Almost64's Recruitment Thread (at an SEC school)

[Denise_DPhiE]

Originally Posted by aopirose

Me too. I'll scan the registration lists from our Alumnae Panhellenics and I'll see some familiar names. If I know the family well enough, I won't need to call for additional information.

That is wonderful!

Denise

[REE1993]

Were you born here? I too am a first-generation American. The fact that both your parents grew up and schooled in Europe, and (I am guessing) that your family is very immersed in your ethnic culture, might be very interesting to many sisters.

Americans tend to think that Europeans are "cool". Especially if you speak another language. I would definitely embrace your culture. I am not sure how much of a part of your life your heritage plays, but in my case, I grew up very Italian. It's part of my identity. Obviously, I didn't show up to rush waving the Italian flag and speaking Italian, but if it is part of who you are, don't let that hold you back.

The suggestions that the women here have given you is great. I am in a non-NPC sorority, so I did not face the rec issue, but reaching out an meeting alums is a great idea, regardless. Good luck, and I hope that you find a sisterhood to "come home to".

Just remember, discretion is extremely important in these threads.

[UGAalum94]

Good luck, Almost 64! If rush is in January, you may be able to still some recs. sent. It almost certainly won't ruin your rush not to have them, but it does help. If a group really needs one, and they love you during rush, they can probably get one.

Highjack about recs:

Does anyone know why the official word from Greek Life about recs is so often wrong? Why don't they tell the girls up front that it's good to have recs for as many different groups as you can?

Anyone who works in greek life, can you tell us?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Alphagamuga

Highjack about recs:

Does anyone know why the official word from Greek Life about recs is so often wrong? Why don't they tell the girls up front that it's good to have recs for as many different groups as you can?

Anyone who works in greek life, can you tell us?

See my post above.

[UGAalum94]

Sorry, 33girl, I didn't know you were an official greek life person. Thanks for answering.

I had read your post, and I knew that it was true in the sense that if a group is really interested, then they will get the recs. I don't think it covers the cases that I'm afraid might occur: in which a group might need to release a bunch of folks early in a really big recruitment, and they might use recs to help decide.

I don't know that this has ever happened, but I can imagine that it might.

I also don't think it's a good plan to put the groups you want to join in the position of having to look for recs for you. When Greek Life offices kind of put out the word "don't worry if you don't have recs" in a recruitment for which lot of girls do already have recs, I think it puts some the girls who accept the official word at a disadvantage right off.

What does your office advise PNMs about recs?

[AchtungBaby80]

Originally Posted by 33girl

See my post above.

What you said is definitely true. The problem I have with what Panhellenics currently tell PNMs, though--at least, what they told us--gave the impression that recs weren't worth getting because we didn't need them. I know the official policy, but I think they should also add something like, "...but it's good to have them if you can get them."