~Confession~

[Innocence22]

I have a confession to make. . .
I have been a member of Greek Chat for close to a year and although it's been fun posting. I need to come clean... Though many of you may be in shock to hear this.... Mostly everything that I have ever posted have all been lies. The things I have posted about either happened to someone I know or were just made up. Yeah...I WAS a college student but after not being accepted by Delta or AKA I dropped out. I was rejected by AKA my freshman year, so I switched to Delta, then I tried Delta again this past semester only to not make line again (because AKA couldn't have a line.) So I have come to the conclusion that maybe I wasn't meant to be greek. I posted on GC hoping to get information that would for once help me make line...but yall are so tight lipped about YOUR "precious" sororities that you made it hard for me.I have never dated a guy in a frat so that story about me being "abused" was made up, I've never won a scholarship, or any scholarship for that matter, especially not from AKA. I made it all up!!! Deltas...the reason I asked those transfer questions was because I contemplated going to another school to pledge. It hurts when your friends pledge and make it and you don't...you're left out in the cold. Hopefully, if i go back to school i can join a grad chapter. It's been fun. Anyway, this is my last post on GC.

[Confucius]

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[12dn94dst]

I thought about closing and/or deleting this thread, but this is a good "lesson" type of thread.

I'm not shocked by this revelation. It wasn't a secret that you were sitting on the fence between AKA & Delta, which is fine; you just didn't do a really good job of being discrete. I really don't understand how anyone who has been around either board for over a year wouldn't know that we're not coming off any information regarding our intake processes. Not because we want to be difficult, but because we have rules we have to follow. It's been that way for a little over 2 years. But hey, folks are gonna try & see what they can get. *shrug*

The funny part in all this is, all you have to do to get information that's going to help you in your quest is to get to know folks & be truthful about who you are. If you talk to me and get to know me and I get to know you and I feel like you'd be an asset to Delta, I'll help you out where I can. I'm willing to be my Sorors and Sister-Sorors feel the same. But if you feel you need to lie and stretch the truth to get people to like you, and become INDIGNANT and UGLY when the answers you get aren't the ones you wanted, then you have some issues that you need to address BEFORE you step to a sorority for membership. Becoming a member isn't going to change your issues.

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally posted by 12dn94dst
I thought about closing and/or deleting this thread, but this is a good "lesson" type of thread.

I'm not shocked by this revelation. It wasn't a secret that you were sitting on the fence between AKA & Delta, which is fine; you just didn't do a really good job of being discrete. I really don't understand how anyone who has been around either board for over a year wouldn't know that we're not coming off any information regarding our intake processes. Not because we want to be difficult, but because we have rules we have to follow. It's been that way for a little over 2 years. But hey, folks are gonna try & see what they can get. *shrug*

The funny part in all this is, all you have to do to get information that's going to help you in your quest is to get to know folks & be truthful about who you are. If you talk to me and get to know me and I get to know you and I feel like you'd be an asset to Delta, I'll help you out where I can. I'm willing to be my Sorors and Sister-Sorors feel the same. But if you feel you need to lie and stretch the truth to get people to like you, and become INDIGNANT and UGLY when the answers you get aren't the ones you wanted, then you have some issues that you need to address BEFORE you step to a sorority for membership. Becoming a member isn't going to change your issues.

Oh my dayums oh my dayums oh my dayums. . . Everythnig my co mod said is so true. There are some great SFs on GC for any of the orgs and there are some I would gladly help out in some way. However, Innocence22 and anyone else who is being less than honest about their situations, you GET BACK what you put out there. It might not be that you were not meant to be GREEK, but it just might not be your time and because you tried to take shortcuts and deceive those who were in a position to help you, your road to Greekdom is a bit rockier than others' experiences.

because I am still like WHOA!!!

[librasoul22]

What I want to know is...why post this? Unless you are screaming for attention. I think you need to sit down and take a long hard look at yourself and your priorities.

While Greek organizations are very beneficial, attaining membership should NOT take precedence over your education and it CERTAINLY should not lead you to lie or falsify information for whatever reason.

I am not Greek, but when I was trying to decide whether I was going to attempt to become a member of an organization, the first question I asked myself is WHY? I think you need to do the same. It sounds to me like you are interested in joining because you are looking for an identity and place to belong. If this is the case, you might want to spend less time obsessing over the nuances of AKA and DST and more time finding out who you are.

[MsAKAdemics]

Originally posted by librasoul22
What I want to know is...why post this? Unless you are screaming for attention. I think you need to sit down and take a long hard look at yourself and your priorities.

