Sorors, SFs, One & All

[oneinamillion]

Originally posted by candygirl


3. Establishing relationship with the women of my desired sorority. (This one really means a lot to me because I've never had a close relationship with a member. Its kind of depressing though. Especially when we go out and they're greeted by members. It never fails, someone always thinks I'm a member and I have to say "No I'm not a member." It just hurts my heart.

This is exactly where I am, right now! I have bought tickets and attended events. It has been hard because I've had to take it upon myself to meet (by making the first move) members that knew NOTHING ABOUT ME and express my interest and my reasons. However, the silent auctions, other public events, and etc. have been fun I must admit but it's like this: I attend the public functions, I'm more than willing to put my money and time down for the cause, I surf the net religiously, I keep in contact with my contact person. I can only hope I am selected to be called when the time comes. I'm speaking from a grad point of view! .

[Honeykiss1974]

Originally posted by NOWorNEVER


1. I am working like you wouldn't believe on my grades and gpa. This is my first semester at a new school and I get a brand new GPA so there is no way in the world I'm messing up this go round.
2. I have involved myself in numerous activities: social, volunteer, civic, etc.
3. Praying for strength, a sound mind, FAVOR with everyone I meet, and for God to keep my eyes and ears alert to things going on around me.
Also, my interest now is different. I don't know who all here is religious, but since I have improved my relationship w/ God, I'm very relaxed and things do not stress me out anymore. It's weird but wonderful at the same time. At first I was sweatin' the deltas on the yard hard and breaking my neck to speak and whatnot....thought becoming a member would be the grrrrrrrreatest thing in the world....heart bout to jump out my chest every time I went to a forum or event (y'all know what I mean ) But now that I've grown, matured a lil bit more, realized that deltas are just people and not idols, and watched one of my best friends cross, I just think that if it's meant to happen, God will bring the opportunity. Don't get me wrong, my interest is still strong but I feel more at peace now.

Whats funny is that now I am informed of things going on w/ the chapter without even looking hard or asking, whereas before I was all hyped brighteyed & goofy and missing all kinds of good stuff. And how much more relaxed I am as members approach me and find out more about me. I don't know if anyone can relate...it's just late at night

I certainly can sistah! When you are given PEACE about a situation, things are different. Remember the "God takes care of His children".

[NiaX]

I went to a religious seminar at Ky. State Univ. this weekend and was shocked at the subject presented.

This program was presented by 2 ladies that denounced Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. They were members of Alpha Pi's Fall 2001 line, and they denounced their letters in June 2002.

A man by the name of Minister Fred Hatcher (sp?) spoke on GLOs (white and black) and Christianity, and why they don't mix. He has been speaking on this subject matter after denouncing Omega Psi Phi Fraternity, Inc and the Masonic Order.
He said that you should not form a bond with anyone of unequal yoke (meaning faith) and that you should not join a GLO because the rituals of the GLOs require you to compromise your bond with Jesus Christ. He said that all the service that we do is in the name of the GLO and not Jesus Christ. Also, he pretty much stated that if you join a GLO, you are going to hell. But then, he was contradicting himself the whole time he was speaking too. And he try to down play Delta, Sorors. He was talking about Bishop Vashti Mackenzie, and a review she gave on a book. I mean dang, if she liked the book, she liked it. Who cares what position she holds, she is HUMAN like everyone else. Minister Fred, also a website and here it is:
http://www.1stBooks.com/Bookview/8065
The website may not work, so here is his email address: reprebres@cs.com



SFs, things do happen, and I don't try to persuade ANYONE's thoughts on anything, except for this:

You are your own person. Keep doing the things you do to keep your interest up and KNOW what YOU want out of the org you are choosing. Don't let ANYONE deter you from living your life. If you want to pursue DST or any GLO, do it, but only b/c you have taken that long hard look at yourself and can see how the org fits YOU, and not how YOU fit the org. Keep GOD and Jesus in all that you do and you will know if GLOs are not right for you.

Sorors, if this message gets deleted, I understand. But it has to be know what some people are saying nowadays.

Alright, stepping down now....

[PhDiva]

I have some questions for ALL BGLO sorority members. Did YOU join your sorority through a collegiate or alumnae chapter?

For those who joined via the ALUMNAE chapter,
A. Did you apply for membership during your college years?
No because there was no undergrad chapter of SGRho at my school

B. While waiting for the chance to join, what did you do in the meantime?
I learned about SGRho while in graduate school (and I've been in school forever) but after I made my interest known, I finished my education, continued doing my community service work

C. While others around you were becoming members, how did you stay focused on the mission of joining the sisterhood that you felt lead to pursue?
I focused on making myself the best applicant possible by stepping up the quality and quantity of community service I was involved in, supporting public alumnae chapter events and staying connected to members of SGRho through our sorority's public message board.


