GLO membership and your wedding

[Drolefille]

Originally posted by LionTamer
1st Corinthians 13 is dear to the ASA heart, and I've notice most ASA weddings incorporate it, and I always looked for wedding cards that quoted it for my sister's weddings.

"If I speak with the languages of men and of angels, but don’t have love, I have become sounding brass, or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but don’t have love, I am nothing. If I dole out all my goods to feed the poor, and if I give my body to be burned, but don’t have love, it profits me nothing.

Love is patient and is kind; love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will be done away with. Where there are various languages, they will cease. Where there is knowledge, it will be done away with. For we know in part, and we prophesy in part; but when that which is complete has come, then that which is partial will be done away with. When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I felt as a child, I thought as a child. Now that I have become a woman, I have put away childish things. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I will know fully, even as I was also fully known. But now faith, hope, and love remain—these three. The greatest of these is love. "

Unsure if this has been mentioned further down, but this verse, in the Catholic church at least, is considered the Wedding verse. Nearly EVERY Catholic wedding uses this unless something else is requested. But this is "standard" So I don't know about any other Christian churches, but it doesn't surprise me that this is commonly used.

Still awesome that it just plain "fits" for both marriage and ASA though.

[Xylochick216]

Red carnations didn't go with the dresses or platinum roses I wanted, but I did have red carnations passed out to every Alpha Chi at the wedding. I had one sister at the door handing them out. I think the person most surprised by this was an Alpha Chi who I found living down the street from me. She is engaged to one of my neighbors, but we had never met before the wedding. I also wore my badge and lavalier inside of my dress.

We also had a lot of pictures taken, and towards the end of the evening, we all began requesting songs special to our chapter (recruitment songs, etc.) and sang them. Other people thought we were nuts, but we had a fabulous time.

[Contessima]

Originally posted by Drolefille
Unsure if this has been mentioned further down, but this verse, in the Catholic church at least, is considered the Wedding verse. Nearly EVERY Catholic wedding uses this unless something else is requested. But this is "standard"

I got married in the Catholic Church last June and did not use this verse. No one told me it was "standard" either. What do you mean by "unless something else is requested"? We were given lists of appropiate scripture reading, and of course that one was included, but it certainly wasn't the only option. My husband and I chose all the details of the Mass, right down to the arrangements of the Common Mass. We didn't have to "request" for anything to be different because it was simply expected that we would make those decisions for ourselves based on our relationship with each other and with God.

[Wolfman]

Lest this be seen as simply as a sorority brides' domain, it's "traditional" at the reception of Que(Omega Psi Phi) grooms to do three things: 1) for brothers to gather in the middle of the hall aroung the bride and sing the Omega Psi Phi Sweetheart Song to her ,2) for brothers to link up and sing our fraternity hymn, 'Omega Dear' and 3) immediately afterward for the DJ to crank up "Atomic Dog" and the the bruhs "set out a hop"(i.e., have an impromptu mini-step show). That's how we do it!

[rho4life]

I've been to a Que wedding. It was soooo funny to see the looks on some people's faces when dudes in tuxes started gettin' down!

[Wolfman]

Originally posted by rho4life
I've been to a Que wedding. It was soooo funny to see the looks on some people's faces when dudes in tuxes started gettin' down!

This summer one of our chapter brothers got married. His father-in-law, who is an Alpha, half-jokingly said after the "hop" at the reecpetion that he told his son, who communicated to him that he wanted to become a Que, that he would forbid him to come into his house barking.

[AndreaJo8648]

When one of my sisters was married over the summer she made sure that she wore a purple garter belt for us and gave us all a daisy to pin on our tops. She married someone in our brother fraternity so all of the groomsmen wore scarlet and grey ties.

[rho4life]

Originally posted by Wolfman
This summer one of our chapter brothers got married. His father-in-law, who is an Alpha, half-jokingly said after the "hop" at the reecpetion that he told his son, who communicated to him that he wanted to become a Que, that he would forbid him to come into his house barking.

