Random Invite from a Sorority - Page 2

texas*princess · #1 10-13-2005, 10:20 PM

Good luck to you!

I was a COR'er too!

LisAlly514 · #2 10-13-2005, 10:50 PM

Thanks everyone for your help and advice! I'll keep you posted!

FSUZeta · #3 10-14-2005, 07:41 AM

welcome to alpha chi emily!!

lisally, i am so glad you had a good time and that you have been invited to visit them again. best wishes!!

LisAlly514 · #4 10-15-2005, 02:09 AM

well...had the second event today.

I really like the girls, but I was only the only rushee there so it was slightly awkward, but it seemed to work out okay.

One thing that worries me is that I was asked to leave half an hour before the invitation said the event was to end; I was told the event was over. This may have been the case in actuality, but I haven't heard back from the house. Do you guys think I was released?

copacabana · #5 10-15-2005, 02:44 AM

Unless you seriously got the vibe that things weren't working out at all between you and any of the girls there, I doubt you were released. Maybe they felt that since you were the only PNM there that they had ample time to get to know you and just decided to let you out early. From my experience (little though it may be), rush is really structured and everything is down to the minute, but COR is much more laid back and the actual time frame is pretty loose.
I just CORed into my chapter a couple weeks ago, and it took me more than a week to hear back from them after my COR event. There might be some paperwork technicalities, or maybe they're waiting to have a meeting to vote. Hang in there!

AChiOhSnap · #6 10-15-2005, 02:51 AM

LisAlly, seriously don't worry about it. I don't know how it is at other schools, but at my school you can't be "released" from COBing. You either get a bid or you don't. If you were the only PNM it is entirely possible, IMO, that the sisters were just like "Okay well since there's only one girl here, we don't need the extra time to get to know multiple girls." I'm sure they appreciated that you had the interest to show up! That interest seems like it would only be highlighted by being the only PNM in attendance.

I hope everything works out the way you want it to! Please let us know... I'm rooting for you!

AChiOhSnap · #7 10-15-2005, 02:59 AM

Oh one other thing really quick...after I went to COB events for Alpha Chi, I sent a "thank you" email to the VP recruitment (the president would have been appropriate as well) to thank her and the sisters for a great time. I also asked her to keep me updated on future COB events (note: all our COB events were open to all non-Greek women so this may not be a good idea if the COB events are all invite only at your school). Later on, one of the sisters told me that she was impressed by the old school manners and she could tell I was really interested in the house. If you think this house might be one you're seriously interested in joining, sending a thank you email might be something you can do to express that interest.

CarolinaCutie · #8 10-15-2005, 12:52 PM

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Originally posted by Alpha Chi Emily
Oh one other thing really quick...after I went to COB events for Alpha Chi, I sent a "thank you" email to the VP recruitment (the president would have been appropriate as well) to thank her and the sisters for a great time. I also asked her to keep me updated on future COB events (note: all our COB events were open to all non-Greek women so this may not be a good idea if the COB events are all invite only at your school). Later on, one of the sisters told me that she was impressed by the old school manners and she could tell I was really interested in the house. If you think this house might be one you're seriously interested in joining, sending a thank you email might be something you can do to express that interest.

I agree with this. It can be so frustrating to chapters when they like a PM, but have no clue whether or not she'll really accept the bid if the chapter extends one. I would be impressed with this e-mail too and would "rest easy" knowing that she was interested in the chapter (as long as it's one e-mail and not 10... haha).

SmartBlondeGPhB · #9 10-15-2005, 04:53 PM

Yep, you can never go wrong with a thank you. Even if it's only a couple of sentences.

LisAlly514 · #10 10-15-2005, 08:44 PM

Thanks for the advice...i actually wrote back thanking her after first invite, and letting her know I'd be a couple of minutes late due to another meeting. I'm not sure if the COb period is over, so it may be weird sending that email.

I know this may be confidential, but how often does a chapter meet during a recruitment period? Would I be brought up at the weekly meeting?

Also, is one usually notified of a decision regardless of whether they receive a bid?

SmartBlondeGPhB · #11 10-15-2005, 09:21 PM

Not the answer you want, but I'm going to say that every chapter is probably different on both those issues.

KSUViolet06 · #12 10-16-2005, 01:47 PM

Your first question is one that is confidential, but the second really depends on the sorority. We usually notify girls whether they get a bid or not.

LisAlly514 · #13 10-16-2005, 05:57 PM

Thank you all again for your helpful advice! I figured some of those questions may have had confidential answers.

Well, it's sunday and I haven't heard back since the last event on Friday. I was thinking of sending a little thank you email anyway, but is that weird considering it's two days afterward? Does the lack of further correspondance mean anything?

Sorry to keep bothering you guys, but you all are so helpful!

AChiOhSnap · #14 10-16-2005, 06:35 PM

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Originally posted by LisAlly514
Thank you all again for your helpful advice! I figured some of those questions may have had confidential answers.

Well, it's sunday and I haven't heard back since the last event on Friday. I was thinking of sending a little thank you email anyway, but is that weird considering it's two days afterward? Does the lack of further correspondance mean anything?

Sorry to keep bothering you guys, but you all are so helpful!

I wouldn't worry about not hearing anything as of yet, especially since it's a weekend and everyone else has a lot of other stuff going on... the sisters may not be around to update you on future events.

I think if you still wanted to send a note it would be okay, especially if you were just like "Oh, sorry this is a little late in getting to you but I just wanted to let you all know how much I appreciated the last event". I think they would appreciate the gesture, even if it's been a few days.

You asked earlier about how you would know if you got a bid or not...at least at some schools/sororities they only contact you if you receive a bid. So don't worry about the length of time that passes, they still may be in the process of COBing. Sometimes girls don't even find out that they didn't get a bid from informal recruitment (another term for COB) until they see new members walking around in the bid day shirts. So in your case, no news is really good news.

Oh and don't EVEN worry about "bothering" us. I think all the girls here remember how it felt to be in your shoes. I know it was hard for me because at least in formal recruitment you knew WHEN you would find out if you got a bid or not. With informal recruitment, you have no idea. It can be nervewracking! But please don't worry about asking questions, I know I really appreciated having people to talk to about the whole process.

I really do hope for the best for you!

LisAlly514 · #15 10-17-2005, 12:31 AM

Just got another invite!!!

Guess I was just being paranoid-thanks again greekchatters for all the advice.

I can't make the event though, and they said it was the last one. I guess I'll just send an email I have a conflict, but thank you anyway.