My best advise for SF who wish to become sorors is to
(1) Be discreet and thoughtful about your interactions with members. You can show your interest without being obnoxious about it. I am a SF turned soror and no one here knew of my interest in SGRho. I purposefully kept my interest to myself, to the members of the alumnae chapter I was interested in joining and a few friends - one a Delta who tried to talk me out of pledging SGRho (LOL) and a SGRho who helped me get in contact with the alumnae chapter in my area.
(2) Do your service and make yourself the best applicant possible. If you haven't done much service, get to work. If your interviewing skills are sub par, have a friend help you.
(3) Live your life. I'm a neo and I love SGRho to the fullest but I am also about to be married, have a full time job as a college professor, and have family that I spend time with. Learn how to balance your desire to become a member with the other priorities in your life. Esp. when you pursue membership in a grad chapter, you will find women balancing multiple commitments (work, kids, school, sorority).
(4) Stay positive and know that God doesn't close one door without opening another one. If this year you are rejected from pursuing membership, treat that as a learning experience. Tighten up your application and your communication skills and try again. Our organizations don't want women who give up on the first try.

Best wishes to all,
PhDiva

[Wonderful1908]

I went undergrad on my first go at it.

However I agree 100% with what others have said, if you are undergrad and get rejected please keep striving. I am mature and old enough to know we really let go of some great canidates because of silly immature reasons. Remember sometimes the 19-20 year old mindset is just 2-3 years removed from high school

There were also some people though who just knew they had it and thats were discretion and humility are key, you don't have anything until you cross those burning sands!

[Little32]

I have some questions for ALL BGLO sorority members. Did YOU join your sorority through a collegiate or alumnae chapter? I joined a graduate chapter.
A. Did you apply for membership during your college years? No
B. While waiting for the chance to join, what did you do in the meantime?Got a Ph.D, served the community, generally continued to live a very happy and full life.
C. While others around you were becoming members, how did you stay focused on the mission of joining the sisterhood that you felt lead to pursue?I just knew that I wanted to become a member of my sorority and that I would patiently persevere until I got an opportunity.

To ALL BGLO Sorority members, what advice would you give those who were not chosen this year for membership?

First, know that membership in any sorority is a luxury, not a necessity. Your life will go on even if you are not accepted for membership at this time. I waited seven years for my opportunity to join My sorority and, as I said above, continued to live my life and do those things that were important to me.
Second, keep persevering. If sorority membership is meant for you, your opportunity will come again. But you have to be ready to take advantage of it when it arises.
Finally, K.I.M. You will probably never know the reasons why you were not chosen for membership at this time. It is not useful to spend a lot of time speculating, being angry or bitter. I know everyone feels these feelings at least initially, but wallowing in them for too long is counterproductive in every way.

[TRYIN HARD]

Also, I must add everyone knows for a fact that some girls have all the credentials and are not chosen simply because someone doesn't like them. At an HBCU girls were so petty. Some girls didn't get chosen because they dated an Alpha, or the ex-boyfriend of a Delta, because they were overweight, etc. I also knew a girl that was on line to be a Delta, while running to be the university queen. After she lost the competition the Deltas dropped her from her line, as if to say we don't want a loser on our line. All of you can deny it, but a lot of pettiness goes along with this process, and I hate to say it, but it's because women are known for being catty and hatin' on one another. Don't get me wrong, I think your organization is filled with greatness, but the pledging process for all GLO is often filled with a lot of BS.

[ladygreek]

^^^ First of all you responded to a post that is a year old. Second, you have made some bad assumptions. Third, and yes I am insensitive, someone with an attitude like yours needs not to join any BGLO. And last, maybe you should transfer to a PWI.

[TRYIN HARD]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

^^^ First of all you responded to a post that is a year old. Second, you have made some bad assumptions. Third, and yes I am insensitive, someone with an attitude like yours needs not to join any BGLO. And last, maybe you should transfer to a PWI.

So, and I don't care if it is a year old. I haven't made any bad assumptions, I have seen these things happen to people that's all. But, I'm the one with the attitude.

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by TRYIN HARD

So, and I don't care if it is a year old. I haven't made any bad assumptions, I have seen these things happen to people that's all. But, I'm the one with the attitude.

Have some respect please. You can't insult members of an organization and expect them not to respond. Whatever you observed at your school is only hearsay to the members here and you can't say anything about a membership intake process being petty or BS since you haven't gone thru such a process yourself.

