Sweethearts

AOII_cuti18 · #1 03-08-2004, 06:57 PM

Question for any of our girls. I was wondering how a girl goes about and becomes a sweetheart. I dont know every single guy in the fraternity, but like my sisters, I would do anything for these guys too. I love the guys I do hang out with on a regular basis and i love the ideals of the fraternity as well. I spend almost all my time and the guys are great. My big bro is also a brother there. So I dont know what to do from there, but if anyone has any idea or ideas, please let me know.

Thanks so much.
Roses, Kristen

aopirose · #2 03-08-2004, 09:25 PM

I was a fraternity sweetheart and it came as a great surprise. My boyfriend, who was VP, at the time told me that I was selected because 1) I was a girlfriend, 2) helped the chapter when needed, and 3) every one really liked me. It’s not something that I sought out and no one that I know ever had that as a goal either. My advice is to chill. If they think that you are the one, they will ask you when they are ready.

SnowLady · #3 03-09-2004, 04:13 PM

I agree with AOPIROSE. Most of my sisters who were either nominated or eventually became sweethearts, became one because they did what came naturally. They were easy to get along with, a majority were at the time dating a member of the fraternity and they didn't have any extra overatures about them.

I do know some who had a goal to become sweetheart and it ended up hurting them in the long run. It doesn't take too long for the men to "figure out" that you're campaigning.

Just be yourself. There are many other achievements in college and in life worth fighting for.

OleMissGlitter · #4 03-09-2004, 04:41 PM

I know at Ole Miss a girlfriend of a member might not be selected in case that couple every breaks up, you know there could be a conflict or the sweetheart might not be liked. I wouldn't say it's never happen here before because I do know a few girls who were sweethearts while they dated someone. I was nominated for a fraternity here at Ole Miss, Phi Kappa Psi, when I was a junior. I didn't hang out there, I just knew a member from classes. I was actually dating a Sig Ep at the time. It was a great honor to be nominated. They were so kind to me and invited me to a sweetheart dinner and it was so neat. However, they didn't pick me, but my AOII sisters, another AOII was chosen, so as long as AOII was representing I was happy! I mean afterall, it wasn't like I dated a guy there or hung out there.

My advice would be what our other sisters have said, just be yourself and don't over do it. Let your inner beauty and your own charcteristics shine!

AOIIBrandi · #5 03-09-2004, 05:18 PM

On my campus the guys generally asked women who were friends with some or all of the guys and were always willing to help out. They also chose some girlfriends. They did frown upon girls who "openly campaigned".

I was one for IIKA. I knew a most of the other girls and a lot of the guys. After going to several events and just being myself the topic came up in a conversation with one of my better guy friends and I mentioned that I would be interested and that's all it took. I did eventually start dating one of the guys...and then I went and married him