her niche in the house if she looks hard enough!

It's funny because I recently had my high school reunion and I realized that my entire high school was smaller than the average Ole Miss sorority! We only had about 190 girls in the entire school and about 40 in my class. It was an all girls boarding school so it essentially was a sorority! Lord knows I wasn't friends with all 40 of those girls but I had my close friends and that's all I really needed to love it there.

[Ole Miss Phi Mu]

Originally Posted by junebug1357

Thank you so much for all your input it has definitely helped, but I have a few more questions. I'm sorry to bother you guys again, but having never been in a sorority myself I am completely clueless to the whole process.
1. say that she does decide to drop does that sort of put a "black mark" on her during the recruitment process
2. all of her good friends are in different sororities does that help her chances at all

By dropping a sorority and re-rushing doesn't necessarily mean she will get a "black mark" on her, but it will be a huge factor on whether or not they will extend her a bid. Also, just because she has good friends in different sororities doesn't mean that the sorority will give her a bid.

[FSUZeta]

when i joined my sorority, i felt very overwhelmed and not really a part of it, but i stuck it out. homecoming came and i helped with the float, i started sitting in the sorority block at the football games, sisters living in the house came downstairs and visited with me when i had door/phone duty. i made an effort to go over everyday for lunch and dinner. it got better, but it took some work and a little time, and it was so worth it!

if your daughter has any pledge sisters living in her dorm, she should make a point of getting together with them to walk to and from the house. she should pop into their room for a visit sometime. making a huge chapter smaller will help her to feel more a part of it. she should also share her feelings with her pledge trainer/new member coordinator. i'm confident that that sister can allay your daughters concerns, and give her some extra attention if that is what she needs. it is too soon for her to be dropping out, but if her feelings don't change, i would suggest that she resign before her initiation. i hope that doesn't happen, but that way the avenue would still be open for her to go thru recruitment next fall.

[Benzgirl]

Right after pledging, I went through the "doubt" too. But, the more I participated with my chapter and got past "perceptions", the more I felt the affirmation that I made the right decision.

Make sure she gives it a chance.