Duchovnysfan's rush @ LMU

[FSUZeta]

it would be really sweet of you to share the good advice you received AFTER your recruitment is over. i am sure that other pnms would love to hear what that young woman had to say.
best wishes for good news tomorrow!!

[Duchovnysfan]

Day 3 (I think I lost count already) is just winding down. With day 3, we got our invites back. At the time, I didn't what much to think where I got 1 invite back, Icebreakers. I will admit I was really shocked, I had so many emotions going through my head. I was really happy that I got Icebreakers b/c quite honestly I was not expecting it at all! They were in the my top 4 but I thought that I may get an invite back from Smarties or whatever. I think right then and there I went into a tale spin b/c the very thing that I was hoping that would not happen (get only 1 invite back) actually did. Thankfully, I had about a good 1 hour to regain composure and see that Icebreakers did invite me back! So this is what happened....

So I was paired with one girl and the minute I came into the room; I was really touched. I started to tear up while they were singing. Then I was paired (I said that too early) with one girl and felt completely open with her, and just felt so happy to be there! Then several girls that I knew came up to me, gave me hugs and saw how I was doing. I absolutely loved it and felt the genuineness of them really happy to see me. Then some girls - I didn't know - came up to me and said they heard about me from their other sisters that I knew or had class with said what a wonderful person I was. I got really emotional and started to cry because it meant so much to me. It wasn't tears of sadness but tears of happiness. I was just so happy to be in their presence. I absolutely loved it more so than I did the last 2 days; it was buidling up. I really liked the speeches and the last one actually inpsired me. Just from observing from today, those little moments are things that attracted so much to participate and find my fit in a sorority. The thought that I only got into 1 and not say 2, 3 or 4 went away easily. So of course, with only one to rank, I ranked Icebreakers, 1.

Today will be the day where I hope that I will not get the "dreaded phone call" but statistically and realistically the odds are not in my favor - you know with matchup, so if it comes I understand b/c I know I did everything I could and enjoyed it and developed a strong connection with ladies @ Icebreakers would be something I can add to my life and it knowing it was not because they did not like me or fit in. I'm thinking about COB/informal recruitment as an alternate, to keep my options open but it depends how everything plays out.

Honestly, I just feel at peace for me esssentially it's over b/c if I do get invited back tomorrow I will get a bid from them b/c it's only one (I talked to my Rho Chis and said this was the case) and if not I'm going to over stress the fact that I have to choose and let go of one and etc is a lot to deal with.

Whatever may happen thanks to all, recruitment was a great experience. I do not hold any animosity towards sororities. The way I thought of it, that's how the cookie crumbles sometimes.

I sound like that it's officially over and thinking I will be cut from Icebreakers via matching but after talking to a couple of Rho Chis, that's pretty much where I stand right now. It's a feeling I cannot explain it just is.

[Jill1228]

Hey hon! Crossing my fingers that you hear something good from icebreakers (I am partial to the cinnamon flavor)

[adpi*violet]

Good luck to you.... It sounds as if the party went well for both you and the sisters of Icebreakers. It's out of your hands now, though. You already did everything you could.... so just wait to see what tommorow brings. Try not to dwell on it. You can't count your chickens before they hatch... or don't hatch.
By the way... My little brother went to LMU, so I've been following your thread with interest. He was a member of Sursum Corda (I think), but just graduated last spring.

[CarolinaCutie]

I'm thinking of you and hoping that everything goes WONDERFULLY tomorrow You have such a great attitude though- so I'm sure whatever happens, you'll be just fine.

[Jestor]

Here's to hoping you get in!

Ironically enough, I was munching on Icebreakers as I read this thread.

[kchaptergphib]

good luck, honey, I'll think ICEBREAKERS for you!

it seemed like a great match from the start, so here's hoping that everything works out!

but I am glad that you are still keeping COB an option, especially since you had good experiences at a variety of houses, but only went to one final party.

but let's not think about that yet... come on, ICEBREAKERS!

[ASUADPi]

Well today is bid day and I'm sending positive vibes your way.


"icebreakers, icebreakers, icebreakers"

[oceanphi01]

Come on Icebreakers!!!!!

[Duchovnysfan]

Well, without much surprise, I did get the phone call @ midnight. It was interesting because it was not my Rho Chi that called but the director of recruitment. We talked for almost 10 minutes about it even though we talked about the possibility of being released for 2 hours after my last party on Sisterhood Day. When I got the phone call, I was relieved because there was no more uncertainty

Honestly, it's okay, yes the fact I was released does sting but I know it has nothing to do with me; I did everything I could and glad I went the way I went out after my last party with Icebreakers. Being in that party is something that will always have a special place in my heart because I felt a strong connection with the girls I got a chance to talk to and was so happy that I got be there and enjoy the time I had with them.

If you were at all the bit curious about who's who (I have been wanting to reveal this for a long time) here it is....

Icebreakers = Delta Gamma
Hershey's Kisses = Delta Delta Delta
Smarties = Delta Zeta
Red Vines = Pi Beta Phi
Cream Savers = Alpha Phi
Starburst = Kappa Alpha Theta
Twizzlers = Sigma Lambda Gamma
Skittles = Delta Sigma Theta

I'm hoping for a snap bid but those are rare so I will not be surprised if that falls through. Now after giving it much thought, I really want to give COB/Informal recruitment a shot if given the opporunity. I know my status as an upperclassmen was irrelevant because @ LMU everyone was encouraged to join no matter what year you are.

Overall, I'm glad I rushed. Even though, it was not a happy ending I'm proud that I went through this because I wanted to and made the decision to do so on my own. I didn't rush because everyone else was doing it or just to have exchanges/formals. I wanted to join a sorority because of the sisterhood, friendships, leadership/service opporunities, and to have a new experience and always to look back on it as a great investment. Most of all, thanks to everyone for their support! The well wishes and thoughtful words mean so much to me, I got teary-eyed more at the wonderful replies and support than being released from rush Also, I know being released is not the end of the world, I'm happy with what I have, I'm in involved in a bunch of other things on campus but being in a sorority would have been a great thing to add to my life or else why go through it if I didn't think so If COB/informal recruitment does occur I will definitely continue this thread because I know it's not completely over there's still a chance.

[preciousjeni]

You have a terrific attitude!!! All the best to you!

[aephi alum]

I'm sorry to hear things didn't work out for you. But you have a great attitude - good luck with COB!

[Rollergirl2001]

Sorry to hear about that. Please check your PM box, Duchovnysfan's.

[FSUZeta]

i am so sorry that things didn't work out for you. i'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

i do want to say, that your thread was one of the most descriptive, without giving anything away, that i can remember reading on greekchat. i truly got caught up in your excitement, and felt that i was right there in those parties too.

[sageofages]

Going by what you have written, all I can say is I am sad for these chapters. What a gem they have overlooked.

Perhaps, living well is the best reflection and their eyes will be opened.