Dealing with stress

[Peaches-n-Cream]

AEPhiAlum, are you considering looking for a home in Westchester, NY or Fairfield County, CT? The commute isn't too far on the MetroNorth. I know real estate can be expensive in those areas, but you might get lucky. Good luck and take a deep breath!

[sugar and spice]

Things that relieve stress for me (and I am very very anxious person in general): running/hard workouts (walking doesn't cut it for me), going out with some of my friends who are always a blast to hang out with and just drinking/dancing

However, the number one stress reliever is way too obvious. DOING something about the problem. (Haha -- and you thought I was going to give you some awesome solution, didn't you?) The second I make a decision and take some active steps towards creating a workable solution, the tension dissipates. Of course, sometimes this can be something you can't control -- but sometimes when you're faced with a situation that's difficult, like buying a new house when nothing out there is nice, the stress can cause you to procrastinate and worry more. The more you get out there, the faster you're going to find a house that you love, and the faster you do that, the faster you can calm down a little.

That's all I got.

[aephi alum]

P-n-C, thanks for the good-luck wishes - I PM'd you.

S&S, usually doing something about the problem helps me deal with the situation, but not this time. I stress before I go into a job interview, but once I'm in the room, I'm fine. I freaked out ten minutes before my wedding, but once I was walking down the aisle, I was calmer than anyone else in the room, including my husband and my mother. But for some reason it isn't working this time. I have to get my house ready to be shown, and that means a lot of work cleaning and getting rid of clutter, and for some reason, all that prep work isn't helping. It doesn't help that I haven't seen an appropriate house yet.

Off to take a long bath...

[Rudey]

Drugs

-Rudey

[Lindz928]

Originally posted by aephi alum
Thanks for all the input.

I already know the commute would kill me long-term. It's 2+ hours each way on commuter rail and subway. I love my current house, but with 8+ hours at work and 4+ hours commuting, I'd never be able to appreciate my limited time at home.

Renting is an interesting idea, except for the small fact that my new job is in NYC, and we'd be better off financially buying a house closer to NYC rather than renting a place there (= $$$) and continuing to pay mortgage on our current house. Mortgage interest is tax deductible, rent is not. Plus, I'd miss my husband all week.

Wow. Knowing that it is New York does make a big difference. I've never even been there, but I have heard horror stories about the cost to live IN the city. Expanding your search area to different areas around the city is probably a good idea.

*GOOD LUCK!!*

[adpiucf]

So aside from drinking, drugs or exercise, what are some other good tips to deal with anxiety?

[Lindz928]

Originally posted by adpiucf
So aside from drinking, drugs or exercise, what are some other good tips to deal with anxiety?

I stick by my "talk to someone about it" response. It does wonders for me. One of my best guy friends knows that if I call him saying "I need advice" it really just means I need him to listen and tell me that I'm a good person.

[Dionysus]

Originally posted by adpiucf
So aside from drinking, drugs or exercise, what are some other good tips to deal with anxiety?

Calcium and magnesium complex. It will knock your ass out though. I would only take it after work or school.

[KunjaPrincess]

AEPHI ALUM

Have you looked at Danbury CT? My dad used to commute to NYC from there and took a train directly to GRand Central Station. It didn't take him too long and used to work wierd hours so I think there are a few routes. Not sure what price range you are looking at though so Danbury may be expensive.

[aephi alum]

Danbury is a good idea, but the commute is still too long... 2 hours on Metro-North each way, plus time on the subway.

I think we're going to end up in Norwalk or Stamford, depending on how big a mortgage we want to take out.

Anyway, I'm feeling a bit less stressed now. I've been approaching this from the wrong perspective: "OMG I'm selling my home!" But my realtor put it in perspective: "Don't think of this house as your home any more. It is a house. It's an item that you want to sell." So I've begun mentally moving out, so to speak. It's tough, though, because we haven't seen anything acceptable to move into. :/

[James]

Probably the best method for reducing acute stress and anxiety that I have heard of is eye movement techniques.

ITs commercialized as EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing).

A psychologist named Friedberg caught some flack for just putting the technique down in a book in an easy to use manner.

I think he really annoyed the EMDR clinicians that want a 100 dollars an hour to tell you to move your eyes back and forth horizontally . . . or to tap rythmically on opposite sides of your body.

I despise people that complicate simple stuff to make money.

What he writes down is identical to EMDR. Also, eye access techniques are not new, they have been around for along time.

I know several people that use the technique all the time to break negative thought patterns, deal with anxiety, or even simple stress.

Here is a link to the book on Amazon:

Eye movement

[AGDee]

I read a lot about that method as a means of treating PTSD. They had a lot of success with it.

[James]

yeah. the FBI flew them in after the Oklahoma Bombing to help people. Also the Veterans Administration now uses it as their preferred tool for PTSD (post tramautic stress disorder).

Its a ridiculously simple technique. Friedberg extrapolates it out to some more mundane issues. . everything from chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, eating disorders, to a simple 5 minute relaxation technique.

Its really the best technique I have learned . . and I have taken meditation classes and relaxation seminars etc.

ITs also so fast. I mean you can break a negative thought or anxiety in a couple seconds.

Originally posted by AGDee
I read a lot about that method as a means of treating PTSD. They had a lot of success with it.

[UofISigKap]

I am on spring break right now, which is supposed to be relaxing. I didn't even fly home this year so I would have time to decompress. Unfortunately...the only thing that has been comsuming my mind is school work: the info that still needs to be taught before the standardized tests in three weeks, the two projects for my grad class, papers that need to be graded, my plan for an observed lesson for when I get back next week, phone calls to parents for the upcoming field trip.

I am hoping that by biting the bullet and going into school tomorrow to put in a workday, I'll have the calls done, papers graded and inputted, and the templates for the grad project to bring home.

I hate being a worrier! I'm so jealous of people who can just let things go and know that things will work out. So, are there any new suggestions on dealing with the stress and anxiety of work?

[Tom Earp]

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