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Good Black Men/Good Black Women
Okay I've tried twice to start this posts and twice have had my lengthy thoughts erased, my patience is wearing thin, so, I'll be brief.
Black men and black women need each other. It's a fact.
The black family in the country has been under attack for centuries and we today are a product of our history. We are raised with the idea the typical black family is a single mother who's counterpart either refused to be involved or did not have the capacity. What results is that black women develop an inherent distrust in black men and think they don't need them, and black men don't fully understand how to nuture a black woman. Part of being a man is knowing how to treat a women. Thus you have a bunch of adult black males who don't fully know how to be men therefore they don't act as such. Black women are reared to overcompensate for their counterparts which is why we have the current situation we have today in higher education. So it's a self-fulfilling prophecy.
When a good black woman meets a good black man she automatically expects him to be less than what she needs. When a good black man meets a good black woman he has to figure out the proper way to make her feel special and secure and dig through the shell that she has around her heart (that is of course, if he actually believes that she needs him). Without the proper communication and honesty a once promising situtation can turn ugly fast.
I'm no expert on relationships, this is just my opinion based off my own experiences and observations.
Any other thoughts?
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