/hijack/ so, I was at a Toga party with my Sorors in a residential neighborhood...and I say to the homeowner "wow, your neighbors have really LOUD dogs" [they had just recently moved into the house].
....
About a minute later the Ques come in, and I realized that their barks were TOO realistic! I still get teased about this!

end hijack/

[susan314]

I didn't have a big wedding, so there wasn't really anything to incorporate for me.

However, at many of my sorority sisters' weddings, we did a candlelighting. Most of us married non-fraternity men, so I can't tell you too much about what the guys did. However, IIRC, seems the one or two who did marry fraternity guys had some sort of fraternity related song as part of the wedding reception.

[AlexMack]

I'm going to have a dilemma for my wedding. 1 Corinthians 13 makes me barf everytime I hear it now. I'm not that keen on our colours for the wedding either. Maybe I'll compromise by using lavender and peach. IDk...I'll figure something out.

[KSUViolet06]

Whenever I get married, I'd like to honor Sigma in my wedding. I just don't want it to be something blatant and tacky like giant sailboat centerpices!

I'm thinking I'll wear my badge as my "something new".

I'd also like to wear a set of pearls because I like them, and also because the pearl is Tri Sigma's jewel.

Several chapter sisters of mine will most likely be in attendance so I would like them to sing our official song at my reception too. I saw it done at a sister's wedding I attended. We all circled around the bride & sang to her!

[jadis96]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Whenever I get married, I'd like to honor Sigma in my wedding. I just don't want it to be something blatant and tacky like giant sailboat centerpices!

I'm thinking I'll wear my badge as my "something new".

I'd also like to wear a set of pearls because I like them, and also because the pearl is Tri Sigma's jewel.

Several chapter sisters of mine will most likely be in attendance so I would like them to sing our official song at my reception too. I saw it done at a sister's wedding I attended. We all circled around the bride & sang to her!

Not that I am getting married anytime soon, but when I do I planned to wear my late grandmother's pearls as both my "something old" and my little nod to sigma. I will prolly buy some plain pearl studs as my "something new" too.

A few years ago I was at a sisters wedding... she did purple accents with blue and cream colors. (As much as I love sigma, sometimes a little purple goes a long way!) The centerpeices were gold candle holders, covered with cream flowers and with purple candles in them. Her dress was cream and she carried cream flowers wrapped in purple ribbons. Her badge was on her garter under her dress.

When my brother got married his wife didn't really want any of his Lambda Chi stuff there, but his best man was a brother too so they had small green ribbons under their buttoneers (I know bad spelling!) and I think the other brothers wore the same small green ribbons under their badges. I wish I could remember more, but sometimes that day was a blur!

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Whenever I get married, I'd like to honor Sigma in my wedding. I just don't want it to be something blatant and tacky like giant sailboat centerpices!

I'm thinking I'll wear my badge as my "something new".

I'd also like to wear a set of pearls because I like them, and also because the pearl is Tri Sigma's jewel.

Several chapter sisters of mine will most likely be in attendance so I would like them to sing our official song at my reception too. I saw it done at a sister's wedding I attended. We all circled around the bride & sang to her!

My biological sister had a cape cod themed wedding. If you wanted sailboats, perhaps you could incorporate them into a beachy wedding?

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally posted by Contessima
I got married in the Catholic Church last June and did not use this verse. No one told me it was "standard" either. What do you mean by "unless something else is requested"? We were given lists of appropiate scripture reading, and of course that one was included, but it certainly wasn't the only option. My husband and I chose all the details of the Mass, right down to the arrangements of the Common Mass. We didn't have to "request" for anything to be different because it was simply expected that we would make those decisions for ourselves based on our relationship with each other and with God.

I think a lot of Catholic churches kind of say "Here is the standard reading" and assume you know that you do have the freedom to pick out other verses. I know the church I attend does 3-4 weddings a weekend every weekend except Lent and Advent, and they have a THREE YEAR waiting list, so they might not necessarily have as much time to sit down with the bride and groom.

[Drolefille]

Thanks GeekyPenguin, that's basically what I meant.

I wasn't trying to imply anything negative by it. It's just an incredibly common gospel reading for weddings and even though the church doesn't say "here, this is your reading" I suspect many priests do say, "and we usually read This unless you have another one you'd prefer" or some such.

No need to have toes stepped on!