Sweethearts wearing letters?

[DeeZeeOE07]

On my campus, getting lavaliered (we call it getting Dropped) is a pretty big deal. Being lavaliered is the only way a girl can wear a fraternity's stitched letters. Sweethearts aren't allowed to unless they are dropped. I'm not sure if they can wear stuff that says "XYZ Sweetheart" or not because I've never seen a shirt like that on my campus. Two girls in my chapter were both dropped by members of the same fraternity and their boyfriends made them shirts and gave them to them along with a necklace. My big sis was dropped by a Lambda Chi and her shirt had the Lambda Chi Alpha block letters with Delta Zeta embroidered in English across them. On the back it said "Jackson's Girl" to clarify she was a girlfriend of a member. I know that my boyfriend doesn't plan on dropping me for a while but I can't wait for it to happen! Also, girls are allowed to wear screenprinted shirts as long as they are for events (Rush, Homecoming, Game Day, etc.) or if they have other GLO letters on them. I just ordered a Lambda Chi girl shirt that has their letters on the front with "Lambda Chi Cutie Pie" on the back with a piece of pie. I can't wait for them to get them in! I'm actually really glad the guys are pretty strict on wearing letters. Also, I've never heard of a Non-Greek girlfriend being dropped or allowed to wear letters. But nearly every guy I know who is greek who has a girlfiend is dating a fellow greek. I know that if I saw a random girl wearing my boyfriend's letters I would be pretty upset. Non-Greeks just don't seem to understand the meaning of it...

[angelnside]

Originally Posted by DeeZeeOE07

On my campus, getting lavaliered (we call it getting Dropped) is a pretty big deal. Being lavaliered is the only way a girl can wear a fraternity's stitched letters. Sweethearts aren't allowed to unless they are dropped. I'm not sure if they can wear stuff that says "XYZ Sweetheart" or not because I've never seen a shirt like that on my campus. Two girls in my chapter were both dropped by members of the same fraternity and their boyfriends made them shirts and gave them to them along with a necklace. My big sis was dropped by a Lambda Chi and her shirt had the Lambda Chi Alpha block letters with Delta Zeta embroidered in English across them. On the back it said "Jackson's Girl" to clarify she was a girlfriend of a member. I know that my boyfriend doesn't plan on dropping me for a while but I can't wait for it to happen! Also, girls are allowed to wear screenprinted shirts as long as they are for events (Rush, Homecoming, Game Day, etc.) or if they have other GLO letters on them. I just ordered a Lambda Chi girl shirt that has their letters on the front with "Lambda Chi Cutie Pie" on the back with a piece of pie. I can't wait for them to get them in! I'm actually really glad the guys are pretty strict on wearing letters. Also, I've never heard of a Non-Greek girlfriend being dropped or allowed to wear letters. But nearly every guy I know who is greek who has a girlfiend is dating a fellow greek. I know that if I saw a random girl wearing my boyfriend's letters I would be pretty upset. Non-Greeks just don't seem to understand the meaning of it...

wow very well stated

[SthrnZeta]

Wow, I wish I had found this thread earlier! I totally agree that you should wait until initiation to wear your chapter's letters and I've seen many good arguments on this thread. I started a similar thread and got a lot of backlash from some women about whether it was or was not hazing but the NPC's definition is so vague that almost anything can be construed as hazing. Thanks again GCers for making some very intelligent arguments (especially Mystic and RutgersPike).

ETA: I also agree that the new member period is rather easy as far as things being handed to us, etc. But it's meant to be a celebratory time as well as a time for learning about your org. ZTA has something called Link Week the week prior to initiation and I think it's a really good idea - it's meant to solidify your lifetime commitment to ZTA and really makes you think hard about your decision to be initiated. I know there's been some discussion about lengthening the NM period and requiring grades to be in before you can be initiated - both good ideas IMO.