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[GreekHopeful88]

After becoming a member of a certain sorority did y'all forget your friends from before that did not decide to go greek?Meaning, not intentionally but eventually y'all grew apart.What about boyfriends?Did you feel "pressured" to date the frat guy that your soros liked?

[WhiteDaisy128]

You've been reading too much Pledged. I had a boyfriend before I joined a sorority and still have him today (3.5 years later). Joining a sorority enhanced my life, it does not rule it. I never felt pressured to drop my old friends.

[kddani]

Originally posted by GreekHopeful88
After becoming a member of a certain sorority did y'all forget your friends from before that did not decide to go greek?Meaning, not intentionally but eventually y'all grew apart.What about boyfriends?Did you feel "pressured" to date the frat guy that your soros liked?

From your other posts I see that you haven't yet started college. I'd say that the college thing will have more to do with ending HS relationships (romantic or friendships) than joining a sorority. Going to college is a new era in your life. Regardless of whether or not you go greek, you're going to change. Your friends will change, you'll lose some, you'll gain some.

Be open to change, embrace it and make the best of it. Don't be scared of it.

As for the frat guy question... I didn't even date fraternity men while I was an active undergrad sorority member, lol. Dated them before I joined, dated them since I graduated, but not while, lol.

True sisters won't care who you date, as long as that person makes you happy and treats you well.

[KSUViolet06]

I still have the same friends I had before I joined. I'd say I'm even closer to some now. You won't forget them, you just have to make special time to hang out.

No sister should care who you date unless he's a threat to your well being or something like that. Of all of my sisters, I can think of maybe 3 that are dating guys in fraternities. It doesn't really matter.

[rocketgirl]

Definately not. I joined my sorority when I was a sophomore, so I already had a large group of friends and organizations I was apart of before I became a soror. Afterwards, my sorority opened up a different set of people that I knew and loved. It was an addition to my life, not a substitute for what I already had.

[FSUZeta]

when i was at fsu, there were 17 sororities on campus. i had friends in each chapter, and those women had non-greek friends and friends in other chapters. i had friends who were non-greek.i truly did not know of any sorority who tried to limit their members outside friendships or dictate who their members should date. sorority members lives are too busy for a group to be sitting around the chapter room trying to tell the other members how to run their lives.

[MReed1081]

One of my best friends is a Phi Mu- and they were our biggest competition on campus. We all find a place that we feel comfortable, and thats where we should go. Women that are friends and rush together, often go to the same place. However, one of them will end up happy if she only joined because of her friend, and it wasn't where she felt she belonged. We should celebrate our differences. I love the fact that I have friends in other organizations. I love hearing about other chapter history's and funny rush stories- it makes me realize that we're all just women, who love our GLO.

[lauralaylin]

I started dating my husband when we were in high school. I joined my sorority my sophomore year, and we never had any problems with my sorority life. I didn't really go to many of our socials, but that was my choice. I never felt pressured to date anyone else, nor would I have allowed anyone to pressure me if they did. It isn't hard to keep a boyfriend if you are in a sorority as long as you communicate what the process is like, so he understands how it is important to you and may take up more of your time than he is used to. If he has a problem with it, he may be too controlling.