What does it take to be an Alpha Phi Sister?

[stmuprncez]

Hello all my beautiful APhi's!!!! I am working on a sisterhood event for friday and one of the icebreakers i am having to get people talking is one called "What does it take to be an Alpha Phi Sister?" and i was thinking about posting this and seeing what everyone thinks!!

For me to be an Alpha Phi sister you have to have the energy to love another person despite on how different you may be from them... you still share a very sacred bond ALPHA PHI!!! Also, you must have the confidence in yourself to go out there in the world with a smile and to offer a sister a friendly hug if she needs one. You must also have the maturity to realize that not everything may go your way and that sometimes working together is the true challenge not the problem.

Anyone else's thoughts???

[IheartAphi]

For me, it was when you could have more time hanging out at the sorority house being goofy than going to the coolest fraternity party of the year.

We would all hangout outside the fastfood building on campus (we have a big brickyard everyone goes to) We would sit there for hours and everyone would drop by and kill time together and see all our sisters and friends. we would have 20 people hanging out. I absolutely loved that.

Initiation was the highlight though, I cried. We did something different than what we usually do (I will tell those Phi's who PM me and , if I am allowed to (moderators?) Its not ceremony specific, but just special touches that were added. it was so beautiful.

[Sistermadly]

For me -- as someone who took a non-tradiational route to Alpha Phi -- it takes perserverance. You have to know that when you work hard for something that you will be handsomely rewarded.

It takes understanding the power and beauty of ivy. On its own, one ivy leaf is an elegant example of nature's beauty and symmetry. But together, ivy is strong, resilient, hard to kill, () and represents tradition and a sense of permanence. It's the ultimate visual representation of A Phi TOGETHERNESS.

[Maharet]

What Is A Sorority?

If it's really anything at all,

A sorority is not entirely
a flower, national conventions, monogrammed rings, worn-out songs, bylaws, membership standards, or a golden pen.

And it is not entirely
an institution, a creed, a legacy, an obligation, or a way of life.

If you're going to insist that it is something,

A sorority is only
Moving in for the first time and slowly learning that all beautiful people have fat legs and use mouthwash and wear last year's coats,
Sitting next to an alum you don't particularly like and being nice because maybe it all means something to her,
Long, tired eternities of black coffee and exam snacks when you can't remember the Renaissance architects or the stages of photosynthesis or respiration,
Borrowing a skirt from Julie, and a blouse from Nanci, and shoes from Christy, and a belt from Beth, and a coat from Jennifer, and passing it off as your own,
Sitting on the back steps and listening with all your helplessness because she's lost and she's lonely and it seems the whole world just fell into ugly pieces.

And it's
coming in very late one night and closing the door to tell someone who's seen you through the hardest years of your life that you're happy now, and you're getting married.

And a sorority is, I suppose, a kind of evaluation.

You grow up inside these elegant halls
And perhaps you do learn more about this grizzly, ungrateful circus we call life than if you had lived it somewhere else.
You learn that a football player is sometimes just shoulder pads and that skinny arms sometimes hide a great man.
You learn that some lecture halls are just watery echos and that there are silent rooms for deeper rivers.
You learn that no matter where you come from or who took you there, you've still got to find that one small acre that belongs to you, by yourself.
You learn to wait, because chance is slow and change isn't always right.
You learn that there's still a lot left to believe in and a whole lot more to hope for.
You learn that love has never been easy, and it's a long time coming.

And if you're very smart, or very lucky, you learn that no matter how big or how messy the world becomes, what is precious and what is permanent is always the same.

And in the very end
A sorority can only be a better way to stumble down the back steps and out the front door.

[BearyCuteAPhi]

I think it takes ambition...you have to want it enough in order to keep it going in the future, you know. Smetimes ppl. join for the wrong reasons and the passion dies out and your left with a struggling sorority. It also takes dedication, patience, and lots of love!

aoe, ronnie

[APhiAngel]

to be an Alpha Phi sister......

I think that it is important for sisters to have each other's back if you know what I mean. It's important that you try and get along with most of the ladies in your chapter because it is important to stay patient and be understanding. Being in a sorority, for me, helped me to understand those who are not like me, it taught/teaches me about the many different types of people that are out there and how it is important to be respectful to everyone. Anyhoo, back ot the topic. To be a sister, you are not only there for the parties and sisterhoods, but you are there when someone is having a really hard time in their life whatever the reason may be. Most of all not only are you thier sister but you are their friend.

[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

I love that poem. Did you write it?

[Maharet]

No - It was sent to me a few years back and is perfect for any sorority...Wisdom abounds in each line...Cut and paste and share with your sisters!

[amandamarie]

I love that poem too, it was included in our new member folders! They even inserted names of actual girls in our chapter.