i just need to talk for a min

etahannah · #1 08-11-2003, 02:50 PM

i am just need a little outlet to talk for a couple minutes...you guys dont have to write back or anything...i just need to put this somewhere and i dont know where else...

an old friend of mine was killed in a car accident this weekend. she was driving home and another car slammed into hers. she died in the hospital about a half an hour later. the kids that hit her stole the car and were only 15..you have to be 16 to drive in ohio. and then they were caught trying to flee the scene.

i lost touch with her over the last year, but she was awesome when we were closer. i met her through my boyfriend at the time. her smile...and laugh...

i stopped out at the memorial on the corner of where she died since i couldnt make the funeral today. there is a telephone poll on the corner and everyone is signing it with a marker that is tied to the pole. there are flowers everywhere and balloons and candles. i think her family is sitting there during the night ever since it happened friday morning (3am).

for some reason i am not handling this very well...we werent extremely close and we lost touch over the last year...i dont know...

someone signed the pole "i was here a moment after you entered eternity. may your journey be glorious...a neighbor from down the street"

look, you are an angel now...
and always in my heart

love, me

JohnsDGsweethrt · #2 08-11-2003, 03:14 PM

Noreen, I am sorry for your loss. I think whatever you are going through is probably normal. We are always here if you need us!

CutiePie2000 · #3 08-11-2003, 03:22 PM

Although you weren't friends or in touch in the later years, you definitely were close at one time in your lives. I think your feelings of grief are natural and normal, and it's important to let those feeling release so that you can heal.

hannahgirl · #4 08-11-2003, 03:41 PM

Oh hun! I'm sooo sorry to hear that... Its totally normal for you to be upset about this. I've experienced many deaths like this that have hit hard. You eventually feel better and you remember the good times with that person and keep that with you. If you need to talk, you know where to reach me, you know that! Be there to support the family especially if you were close to her in the past...they need all the support they need right now.

love ya lots sweetie!
LITB,
Andrea

WhiteDaisy128 · #5 08-11-2003, 09:16 PM

Noreen,
It's hard to lose people. Even hard to lose people that we haven't had the chance to talk to in a while. There has to be a mixed feeling of saddness and guilt (for not staying better friends). Just remember that you both touched each others lives at one point and in a small way, knowing her changed you. You are supposed to be sad or angry. I'd suggest sitting down and writing a letter to her. Tell her about what has happened to you since last you talked, tell her what you though of her, write some of your favorite memories, and tell her that you miss her. Tuck the letter away somewhere and pull it out when out later if you get sad...it's a small way to settle things within yourself.
And of course, your sisters are here for anything. You know how to get in touch with me if you need to!
LITB,
CJ

Peaches-n-Cream · #6 08-11-2003, 10:03 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. Even though you weren't close in recent days, you are still experiencing grief about the sudden and unexpected death of a friend. It is completely understandable that her death has impacted you. Be patient with yourself since the next few days will be the most difficult. Again, I am so sorry for your loss.

bsp-mich24 · #7 08-11-2003, 11:22 PM

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

etahannah · #8 08-12-2003, 12:45 AM

this is why i love being a delta gamma and being greek. thanks to everyone...reading your replies really are helpful.

today was the first day that i have really been able to mourn her death. i was able to visit the memorial on the corner that the accident happened which i think made it more real for me today. it was a lot of driving around and thinking and crying...

i went back tonight with a friend of mine and lit a candle for her.

thank you again for the support when all i needed was a place to think "out loud"

all my litb and love....
noreen

cj ~ what a good idea...i might sit down tomorrow and write her a letter...maybe two...and leave one at the site for her family to read later when they get all the stuffed animals and other small gifts left for her.