NPHC Traditions and Practices that annoy you

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by Live_Wire17

Don't act like you don't need a good "spankin" every now and then...go to your room right now...LOL!

That's okay since I gotta TV in my room!!

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by sigmadiva

I agree. But, we had a sargent-of-arms who would not only charge 0.25 cents if you were late to the meeting and that was okay, she would also scold you like she was going to spank your behind for being late. Right leadership is one thing, wayward leadership is another.

This had me rolling. Years ago Delta instituted a policy that a chapter could not assess fees or fines, so this could not happen now. But I remember that before the policy was enacted we had an SAA that did the same thing. Many of us, younger sorors at the time, started going late to meetings just to perturb her.

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

This had me rolling. Years ago Delta instituted a policy that a chapter could not assess fees or fines, so this could not happen now. But I remember that before the policy was enacted we had an SAA that did the same thing. Many of us, younger sorors at the time, started going late to meetings just to perturb her.

That is what made it funny. She was so about it and we were like , okay, whatever. But, you can't say that she did not do her job!

[jojapeach]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

This had me rolling. Years ago Delta instituted a policy that a chapter could not assess fees or fines, so this could not happen now. But I remember that before the policy was enacted we had an SAA that did the same thing. Many of us, younger sorors at the time, started going late to meetings just to perturb her.

LMAO...literally

I agree with everything being said. I'm especially perturbed when there are chapters of an org that actually teach their chapter members that they are the truest member of the org, and all other chapters are inferior. (BTW, these chapters aren't Alpha chapter or even single-letter that I'm referring to. The nerve!) I've even heard that there's a chapter that teaches that other members outside of their chapter are cousins.

I wish sorority women would be more selective about the songs they stroll to and would kill the stripper moves. *SMH*

I'm not sure if this qualifies, but I'm sick of members that spend their good money on XYZ paraphernalia that includes subtle or directly unapologetic references to other D9 orgs. For...what? Wearing anyone else's colors and/or letters anywhere on your XYZ 'nalia makes you look insecure and brings down the image of your organization.

[delph998]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

I beg to differ. Running a chapter is very serious, which is why it needs to be done with the right leadership.

I totally agree, Ladygreek. I'm not talking about when sorors correct, I'm talking about when sorors dictate. There's a huge difference. There's a way to lead and dictating is not the correct way.

[Boom_Quack13]

I hate misguided deference. I don't mind deferring to those who came before me, when appropriate. But if you haven't been financial and actively involved in a chapter, since your initiation dues ran out, then what do you REALLY know?

[BlueReign]

Ditto to the above: Those who have not been financial since initiation and are misrepresenting by wearing letters EVERYWHERE. They don't know jack about anything currently going on local, regional or national basis. And most of all they place the chapter they were initiated through on a pedestal ABOVE the sorority.

I have just decided to start being very vocal about this issue because I encounter way too many members of all organizations who do this.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by MeezDiscreet

speaking of struts, I don't think they need to be any MORE than 5 8-counts. I look at some of the struts the UGs do and I'm like, "when are they going to start STRUTTING?? They're just dancing in a line!"

OK im a youngin and i have a hard time keeping up with long azz strolls. time by i get the second half, i done forgot the first half...

Originally Posted by Boom_Quack13

I hate misguided deference. I don't mind deferring to those who came before me, when appropriate. But if you haven't been financial and actively involved in a chapter, since your initiation dues ran out, then what do you REALLY know?

exactly. and i hate semester-difference deference. how you gonna call def on me (Fall 05) and you came in Spr 05? i mean you still got sand in your ears!

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Members of city-wide chapters who take the same approach to "recruitment" of members as huge HBCUs. You can't be at St. Wilona's with no chapter website expecting the dudes at Jackie Collins College to be able to find you.

word! it used to take FOREVER to find out when something was happening. dont be putting up ONE flyer in a random corner of a bulletin board at XYZ University for an event at ABC College, especially if it's an hour away, the event is on a Thursday afternoon and it's Wednesday nite.



OK it really irks me when said greek will wear the SAME ONE PIECE of para at EVERY function, even when its inappropriate. i know a guy (wont say what org, but he's grad) but he wears this varsity line jacket everywhere, including a fellow greek's funeral and an afterwork social event. umm, sometimes a pin or simple button down will do.

[12dn94dst]

Originally Posted by Boom_Quack13

I hate misguided deference. I don't mind deferring to those who came before me, when appropriate. But if you haven't been financial and actively involved in a chapter, since your initiation dues ran out, then what do you REALLY know?

And THIS is why I Love you!! Good to see you!

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by delph998

I totally agree, Ladygreek. I'm not talking about when sorors correct, I'm talking about when sorors dictate. There's a huge difference. There's a way to lead and dictating is not the correct way.

Very honestly, Del, sometime it has to be done. Gentle correction does not always work and then you have to pull rank and dictate. Of course that is only valid when a truly knowledgable person is doing it, so I do hear you.

[delph998]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

Of course that is only valid when a truly knowledgable person is doing it, so I do hear you.

I do agree with this 100%

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by sigmadiva

1. When a chapter splits because a few people don't like the way things are being done or because there are personality conflicts. I've seen / known this to happen in all D9 sororities, but I will take my own as an example. We have a large grad chapter, then for some reason that no one can remember the chapter split, but most likely it was over a personality conflict. Fine, now there are two grad chapters in the same area. Then, within the two chapters, people have personality conflicts so a third grad chapter is established. I know of one member who was in chapter A, things got heated so she ran to chapter B, things did not work out so she ran to chapter C, things fell apart there, so now she is back in chapter A.

But she's still as active member of the sorority.

2. Not recognizing your own members who came through a different chapter. My soror was at a grad NPHC event and talking to a member of another org. My soror congratulated this other person on having new members into their org, and this person said supposedly "They are not my sorors, they did not come through my chapter."

Now that is stupid.

3. People who take their officer position too literally. I respect your position but you are not my mother.

Or those who think they know it all because they are an officer and really don't know jack.

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

Or those who think they know it all because they are an officer and really don't know jack.

Shooooot I will be the FIRST to admit that I don't know it all when it comes to my APO Alum Assoc. I think it's going to take Year One just to get everyone on the same page!

But um a rah.... as webmaster for my Alpha chapter, I'm sorry, nobody can tell me ISH. LOL

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

But she's still as active member of the sorority.

True, but it was kinda funny watching her run from chapter to chapter over the years.