Vent

Buttonz · #1 12-03-2005, 01:25 AM

Ok, so I don't know where to place this so here goes:

This fall, I transfered schools. There is a chapter up here, and every time I tried to talk to them about meeting up, I got 'come ot a rush event' or 'wait till after rush'. Well... I never met up with them during the fall trimester, because if I did get an answer, that is what I would get.

Now it's winter tri and formal rush is next weekend. I would love to be invovled, even if it's just as an extra. I IMed one of the sisters, telling her good luck and if they need any help, I would love to help out.

I never got an answer. At all. Nothing.

On top of all that, they know that my younger sister is a freshman up here.

So they have an alumane that is willing to help out, and a legacy....you think they would at least be nice...but no. I don't get it.

O, and I have yet to be stopped by a sister when I wear letters. I don't know about any of you, but if I saw someone wearing letters around school that I didn't know I would stop them and talk to them.

(I have one of my sisters in one of my classes so I wore letters today hoping she would stop me, but nothing.)

*Ok I feel better now that I got that off my chest....*

Tippiechick · #2 12-03-2005, 01:45 AM

Take the hint that the chapter isn't interested.

Seriously.

I am just telling you like it is. If you have tried and tried and they have ignored you -- let it go.

Buttonz · #3 12-03-2005, 01:54 AM

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Originally posted by Tippiechick
Take the hint that the chapter isn't interested.

Seriously.

I am just telling you like it is. If you have tried and tried and they have ignored you -- let it go.

After this last thing, I have but it's also annoys me at the same time....

AUDeltaGam · #4 12-03-2005, 02:07 AM

I agree with Tippie.

Also, I'm at grad school at a school with DG, and I've seen girls in DG letters, but I haven't run over to them going "OMG I'm a DG too!!" because I'm on my way to class or I just don't feel like going over there. It's not that I don't care that she's a DG, I just don't go talk to her.

KSigkid · #5 12-03-2005, 12:41 PM

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Originally posted by Tippiechick
Take the hint that the chapter isn't interested.

Seriously.

I am just telling you like it is. If you have tried and tried and they have ignored you -- let it go.

Agreed - it's annoying, but unfortunately, not all chapters are welcoming to those from other schools.

PM_Mama00 · #6 12-03-2005, 01:56 PM

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Originally posted by KSigkid
Agreed - it's annoying, but unfortunately, not all chapters are welcoming to those from other schools.

While I agree to just give it up, I think it's a pretty big shame to treat a sister like that. I can't believe that people would be so unaccepting.

winneythepooh7 · #7 12-03-2005, 06:15 PM

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Originally posted by PM_Mama00
While I agree to just give it up, I think it's a pretty big shame to treat a sister like that. I can't believe that people would be so unaccepting.

I agree. That's pretty damn sad. They could at least be civil or fake it.

Tom Earp · #8 12-03-2005, 06:51 PM

Pardon

It seems that Sad to Me. Me but they are Idiots and not worthy to be called Sisters!

What is amazing is that Your Group isnt that big and should Welcome any Sister Who wants to Join with Them In Your Sisterhood!

#9 12-03-2005, 07:12 PM

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Originally posted by PM_Mama00
While I agree to just give it up, I think it's a pretty big shame to treat a sister like that. I can't believe that people would be so unaccepting.

While I don't condone this behavior at all, I don't really think it's fair to assume that they're doing this on purpose. I also start thinking about some chapters across the country that don't even allow alums to help out at rush events.

I also don't think the term "idiot" is appropriate in this case no one really has the right to say they're not worthy of being her sisters.

Unless you're from this chapter in question, you don't really know why they're behaving this way. (I know I quoted your post, Phyllis, but that above paragraph wasn't directed to you.)

Maybe the chapter's already set with who's going to do what during Recruitment. Maybe they don't want to have to accomodate an 'outsider' (forgive me for using that term because I can't think of a better one right now) during this hectic time. Maybe they're busy and the fact that they do have an alumna willing to help slipped their minds. Maybe they're afraid that you might not mesh well with them and you might affect their chapter dynamics.

That being said, I'm sorry that you're really feeling shitty right now Caryn. You know that SDT extends well beyond this chapter, so hopefully soon you'll find a bunch of sisters who'll be more accepting.

PM_Mama00 · #10 12-03-2005, 07:17 PM

OTW is right about not knowing what's goin on with them. The thing that gets me is the sister in Caryn's class who doesn't even say hi... unless she's shy? I duno. Come to think of it there was a Phi Mu alum in one of my classes a few years ago. She was a transfer from another chapter nearby. If I hadn't had other people in the class with me that I knew, I probably wouldn't have said anything to her but I at least would have said hi when she wore letters to class. I'm really shy in classes where I don't know anyone. That coudl be the case.

Caryn have you tried striking up a convo with her or saying hi?

irishpipes · #11 12-03-2005, 08:53 PM

I am sorry you are having a bad experience. As a possible defense, maybe they just don't get the big picture yet. As collegians, they might not really understand that they are part of an organization that is bigger than just their own chapter. (Of course they KNOW that, but they might not really understand what that means.) I think a group of young girls may not realize that their actions are offending you and aren't in the spirit of sisterhood. College-aged kids can be pretty self-absorbed sometimes. I hope it gets better for you.

Buttonz · #12 12-03-2005, 09:20 PM

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Originally posted by PM_Mama00

Caryn have you tried striking up a convo with her or saying hi?

Not yet, seeing as how winter tri has just started...I'm hoping to over the next few weeks...I just don't even know if I should bother.

#13 12-03-2005, 09:42 PM

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Originally posted by irishpipes
I am sorry you are having a bad experience. As a possible defense, maybe they just don't get the big picture yet. As collegians, they might not really understand that they are part of an organization that is bigger than just their own chapter. (Of course they KNOW that, but they might not really understand what that means.)

This is very true.

When I was a collegian I was one of the few that had the opportunity to go to Convention and meet sisters of all ages. Even after I had returned, they couldn't understand why I was so very gung ho about emails/message boards/AIM messages from sisters across the country.

They thought I was crazy when I sent "Good luck with Recruitment!" cards to different chapters one Fall.

Sure, they knew AGD was international, as irishpipes said, they didn't quite understand the big picture and they were slow to accept that there were thousands of sisters we were able to reach out to outside our chapter.

But then again, we are in Hawai`i, so I can kind of understand the whole self-isolation thing.

KSigkid · #14 12-03-2005, 09:45 PM

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Originally posted by PM_Mama00
While I agree to just give it up, I think it's a pretty big shame to treat a sister like that. I can't believe that people would be so unaccepting.

I know - I don't like it any more than you do. I've always tried to be accomodating to brothers from other schools. I know there are brothers in my org, as well as members of other orgs, who don't necessarily see it that way.

OTW, I understand what you're saying on the good luck notes. I used to send congratulations emails to chapters that got chartered, and people would be surprised by that.

AOX81 · #15 12-03-2005, 09:49 PM

I think it's sad that this chapter would do this to you.

I hope that they are not doing this intentionally.