Also, many of the members on this board are not undergrads. Many are alumnae members, some of which who have been active in their organizations for 15, 20, 30 years and you could learn a whole lot from them. Our members are different people with different opinions so just because someone says something that you don't like, it doesn't mean you should attack the entire organization. I take it that you joined greekchat to interact with members of the organization that you one day hope to be a part of. Don't mess that up.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by TRYIN HARD

So, and I don't care if it is a year old. I haven't made any bad assumptions, I have seen these things happen to people that's all. But, I'm the one with the attitude.

Based on what you posted you have made some bad assumptions. Unless you were behind the closed doors of the chapter, you are missing vital background information. And there are always two, sometimes three sides to a story.

Oh and very honestly, I am being nice.

[pinkies up]

Originally Posted by TRYIN HARD

Also, I must add everyone knows for a fact that some girls have all the credentials and are not chosen simply because someone doesn't like them. At an HBCU girls were so petty. Some girls didn't get chosen because they dated an Alpha, or the ex-boyfriend of a Delta, because they were overweight, etc. I also knew a girl that was on line to be a Delta, while running to be the university queen. After she lost the competition the Deltas dropped her from her line, as if to say we don't want a loser on our line. All of you can deny it, but a lot of pettiness goes along with this process, and I hate to say it, but it's because women are known for being catty and hatin' on one another. Don't get me wrong, I think your organization is filled with greatness, but the pledging process for all GLO is often filled with a lot of BS.

As my sistergreeks have already stated, you aren't helping your case AT ALL. You have a bad taste in your mouth because you can't deal with rejection. It's a part of life and while I didn't receive a rejection letter, there have been times when I was rejected. Did I come to post my disgust of the GAP, or it's affiliates? The first undergraduate university I applied to? The first job I interviewed for? NO. Rejection means look and see what you need to improve upon and if it's for you or in your heart, try again.

[onetruediva1913]

Originally Posted by TRYIN HARD

Also, I must add everyone knows for a fact that some girls have all the credentials and are not chosen simply because someone doesn't like them. At an HBCU girls were so petty. Some girls didn't get chosen because they dated an Alpha, or the ex-boyfriend of a Delta, because they were overweight, etc. I also knew a girl that was on line to be a Delta, while running to be the university queen. After she lost the competition the Deltas dropped her from her line, as if to say we don't want a loser on our line. All of you can deny it, but a lot of pettiness goes along with this process, and I hate to say it, but it's because women are known for being catty and hatin' on one another. Don't get me wrong, I think your organization is filled with greatness, but the pledging process for all GLO is often filled with a lot of BS.

So I really want to respond sensibly however I think right now you are very BITTER with rejection so you probably would be on the defense about anything I say so with that being said I will try to respond to the best of my ability. If you were not chosen for the line at your school for whatever reason it is something you have to deal with.Either you try again or you sit back and hate on those who made it. However commenting on a PLEDGE PROCESS you clearly know NOTHING about is not the way to get my sorors or anyone else to offer advice that may help you in your quest to greekdom.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by CrimsonTide4

Hello Everyone,
It is that time of the year again. Some prospectives are getting acceptance letters and others are being rejected.

I have some questions for ALL BGLO sorority members. Did YOU join your sorority through a collegiate or alumnae chapter?

Undergraduate chapter at Spelman College in 1989.

Originally Posted by CrimsonTide4

To ALL BGLO Sorority members, what advice would you give those who were not chosen this year for membership?

Take it from someone who really knows... Your slate must be cleaned and cleared from all blemishes on anyone's record and what anyone says--loose lips sinks ships... Be careful of the company you keep you never know who might be watching...

And it is like a career without retirement, if you want it, you best be out there, visibly enthralled with the magnitude of the organization. That takes research, searching for answers, and knowing conflict resolution, organizational management and parliamentary/operational procedures.

A one time dose of membership intake activities will NEVER prepare you for a lifetime of membership!!! But going to chapter meetings, conferences both regional/national, etc. will... And paying all your required assessments.

When called, will you be there?

If you are looking to have a bunch a friends to kick it with that has this one kind of thing in common, wow, dude, you need to have more of a life...

[onetruediva1913]

I joined Delta as a undergrad and would not trade my experience for the WORLD!

As far as the rejection letters I encourage people to try again and just make sure that you are on point. Sometimes you may have to look at your attitude to see why you did not get in. As a past chapter president I have had to put my john hancock on many rejection letters so I know how the whole process goes of having to send the dreaded letter. But please do not be discouraged as i stated before just try again. If DST is in your heart nothing or no one can stop you from getting to your goal.