To the Married People on this board: What do you think about THE RULES?

[CutiePie2000]

I would really like to hear specifically from the married people on this board.

I think it is well known that, at times, singles who are attempting to find that special someone, find that this quest can be one of pitfalls and disappointment.

Sometimes I feel as though getting into a relationship that will ultimately work and lead to a happy, lasting marriage is about as treacherous as driving a truck full of nitroglycerin through the mountains....
one tiny pebble in the road and kablooey! The whole thing explodes in disaster.....

You've probably all heard of that book "The Rules", by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider (Sidebar: yes, I realize that Fein is presently getting divorced, but that is not what I am interested in discussing) and so I would like to hear from the married people on this board.

What do you think about the Rules?
To the women: did you do some of the Rules or all of the Rules with the man who is now your husband?

Here are the Rules, just for refresh!

The Rules (Top 10...there are more, but these are the main ones)
1. Be a Creature Unlike Any Other
2. Show up to parties, dances and social events even if you don't feel like it; you may meet someone.
3. It's a fantasy relationship unless a man asks you out.
4. In an office realtionship, do not email him back every time he emails you unless it is business related.
5. If you are in a long distance relationship, he must visit you at least 3 times before you visit him.
6. When considering whether to use personal ads or other dating services, you should place the ad and let men respond to you (rather than the woman initiating contact with men who have placed ads).
7. If he does not call, he is not that interested. Period.
8. Close the deal - Rules women do not date men for more than 2 years.
9. Buyer Beware - Observe his behavior so you do not end up with Mr. Wrong.
10. Keep doing the RULES even when things are slow.

and a few others that I found online...
"Don't Call Him and Rarely Return His Calls,"
“Don’t Sleep with a Man on the First Date”
"Don't Meet Him Halfway or Go Dutch on a Date,"
"Always End Phone Calls First,"
"Don't Talk to a Man First (and Don't Ask Him to Dance),"
"Let Him Take the Lead,"
"Don't Accept A Saturday Night Date After Wednesday."


Looking forward to hearing what the married folks have to say...thank you so much.