GLO membership and your wedding

[seraphimsprite]

I wore my badge under my dress as well as a pearl ring that we all made the night before our initiation. The tradition in our chapter was that the rings were only worn on our initiation day and our wedding day. During the cake cutting I played the instrumental version of St. Elmo's Fire and my sorority sisters sang the "Sigma Kappa version."

[alum]

Originally posted by ISUKappa
I love hearing what other Kappas do at weddings. I've heard some chapters sing Our Best To You, some do Dream Awhile and some do ones I'm not familiar with.

Of course, my chapter doesn't do the nice, pretty songs; we do the fun ones.

From what I recall (I got married a LONG time ago) my sisters (chapter AND my double bio/GLO sister) conducted a rousing 2 verses of Oh Pat! along with our nicer songs. My husband's West Point classmates (no fraternities at USMA) sang something lovely as well.

Now that I think of it, we had purple and gold subtle accents at my SAE brother's reception and I remember my sister's chapter sisters singing to her as well. I know my SILs both married Sigma Chis and I believe they serenaded each of them as well.

[honeychile]

I wish I had a photo of this, but when I was a collegian, a recent alumna married an SAE. There were violets everywhere, lions at every doorway, favorites of candied violets, but the coup de grace was their wedding cake. I hope I can do this justice!

They had 625 guests, so of course, the cake had to be large. The bottom tiers (separate, about a foot apart) were the Alpha Delta Pi pin and the Sigma Alpha Epsilon pin - both diamond shaped. Columns were on those, so you could appreciate that these were replicas of the pins, then the cake tiers continued, all diamond shaped, violets seeming to ooze from the top of each tier, draping down the sides.

About 3 tiers up, a staircase started on each of the cakes, one showing the bridesmaids (all ADPis), the other the groomsmen (all SAEs). This staircase made a bridge about 3 feet from the table, where the Bride & Groom were replaced by a sterling frame of linked hearts, with their photo in it. A canopy was over this, and then the cake went up into 2 more united layers - heart shaped. The symbolism was their GLOs, of course, with the bride & groom meeting, and love (the hearts) taking over. It was incredible, and I can't even begin to imagine how it stayed together, let alone how much it cost! Amazing.

As for me, I had an equal amount of ADPis and Phi Mus in my wedding party - even though Phi Mu isn't on our campus! There were violets in the spring bouquets, and my favorite legacy carried a basket of violets. I wore my pin on my camisole (sapphire points, so it was "something blue"), and there was a diamond pattern in all of the linens (that took some doing!). My sisters seranaded us with "Remember", and the dj played a special segment of "our songs". One memorable photo had me joining the standard kick line in my wedding dress to "New York, New York"! Unfortunately, I had the wrong groom...

[Rio_Kohitsuji]

Right now we're having a mixture of both org's for our wedding, however there's a lot more TKE stuff than my Lambda stuff. So far we are incorporating red (or cherry, heh) as the accent color and red roses for me and red carnations for him and his bro's that will be involved. All my sisters who come will be giving a red rose and for any of how bro's who show will get a beer

Also, we're going to have about 4 other sororities at our wedding, oh the songs we'll be singing....

Here's a random question that was asked by him, since he pinned me and I have his pin, do I wear it or does he? We don't care either way but we're just curious.

[preciousjeni]

Originally posted by Rio_Kohitsuji
Here's a random question that was asked by him, since he pinned me and I have his pin, do I wear it or does he? We don't care either way but we're just curious.

Wear it inside your dress.

[honeychile]

Originally posted by Rio_Kohitsuji
Right now we're having a mixture of both org's for our wedding, however there's a lot more TKE stuff than my Lambda stuff. So far we are incorporating red (or cherry, heh) as the accent color and red roses for me and red carnations for him and his bro's that will be involved. All my sisters who come will be giving a red rose and for any of how bro's who show will get a beer

Also, we're going to have about 4 other sororities at our wedding, oh the songs we'll be singing....

Here's a random question that was asked by him, since he pinned me and I have his pin, do I wear it or does he? We don't care either way but we're just curious.

What we did - if you both have guards on your pins - is that I wore my pin & guard, then pinned his directly under it, looped the chains together and pinned the guard. It makes an X if you do it right.

