Sisterhood

[Katey Alpha Gam]

Hey, I was wondering how other chapters promote sisterhood when doing sisterhoods doesn't seem to work? I think our chapter is in dire need of a sisterhood overhaul and I was wondering how you would or have gone about adressing that? In the past we were all so tight it was awesome, but now it doesn't seem like we are as tight as we used to be

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Katey, ZA chapter of AGD
"Could I have been anyone other than me?"-Dave Matthews

[AGDsexysmoker]

we usually have "sisterhood" events about once every 2 months or so... it really all seems to bring us closer. one thing we did was called a bean auction. everyone is told to buy a $5 gift and wrap it to bring to the next meeting. then, the sisterhood cooridinator would hand out a bag of 50 beans to everyone. the sister hood coordinator would auction off the wrapped gifts to the highest "bean bidder".. i know it sounds cheesy, but after we did it, it was really fun.. we were all anxious to see what everyone got, and everyone got along at the auction. some other things we did were "goods & losers" at meetings. during the meetings, everyone would write on a piece of paper a good or a loser to someone about something that hapened over the weekend... example: "goods to kelly for dancing on the table w/ me at the bar"... or "loser to krista for falling down the steps at theta chi"... everyone has a good laugh and we all get to find out what each other did over the weekend even if we didn't all get to be together.
those are just some of things i can think of off the top of my head... if i think of more, i'll put up another post. i hope i helped!

Tatianna

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it's hard being a princess...AGD

[Katey Alpha Gam]

Those are really good sisterhood ideas and I thank you very much for them, but I think I didn't word my question right. I meant like what do you do if sisterhoods aren't really working either and you have these little high school type cliques, completely unlike any normal sort of division that happens when you are in a group with many people, that keep seeming to pop up and get in the way of what true sisterhood means?? Has anyone had this sort of problem?

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Katey, ZA chapter of AGD
"Could I have been anyone other than me?"-Dave Matthews

[AGDsexysmoker]

sorry for the misiterpretation...this actually DID happen to us once... it was RIGHT after i pledged and A LOT of people weren't getting along and talking about other sisters behind their backs. our president at the time held a candle lighting... a candle lighting is when all the sisters sit in a circle (in the dark)and and pass the lit candle. you can ONLY talk when you have the candle... anyway, we passed it around and everyone just said what was bothering them... no one really pointed out people, but they just would say what had been bothering themm.. like the backstabbing or whatever... it really helps b/c all the sisters see how upset other sisters are and it really hurts. everyone felt like complete assholes when it was over. some didn't realize how much they were hurting others. everyone had a new respect for each other after that. that one night really brought us closer. another thing we did was pass out sheets of paper to every sister, then wrote our names at the top.... we sat in a circle and passed the papers around.. writing something NICE about the person whose name was on the paper, and sign your name after your "nioce words".. we wrote things like "christina is a great listener and always knows what to say"... or "betsy has such a great art talent".. things like that... when we all got our papers back, we realized how much we all loved each other and how much we were all appriciated. i hope these ideas were better. they worked great for our chapter and i hope you can use them too. by the way, it has been over a year and i still have my sheet of paper and i read it when i am feeling down about myself and it STILL makes me feel better!!!

Tatianna

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it's hard being a princess...AGD