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ReachTheLimit · #1 10-11-2006, 04:36 PM

Considering PNAI's don't reveal the sorority they are considering AI with, you don't know if it's your sorority or not, so I still maintain that it isn't anyone's concern, because ultimately, it's up to the local AA anyway.

BaylorBean · #2 10-11-2006, 04:38 PM

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Originally Posted by ReachTheLimit

Considering PNAI's don't reveal the sorority they are considering AI with, you don't know if it's your sorority or not, so I still maintain that it isn't anyone's concern, because ultimately, it's up to the local AA anyway.

But its not up just to the local AA, its up to (I)NHQ as well.

greekalum · #3 10-11-2006, 04:40 PM

Depending on the organization it may or may not be up to the local AA.

Which is, again, a problem with these blind postings. What is the point of these "pursuit" threads? Encouragement? What if the organization the woman is pursuing does not do AI or the woman doesn't meet their criteria- does she really need pages of un-related women posting, "Oh, I hope (Code Name) calls you back"? What purpose does it serve?

tunatartare · #4 10-11-2006, 04:40 PM

You're not in a sorority so you're having a hard time comprehending this. From what I understand, the AI decision is up to the local AA, the HQ, and maybe even some other people. If you met a girl at a bar who was dancing on top of the bar and stripping and the next night you saw her at rush, wouldn't you be cautious? That's the same thing for many of the women on GC. They are loyal and devoted members of their sororities and want to protect their integrity, reputation, and good names. If they see a PNAM on GC revealing their true colors on GC and acting in not so positive way, why shouldn't they try to influence HQ's decision when it comes to that person's AI?

Drolefille · #5 10-11-2006, 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by ReachTheLimit

Considering PNAI's don't reveal the sorority they are considering AI with, you don't know if it's your sorority or not, so I still maintain that it isn't anyone's concern, because ultimately, it's up to the local AA anyway.

You're posting on a public message board. People can ask you questions. The only obligation to answer them is an internal social response. You don't have to answer a challenge, but if you don't want comments, don't post it.

33girl · #6 10-11-2006, 04:31 PM

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If the AI forum is disbanded, I for one, wouldn't be posting here any longer and I would'nt recommend it to anyone else who is looking to AI either.

Posterity.

kddani · #7 10-11-2006, 04:34 PM

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The reason is, there is too much back-stabbing, vindictive behavior on GC. I have been reading through alot of threads, it's better than a book. I saw one thread (on the collegiate side) where a girl's boyfriend had dumped her, and his NEW girlfriend was getting ready to rush in the Spring at another college...she was posting to see if she should call the sorority there because "she couldn't deal with potentially having her as a sister". That's just nothing but high-school BULLSH*T, and I have read the same thing on the AI side. If a member gets into a fight on GC with PNAI, the first thing they say is, "We'll make sure you don't get in."

Obviously you didn't read that thread in its entirely or just forgot about what it actually said. The girl in question has a big time drug and alcohol problem. You also obviously didn't read the follow up, dear, as many people followed up encouraging her to base any potential action she may take on facts, not her personal drama.

ReachTheLimit · #8 10-11-2006, 04:38 PM

Yes Dear kddani, I did read the entire thread, and I how do you know that the person has drug and alcohol problems, because someone posted it on GC so you just assume it's true?

Her MAIN focus was it was the new girlfriend and she was upset b/c she got dumped and her ex has a few flavor.

_Lisa_ · #9 10-11-2006, 04:39 PM

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Yes Dear kddani, I did read the entire thread, and I how do you know that the person has drug and alcohol problems, because someone posted it on GC so you just assume it's true?

Her MAIN focus was it was the new girlfriend and she was upset b/c she got dumped and her ex has a few flavor.

Don't be a BURDEN, go debate in that thread, not here.

greekalum · #10 10-11-2006, 04:35 PM

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If the AI forum is disbanded, I for one, wouldn't be posting here any longer and I would'nt recommend it to anyone else who is looking to AI either. ...
I think potential AI members are tired of getting attacked for their interests and getting grilled by other GC members, who may NOT EVEN be a member of the sorority they are looking at, about why they want to join, etc. That isn't anyone's business, it's between the PNAI and the AA, and no PNAI should have to justify it to anyone on GC.

So you are not a member of a Greek organization but are already planning on what you will and will not do to advise other women looking to AI?

Most of the questions I have seen asked are the same questions the women will be asked by the organization they are looking to join. If they do not have a great answer here, I doubt they have a better answer in real life. But I'm with you- they should be keeping their interest more discreet so that their possible motives are not put in front of the whole internet to judge.

adpiucf · #11 10-11-2006, 05:36 PM

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If the AI forum is disbanded, I for one, wouldn't be posting here any longer and I would'nt recommend it to anyone else who is looking to AI either.

That's exactly what we are going for in the suggestion to disband the AI Forum. A sorority should come to you to invite you to AI. Not the other way around.

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From the dates in the AI forum, there are fewer and fewer posts for AI and it is getting less and less active for AI's. I think potential AI members are tired of getting attacked for their interests and getting grilled by other GC members, who may NOT EVEN be a member of the sorority they are looking at, about why they want to join, etc. That isn't anyone's business, it's between the PNAI and the AA, and no PNAI should have to justify it to anyone on GC.

You make it other people's business by sharing your story on a public message board. I don't care what any of you "AI seekers" are doing in real life, but your publicizing your sorority shopping on the internet gives others the idea that they should pursue it, too. And that's not how AI works for the vast majority of NPC sororities. It isn't something to be pursued. It's something to be approached about by a current sorority member.

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Originally Posted by ReachTheLimit

The reason is, there is too much back-stabbing, vindictive behavior on GC. I have been reading through alot of threads, it's better than a book. I saw one thread (on the collegiate side) where a girl's boyfriend had dumped her, and his NEW girlfriend was getting ready to rush in the Spring at another college...she was posting to see if she should call the sorority there because "she couldn't deal with potentially having her as a sister". That's just nothing but high-school BULLSH*T, and I have read the same thing on the AI side. If a member gets into a fight on GC with PNAI, the first thing they say is, "We'll make sure you don't get in."

As members of these organizations, we have every right to share information with chapters about PNM's whom we feel would not make good members. This is common practice and that is why we have PRIVATE MEMBERSHIP SELECTION POLICIES.

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I just don't understand where that kind of thinking comes from.

It comes from being part of an exclusive organization that does not have open membership.

ETA: The AI's don't need a forum. Once initiated, they are our sisters. These sisters, who joined through our alumnae initation programs, have 26 NPC forums dedicated to them and we want them to take part in all things in Greek Life online and IRL as our fellow equals. There should be no such thing as a PNAI because a sorority should approach you about AI in their organization. Thus there is no need for a forum about AI.

texas*princess · #12 10-11-2006, 07:19 PM

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You make it other people's business by sharing your story on a public message board. I don't care what any of you "AI seekers" are doing in real life, but your publicizing your sorority shopping on the internet gives others the idea that they should pursue it, too. And that's not how AI works for the vast majority of NPC sororities. It isn't something to be pursued. It's something to be approached about by a current sorority member.

AGREED.

So many of the AI stories start with "So I was lurking for the past 10 months and now I'm finally going to post!!!! I am so excited that there is AI because I couldn't rush in college because of ___________ and now that I'm 45 I'm ready to find my forever sorority home!! I already contacted 10 NPC groups and will name them after the characters on The OC! OMG I'm so excited!"