which way to go???

[Rachel0497]

I am very opinionated on this topic. I have told my fiance (who is not greek) that if our children chose to become a Zeta or Sigma I will pay for it, but if they were to chose another org they are on their own. He thinks I'm being unfair, but whatever! I have nothing but admiration for the other BGLO's, but of course, my money will go to my organization only. In the same vein, my younger sister will be going to college in a year and a half, and I have told her as well that if she ever chooses to join my org (on the undergrad level) , I will pay for it. If not, she best ask my mom for the money!!!!

[SeriousSigma22]

To Rachel1047,

Thank you for making your valued points! I agree with you 110% about only paying if your future daughters go your way! A parent will not hate their children for selecting another organization, however, they won't see a penny of their parents dollars . I wouldn't have the nerve to ask a parent to pay for membership into another organization.

Sorors and sister friends you have to plant the seeds of interest at a very early age. My 9 year old niece already knows that her mommy and aunt (me) are lovely ladies of the royal blue and gold and she attends events and hangs out with other sorors' daughters. My sister from day one planted the seed with my little niece . Folks if you lay out the foundation for sisterhood 9 times out of 10 the young ladies will have the strong desire to become a member of that particular organization. Stay blessed!

This topic is really a hot one!


Serioussigma22

[SweetestDiva]

SeriousSigma22 -
I agree wholeheartedly about planting the seed early. I had to share this little story. My mother is an Alpha Kappa Alpha woman, and I was exposed to AKA since before I can even remember. I just crossed this fall, and when I came home for Christmas, my mother took me into her bedroom and pulled out this folder. Inside was a page from a AKA coloring book I had colored in elementary school. The picture was of a little girl discovering the ivy vine, and there was a tree in the background with "I Love AKA" carved into it. Just looking at the picture brought tears to my eyes, and my mother told me she saved it immediately because she knew I would be her soror one day.

But to answer the question.... I'm not going to lie. I would be hurt if my daughter wanted to be part of another organization. However, my decision was based not only on my mother, but on what I saw when I came to college. Should my daughter decide she wants to pursue membership elsewhere, I would support that much more than I would her becoming my soror if AKA is not in her heart. But let her come ask me for money for anything else. Please.

[VIRTUOSITY2001]

My sister and I just recently had this discussion. Since I have joined Sigma Gamma Rho, my niece has been so happy and trying to learn as much as she can about greek life. My niece and I are very close and she likes to do the same things I have done in my life. My sister ( her mother) is interested in another sorority. My niece asked her mother if she choose Sigma Gamma Rho, how would she feel. And vice-versa with me. It made my sister and I think. We both told her that we would support her all her decisions. I had to point out to her that even though your mother didn't agree with my decision, she bought me my first keychain to encourage me in all of my endeavors. Even though I would want her to be Sigma Gamma Rho and her mother wants her to go another way. We will support her no matter what. It's about love. I love my family and what ever they want to do I support them.

I will be at her neophyte with my royal blue and gold no matter what


Soror Tracy

I love my 2 Rubies and 10 Pearls

I love it, I love it, I love it.

[rho4life]

What strikes me as interesting about this thread is that exposure is how my mom approached colleges. I didn't realize there were schools other than my mom's [and my ] alma matter until I was a teenager [we had to have someoine to play footbal against ]. While she encourgaed me to go to her school, she never said if I went to another school she wouldn't pay for it. To this day, my mom jokingly points out that I am proof that you can brainwash your kids into picking a great school.

At a certain point, are we taking our orgs too seriously? I will love SGR forever, however, I still respect ALL GREEKS. I don't have kids, but if a young woman in my family wanted to be in a GLO, or A BGLO, and needed some cash, I would help her out.

In many message boards, people write about the sisterhood that they have enjoyed. At the end of the day I want the young ladies in my life to enjoy whatver sisterhood WORKS FOR THEM.

[FSUBUTTERFLY]

I WOULD NEVER PRESSURE MY DAUGHTER INTO JOINING ANY GROUP THATS HOW YOU GET PEOPLE THAT RUIN THINGS. WHEN SOMEONE DECIDES TO JOIN AN ORGANIZATION, IT SHOULD BE BECAUSE THEY LOVE IT AND WANT TO CONTINUE A BEAUTIFUL LEGACY THAT MEANS SOMETHING TO HER, NOT JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE TOLD HER SHE HAD TO. I DONT FEEL THEY WOULD APPRECIATE IT . I THINK I WOULD MAYBE EVEN SUPPORT FINANCIALLY BECAUSE I WOULD WANT HER TO MAKE THE ORGANIZATION AND NOT THE OPPOSITE. BUT THEN AGAIN I AM NOT GREEK SO I DONT KNOW HOW IT FEELS FROM MANY OF YOUR POINTS OF VIEWS.

[FSUBUTTERFLY]

Originally posted by rho4life

At a certain point, are we taking our orgs too seriously? I will love SGR forever, however, I still respect ALL GREEKS. I don't have kids, but if a young woman in my family wanted to be in a GLO, or A BGLO, and needed some cash, I would help her out.

In many message boards, people write about the sisterhood that they have enjoyed. At the end of the day I want the young ladies in my life to enjoy whatver sisterhood WORKS FOR THEM.

I TOTALLY AGREE!!!!! THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT AND IT DOESNT SEEM LIKE A LOT OF GREEKS KNOW THIS! THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT AND I FEEL THAT GREEKS SHOULD DO MORE TO SHOW THAT THEY RESPECT EACH OTHER. ESPECIALLY IN THE BGLOS.

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