What to tell overconfident PNMs

[carnation]

Agree, and I also think that many schools do a bad job of explaining "mutual selection". I wish I could inscribe across the front of recruitment booklets of competitive schools: "Mutual selection means that you get very little say in this--the sororities do almost all of the choosing. Good luck!"

[DubaiSis]

Here's what mutual selection means: they pick you and you get to say yes or no. At then end. But not until then.

I had to have the discussion with an alumna of another sorority who asked me for a rec for her daughter. She repeated the "guaranteed placement" line to me, and I carefully explained that only applies IF SHE MAKES IT TO PREFERENCE. That is nowhere the same thing as guaranteed placement. Thankfully she didn't think her snowflake was guaranteed a bid into her sorority and basically said legacy doesn't mean squat (which I also would argue. It means a bit more than squat - but not much). Thankfully in this case the mother and daughter are not overconfident; just not completely clear on how RFM works. And in this case I think they are both clear that if you want to join a sorority, you accept your invitations each day and say thank you.

[MaryPoppins]

The use of mutual with the word selection is such total garbage it makes me want to yak.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by MaryPoppins

The use of mutual with the word selection is such total garbage it makes me want to yak.

I posted about this before! It really needs to be called something else!

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=127132

[AGDCanada11]

Bumping this one!

[Benzgirl]

bump

[SWTXBelle]

Bump again

[flirt5721]

Bump again

[DGTess]

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAArrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrghhhhhhhhh with the BUMPS.

[carnation]

This year, I know of 5 PNMs who claim that they won't be getting recs for SEC rush, something along the lines of "if they don't like me for who I am, I don't want to belong". Um, we're talking about 2 different things here. Move along.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

But as compared to college admissions, most students know they are not Harvard material, and don't go visit Harvard, fall in love with Harvard, apply to Harvard, and then get rejected from Harvard.

[HQWest]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

But as compared to college admissions, most students know they are not Harvard material, and don't go visit Harvard, fall in love with Harvard, apply to Harvard, and then get rejected from Harvard.

Point of fact - Harvard has an extensive admission process and lots of people take the tour but don't finish the application. Harvard also has a 5.9% admission rate so LOTS of people fall in love with Harvard and don't get in to Harvard or go to another school for a year and then try to get in to Harvard. Its a pretty good anaolgy.

[carnation]

Oh nonononono. Local high school graduation was today and several girls told my husband, a teacher, which sororities they plan to pledge this fall.

[TLLK]

Oh dear. Recruitment is going to be a quite the eye opener for those young ladies.

[tcsparky]

Wishing for the HaHaHa "Like" icon from Facebook!!!

Originally Posted by carnation

Oh nonononono. Local high school graduation was today and several girls told my husband, a teacher, which sororities they plan to pledge this fall.