While Greek organizations are very beneficial, attaining membership should NOT take precedence over your education and it CERTAINLY should not lead you to lie or falsify information for whatever reason.

I am not Greek, but when I was trying to decide whether I was going to attempt to become a member of an organization, the first question I asked myself is WHY? I think you need to do the same. It sounds to me like you are interested in joining because you are looking for an identity and place to belong. If this is the case, you might want to spend less time obsessing over the nuances of AKA and DST and more time finding out who you are.

I agree Librasoul but at the same time- I commend her for being honest at least once. Who knows how many people are telling the truth/ or a lie on these forums. Personally, I do not care- as long as the person is not a Perp! It appears to me that she has reflected on her decision to lie and has decided to come clean. Hoepfully this will be a learning expereince for her. Moreover, I hope she will truly reflect on her reasons for wanting to be greek. Sadly, some people just want to be greek...... I know some of those people personally (both greeks and nongreeks). I hope Innocence reads the words of advice given to her by her sisterfriends/memberfriends... If I may use the word friend .

Innocence- I wish you good luck and I hope you will reflect on your reasons for wanting to be greek. It is a HUGE committment.

[DeRe]

Wow....

I am not Greek affiliated but in my quest to seek out the organization that suits me I am glad that honesty has always been my policy. If you truly want to become part of any organization you should not have to contemplate whether or not you are honest with them, it should just be. Being a part does not mean conforming to a certain group, but fitting with it based on who you are. Being fit is not learned, or formulated, it is simply what is. If it is right for you to be greek than it is right for YOU not some fairytale you have created.

I am glad you posted this, and I commend you for your willingness to be honest, not only with the members of this board, but yourself. If you are not content with who you are everyone can see it. Especially those who are attempting to get to know you for possible membership into their great organization.

Continue to search for what YOU fit into. Don't attempt to squeeze yourself in. You should feel comfortable with everything about it, then your search for sisterhood will end.

I wish you the best............

[nikki1920]

I thought the point of going to college was to get a DEGREE, not some letters? Did I miss something?

What was the point of lying? What did you gain from it? Do you really expect AKA or DST or SGRho or my Zeta to accept you now?

I applaud you for telling the truth, but you still seem hostile that neither org would reveal that information to you. Why should they? You just dont walk up to an XYZ and say "I wanna be down, now what does this mean?" It doesn't work that way.

Excuse me if I sound harsh, but I just dont understand why some people feel that membership is something that should just be handed over to them.

I hope you find a school where you can feel comfortable..I wish you the best.

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally posted by nikki1920
I thought the point of going to college was to get a DEGREE, not some letters? Did I miss something?

What was the point of lying? What did you gain from it? Do you really expect AKA or DST or SGRho or my Zeta to accept you now?

That tripped me out too. I was that she only went to college to earn Greek letters.

But I was that she lied about abuse. What purpose did that serve? Did she think that her being abused would cause me to say, "Well, you know that one of DST's 10 commandments is thou shall not be beaten by man alone."

I wish her the best because she has a long road ahead of her. Get to know yourself first. SELF-KNOWLEDGE goes a long way in life.

[kiml122]

Originally posted by Innocence22
I have a confession to make. . .
I have been a member of Greek Chat for close to a year and although it's been fun posting. I need to come clean... Though many of you may be in shock to hear this.... Mostly everything that I have ever posted have all been lies. The things I have posted about either happened to someone I know or were just made up. Yeah...I WAS a college student but after not being accepted by Delta or AKA I dropped out. I was rejected by AKA my freshman year, so I switched to Delta, then I tried Delta again this past semester only to not make line again (because AKA couldn't have a line.) So I have come to the conclusion that maybe I wasn't meant to be greek. I posted on GC hoping to get information that would for once help me make line...but yall are so tight lipped about YOUR "precious" sororities that you made it hard for me.I have never dated a guy in a frat so that story about me being "abused" was made up, I've never won a scholarship, or any scholarship for that matter, especially not from AKA. I made it all up!!! Deltas...the reason I asked those transfer questions was because I contemplated going to another school to pledge. It hurts when your friends pledge and make it and you don't...you're left out in the cold. Hopefully, if i go back to school i can join a grad chapter. It's been fun. Anyway, this is my last post on GC.

