I Don't Date Outside of My Race...

[tld221]

Originally Posted by litAKAtor

The question was would you date not sleep with. Not attempting to get this forum off topic, but I am SO tired of other women objectifying our men and using them to get a "taste" of what a brother is like to satisfy some deep longing they have for brothers. Our men are NOT commodities on an auction block to be purchased and sold to the highest bidder for an elicit escapade only to be discarded after they have been used. (I am for the moment disregarding the fact that many of the brothers allow themselves to be used . . ) Sorry Mods . . .

ok i feel you on this... but black women do the same thing. if i say, "hey i think ima get my swirl on," arent i objectifying white men and trying to get a taste?

but to answer the question . . . before I got married, I considered it briefly - not to quench any curiousity, but it was a genuine attraction. I decided being with a brother of another hue was NOT what I wanted to do . . . I love my brothers too much . . ..

for the most part, attraction transcends color lines... if you were "genuinely attracted" to a non-black man, it would be because:
--you find him attractive and he happens to be non-black
--you find him attractive due to the fact that he is non-black

in other words, was it an attraction to the looks or the skin?

[RoyalEmpress33]

Originally Posted by litAKAtor

The question was would you date not sleep with. Not attempting to get this forum off topic, but I am SO tired of other women objectifying our men and using them to get a "taste" of what a brother is like to satisfy some deep longing they have for brothers. Our men are NOT commodities on an auction block to be purchased and sold to the highest bidder for an elicit escapade only to be discarded after they have been used. (I am for the moment disregarding the fact that many of the brothers allow themselves to be used . . ) Sorry Mods . . .

but to answer the question . . . before I got married, I considered it briefly - not to quench any curiousity, but it was a genuine attraction. I decided being with a brother of another hue was NOT what I wanted to do . . . I love my brothers too much . . ..

Took the words right out my mouth.

[1908Revelations]

Originally Posted by delph998

That's what's up Nonchalant. I'm with you, although I've never dated outside my race. I'm attracted to men of other ethnicities and races; but to me, their looks will never compare to a brotha's. I am loyal to African American men--all heights, weights, complexions, socioeconomic statuses, etc. I love my brothas. Nuff said.

Singing Angie Stone's Black Brotha.

"You got your blue collar brotha, light-skinned (dang is that right?) brotha, down for whatever, chillin' on the corner brotha, talented brotha, and to everyone y'all behind bars, you know that Del loves ya!"

I motion that this is a great comment.

Will this be properly seconded???!!!

[delph998]

Originally Posted by 1908Revelations

I motion that this is a great comment.

Will this be properly seconded???!!!

That's what's up!

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by starang21

so you're just saying i was just a phase to you?

:sad:

Not at all. I wuv u.

[DSTCHAOS]

There is historical and social significance for why many people are "loyal" to a particular race in dating and marriage. And of course there are just aesthetic reasons for a preference.

I think that it's fine to exclusively date a particular race. But don't defend this decision by speaking negatively of another race of men. Nonchalant's post was honest, but it frames her love for men of direct African ancestry around her (negative) experience with ONE white man.

I haven't read this thread b/c this topic just isn't that interesting to me. But if someone came in here saying they don't date black men or women because (insert an HONEST opinion or experience that can be interpreted negatively and lead to "racism" claims, etc.), some people would be up in arms. Maybe that's already happened in this thread--it could've been what the OP typed and it has since been diffused.