For RUSHERS
I am a rush advisor for a chapter and I have developed a lot of opinions that I would like to share and I hope I don't cause rushees to be scared but I really think we as adult women have the fragile self-esteem of young girls in our hands and need to be aware of this.
Two things I have put a stop to in my chapter and they are:
1) During pref or the last round of parties before pref we used to put the "super stars" in a separate room on purpose so they will be rushed harder. I know not every chapter does that and on paper that makes sense but I stopped that because those girls who are in the super star room and those girls who are not will eventually figure it out the first time they are rushers. That will lead to wondering why they weren't in the super star room, etc. and that can be detrimental to them in the future.
Every young woman is a super star in their own right. Every single on of them and yes ok we have our preference but I hate what that says. Let's say that no one in the super star room accepts a bid from us. That causes pain to the sisters too. they can quesiton why aren't we good enough for them?
2) Also, a girl last suumer said out loud in front of the entire chapter, "we should be really really selective this year. no offense to our last pledge class." I was shocked and appalled and that is totally unacceptable.
3) I know I posted superficial pointers for rushees but that is because my heart goes out to all of them so much. We have their self esteem in the palm of our hands and that breaks my heart. I wish my school wasn't as cut throat as it was. And I know that fact I got into a great sorority says nothing about me as a person. It's simply luck. I know that.
My boyfriends school is a lot different. All the sororities have great girls, bad girls, fat girls, skinny girls, etc. They have about 7 sororities and they are truly just about the same "caliber." How refreshing.
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