[alum]

Originally posted by honeychile
What we did - if you both have guards on your pins - is that I wore my pin & guard, then pinned his directly under it, looped the chains together and pinned the guard. It makes an X if you do it right.

Do you have a picture of that?

I wore my husband's pin on my left but closer to the middle of my sternum and my badge to my left of that. The round part of the key merged nicely with the shape of his pin.

[honeychile]

Originally posted by alum
Do you have a picture of that?

I wore my husband's pin on my left but closer to the middle of my sternum and my badge to my left of that. The round part of the key merged nicely with the shape of his pin.

No, I don't - I didn't have a camera while I was in school (couldn't be bothered, LOL). And I don't think I can "draw" it on this message board. Since my pin is a diamond, and the PiKA pin is somewhat of one, they fit together nicely, both over my heart, but his under and slightly to the right (looking at me) of mine. Both guards were in their usual places, but the little chains crossed.

The easiest way was to put my pin and guard on, then his pin under mine, and take the little guard chain under mine, then put his guard under mine. Does that help?

[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

Sounds like a nice way to incorporate them both, Honey.


Not for nothing, but I'll note here that in the "how to wear your badge" part of every pledge book I've ever seen, there's a paragraph explaining that your badge should always be above anything else you wear, and closest to your heart.

I think it's a holdover from when girls were more frequently pinned on college campuses, and "where do I put his?" was a bigger question.

[texas*princess]

My chapter's Alpha Mom (or New Member Coordinator if you want to get nit-picky!) gave all of her Alpha class blue and white ribbons connected with a safety pin the day of initiation. She told us to save them (I still have mine!) for our weddings so we can use them as "something blue" and as a reminder later on of our initaiton day

[washrinserepeat]

My chapter had a pin that had been donated by an alumni and everyone had the chance to wear it under their gown. It came with a journal and had been passed down for years and years. It was really great to be able to wear the pin and write something about your wedding in the journal. Also fun to read. I don't know if they still do it or not. I will be celebrating 25 years in May! My sisters serenaded me with "My Pi Phi Girl" and my husbands brothers with "The Sweetheart of Sigma Chi" it was so moving!!!

[xo_kathy]

Since my senior year I was voted "Most Likely to have her wedding colors be cardinal and straw" I couldn't let my sisters down!
The girls wore red dresses and carried yellow roses. My maid of honor - also a Chi O - carried red and yellow roses with some white carnations. I also had a few white carnations in my bouquet.

The cake was pale yellow with red roses on it. The tablecloths were pale yellow and one of the favors were dried MI cherries - which represented my home state, but also put some red onto the tables!

I pinned my badge to the ribbon on my bouquet as well.

Originally posted by AGDee
I've never been to a wedding that didn't have this passage (1st Corinthians 13) read... greek or not.

Mine didn't! I had an Apache wedding blessing read and Colossions 3 12-15:

Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.

[TSteven]

Originally posted by Rio_Kohitsuji
Here's a random question that was asked by him, since he pinned me and I have his pin, do I wear it or does he? We don't care either way but we're just curious.

When my sister got married, she wore the groom's badge pinned to her garter. The garter was made by her and her sorority sisters in the sorority colors. Part of the tradition was that the bride-to-be, in this case my sister, was the one to sew the letters on it. After the groom removed the garter, he presented it to my sister (the bride). She removed the badge from the garter and presented both back to her husband. This was symbolic in that she had "replaced" his fraternity badge with the wedding ring.

FYI: Being the nimble kid that I was, I caught it! And I still have it. I offered it back to her years later, but she said it was part of her wedding memories. Her little brother out jumping all these "grown men" to get it.

[TSteven]

Originally posted by alum
I know my SILs both married Sigma Chis and I believe they serenaded each of them as well.

I would be surprised it they didn't. It's pretty much a tradition.

[honeychile]

Originally posted by washrinserepeat
My chapter had a pin that had been donated by an alumni and everyone had the chance to wear it under their gown. It came with a journal and had been passed down for years and years. It was really great to be able to wear the pin and write something about your wedding in the journal. Also fun to read. I don't know if they still do it or not. I will be celebrating 25 years in May! My sisters serenaded me with "My Pi Phi Girl" and my husbands brothers with "The Sweetheart of Sigma Chi" it was so moving!!!

I got chills when I read that!! Can you imagine a journal of 100 years of brides, wearing their pins on their wedding day?!