I really still don't know what to say about your post. I have been on GC for almost 3 years now, and I will be 2 months old in Delta come the 26th of this month. When I first joined GC, I must admit that it wasn't like it is now as far as asking membership questions and what not, but, once it was established that questions about membersip and things of this nature would not be answered or tolerated, I was like cool. I say I was cool because I knew that if I wanted to continue to partake in the conversation around GC, then I would have to adhere to the rules of each board, and y'all know I post all over the place. The members not answering any questions I may have had still did not make me want to lie about things that were done to me, or make me not want to continue my pursuit into Delta as well. Don't get me wrong, there have been times that I may have gotten a PM, and you know what, I was fine with that as well. I didn't get angry or anthing of that nature either. It's a learning experience. What I did was get to know members in the actual chapter that I was trying to join, these woman would actually carry more weight anyway when it came time for me to apply. What I liked about GC was getting to know different people in all the different areas, and making what I hope are real friendships.

There are members and SF's on here that I have met face to face and we hang out all the time, and there are ones that I have only seen pics of maybe, but we talk on the phone as well.
I think that you have to realize that in order to truly make friends, you can't come on a forum and just make up lies, and when things don't go your way, say oh F it.

I agree with nikki1920 that your purpose for going to college was to get your degree, so sit back and rethink all of what you said, and why you did what you did, and I hope that you will make the decision to go back to school to get your degree, and if you are able to join a sorority on the graduate level at some point, that will make it even better.

[DontHaveAClue]

I can completely understand your frustration. I have applied for memebership into Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. twice, and twice I have received a rejection letter. And after the second letter I got frustrated and thought about acting like I was someone who I am not so that maybe I would be accepted. Then I had to really take a step back and look at who I am. My mother, who is not greek, and doesn't know much about it, used to tell me well, it's their loss. And for a while I thought the same thing, but after careful reflection I realized that there has to be a reason why these ladies do not want me to be in their sorority. I have yet to learn what that reason is hence the name DontHaveAClue, but I have realized that there are some things about me that I don't like, and that I need to change, and I think that you should do the same. Instead of lying about who you are, try to make yourself into the person that you want to be. I am trying to change myself, not so that I will some day be accepted into Delta Sigma Theta, but so that I will some day be happy with every aspect of my life, not just my grades, and career accomplishments.

[treblk]

I just don't know what to say
This is too funny, I mean, what is this..a soap opera.
All I gotta say, since everyone has already said everything else is,

God don't like ugly
what you sow you reap

no wonder she didn't reply to my email when I asked her why she was soooo interested in Delta.
no wonder she was asking me all kinds of information and when I wouldn't answer her..she stops her email.

[brainzandbeauty]

It's been a looong time since I have posted. I may need to reintroduce myself properly.... Soror Moderators, put me in my place as you see fit I cruise the forums, but I have been in the mood to watch, listen and learn. This post though {{shaking my head}} ...I got something to say today.

This does not surprise me. Many people are obsessed with what they drive, where they live, what they belong to and hardly in touch with who they are. The obsession with outside appearances is dangerous. Everybody thinks they can fool folks. Now we have to contend with Jayson Blair clones on Greek Chat?

You need serious help. Run don't walk. Get help. Deciding to "come clean" is the first step, if you're sincere. Who knows, you probably decided to "confess" because someone else was going to expose you azz.

Your behavior is dangerous not only to yourself but to others. What if your need for attention does some serious damage to another person? I don't expect you to answer, but I know you're reading all the replies post. How could you resist?

Remember that God knows your heart, your motivations and intentions. You cannot deceive him. Work it out.

[DELTAQTE]

Originally posted by DontHaveAClue
I can completely understand your frustration. I have applied for memebership into Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. twice, and twice I have received a rejection letter. And after the second letter I got frustrated and thought about acting like I was someone who I am not so that maybe I would be accepted. Then I had to really take a step back and look at who I am. My mother, who is not greek, and doesn't know much about it, used to tell me well, it's their loss. And for a while I thought the same thing, but after careful reflection I realized that there has to be a reason why these ladies do not want me to be in their sorority. I have yet to learn what that reason is hence the name DontHaveAClue, but I have realized that there are some things about me that I don't like, and that I need to change, and I think that you should do the same. Instead of lying about who you are, try to make yourself into the person that you want to be. I am trying to change myself, not so that I will some day be accepted into Delta Sigma Theta, but so that I will some day be happy with every aspect of my life, not just my grades, and career accomplishments.

Maybe you should be talking to that chapter and finding out so that you will have a clue.

Not being mean, just honest.

[toocute]

Originally posted by brainzandbeauty
Who knows, you probably decided to "confess" because someone else was going to expose you azz.

Oh Gurrl....you took the words right out of my mouth

I really don't have much to add to this. I think my sisterfriends and memberfriends on DST Blvd and AKA Ave. have spelled it out BUT don't lie, joke, play around with being abused. That ISHT IS WRONG and I can't believe you did that. I have a friend and a VERY close cousin that was abused and just knowing that your LIED about that...I have no words.

*shaking my head*