married but leaves ring at home

alphachiohmy · #1 07-20-2003, 10:47 PM

So, I meet my friends up out last night. And one of the guys who is a friend of my friend is out with. I didn't talk with him long, and don't know him. But I guess he left his wedding ring at a friends, and his pregnant wife at home. Question is, do you think it is OK for married people to go out without wearing rings. My friend has said that he acts single when out with the guys. Just thought it was odd and wanted to see if this happens all the time... Any thoughts?

KillarneyRose · #2 07-20-2003, 10:57 PM

If someone wears his or her wedding all the time but decides to take it off when out with the girls or out with the guys, that raises all sorts of red flags with me.

I can't imagine any reason for doing that other than wanting others to think you're single.

Rio_Kohitsuji · #3 07-20-2003, 11:02 PM

Whoa...that's just wrong....

I can imagine taking the ring off would be okay for like work situations and what not (like my dad, he's never worn his due to his job) but not when he/she's just going out to have some fun.

Ditto what KillarnyRose said....red flags.

deltaphi94 · #4 07-20-2003, 11:08 PM

I agree with KillarneyRose. My husband rarely wears his ring, but he isn't out in social situations without me, either.

It's really a work safety issue more than the lack of desire to wear the ring for him. If he were going out with friends and playing single, that would be a definite red flag.

alphachiohmy · #5 07-20-2003, 11:11 PM

My same thoughts. I feel sorry for his wife and soon-to-be child.

texas*princess · #6 07-20-2003, 11:23 PM

The situation you describe would *definately* raise a TON of red flags for me.

I'm sure he wouldn't like it if his wife went out with the girls without her ring!

pinkyphimu · #7 07-20-2003, 11:32 PM

i'm not married, but if my hubby took his ring off to go out with the boys...he'd better stay out with the boys!

my parents have been married almost 33 years and my dad hasn't worn his ring in probably 32 of those years. just like deltaphi's hubby, it is a saftey thing. when they were first married, he almost had his finger cut off bc a piece of machinery had caught on the ring. needless to say, both of my parents decided that wearing the ring wasn't all that important!!

Rudey · #8 07-20-2003, 11:32 PM

The guy is a dick. But at the same time, why is he acting single? Pregnant wives maybe are not sexy so I don't completely blame him for wanting the attention of beautiful single women.

-Rudey
--Then again a lot of guys are into pregnant porn, so you never know what's sexy these days.

cntryZTA5 · #9 07-20-2003, 11:40 PM

My husband doesn't wear his ring at work for the reasons mentioned here (safety).

However, as soon as he leaves work, the ring goes back on. I would be very upset if he went out with his friends and decided to take it off.

bethany1982 · #10 07-21-2003, 12:14 AM

No ring... No way!

Hootie · #11 07-21-2003, 12:26 AM

Us ladies need to remember that some guys don't like to wear jewelry (and I don't care what you say about it being a symbol of their marriage - it's still jewelry to a guy). And after so many years of being married they start to shed it a little.

Jill1228 · #12 07-21-2003, 12:36 AM

What she said! Plus he has a tendency to lose things...which is why we got him an inexpensive ring.

I don't go without my ring...mainly because I LOVE it! and I take my ring off at night

But this man sounds like he is trying to be a PLAYA! That is just WRONG

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Originally posted by deltaphi94
I agree with KillarneyRose. My husband rarely wears his ring, but he isn't out in social situations without me, either.

SigkapAlumWSU · #13 07-21-2003, 04:06 AM

That's a red flag. If he was trying to shed his jewelry, maybe he could pick a better place to not wear his ring than guys night out at the bar....

KSigkid · #14 07-21-2003, 06:28 AM

Now, let's not be too quick to judgement.

I know a few guys who don't wear their ring (mostly work-related), but also don't wear it when they're not at work. They are all faithful to their wives, and it has nothing to do with any infidelity.

As was said earlier, some guys aren't big jewelry guys - and not wearing the ring doesn't mean you're not faithful to your wife.

Now...about "acting single" when out with the guys; it depends on what he means by that. If it means that he maybe drinks a bit more and is a bit rowdier, that's not necessarily a big deal. However, if it means he hits on girls and is picking up women, well then that's a problem.

sigmagrrl · #15 07-21-2003, 07:11 AM

Sorry, my husband will wear the ring. Tough shit.

And, if he doesn't he's getting a ring-like tattoo, SOMETHING to tell the world that he is taken!

Hell, I don't like that men don't wear engagement rings...I'd like to bring that into style...

You take that ring off, you may have the BEST intentions, but he is asking for trouble...