It's over

SigkapAlumWSU · #1 02-22-2002, 08:01 PM

It's over. All done. I broke up with my fiance. It was miserable. We had decided to see other people 2 weeks ago, then last week he calls, and I decide it's over. Then, I talk to my best friend, and she tells me what's been going on while we were not seeing each other. He already had a rebound chick, and had visted her 2 hours away, telling me he had a job interview and that's why he was gone. Hurt, I decide I want all my stuff back, take off on Wed morning to drive 6 hours just to get my stuff so I can have closure right now. Stupid, and hotheaded, I know, but it worked. But when I got ther, he looked great, and I thought that I was the stupidest person for breaking up with him. Then I looked around, noticed all the pictures of him and me were gone, and in a frame I had given him, was a picture of them.
So I got my stuff, told him she was a rebound, and came back to Pullman. Now here I am, being semi-ok for the first time since we broke up. Now how do I move on? I still care, but I am so ready to stop feeling like an idiot for letting him lead me on (he already cheated on me once) and I just want to get out there and get my own rebound.

I just had to put that all down.. I feel a lot better now.

GreekLetterGirl · #2 02-23-2002, 12:16 AM

way to go for dealing with an incredibly tough situation with digenty and grace.. break ups are never easy but they are always harder when more people (ie kids) are thrown in to the mix break ups after an especially a long time together are even harder, but i have faith that you are an incredibly strong person ( I am taking that just from your post and the way that you handled your self) so , now is the time to call up your best sisters and have a girls night, hang out with them, talk to people, don't hide your feelings, but realize that you made a good choice and will only get stronger from it, also time heals all wounds so take your time... the world is yours to enjoy... i wish you all the best with everything

ZTAngel · #3 02-23-2002, 12:49 PM

Wow....I don't think I would've handled that even half as well as you did. Realize that you're a very strong person for dealing with that situation the way you did. Now you know you can get through the next couple of weeks which tend to be the hardest. Don't let yourself mope around the house. Make sure you're always busy...that'll keep your mind off of it. Hang out with your sisters and invite friends over to your apartment. Instead of studying at your apartment alone (being alone can cause an emotional breakdown...been there, done that), go to the library and study so you're around people. You'll get through this and meet a guy who's much better than that jerk!

AlphaO · #4 02-23-2002, 01:59 PM

I would just like to say that it takes strength to handle a scituation they way you did. I was in the same scit. about 3 weeks ago, we weren't engaged, although it was if we were already married (4 years). We broke up and not two days later he took another girl to a concert, that him and I were supposed to go to and he drove 3 hours to take her to it!! So I know what you are going through. I have just been spending a lot of time with my favorite people (besides him) and I am trying my best to keep it together till time heals me! I definitly suggest keeping busy as much as possible!! If you want to talk.. PM me! Kepp you head up and stay strong!

UDZETA · #5 02-23-2002, 02:24 PM

Don't let it get you down. I know that easier said then done but try to keep your mind on other things and keep your friends close by. Plus there are plenty of nice and hot guys out there. So keep your eyes open! I'm wishing you the best! ZLAM-UDZETA

SigkapAlumWSU · #6 02-23-2002, 05:07 PM

Thank you guys so much for the support. I don't think that I was this strong a week ago, but I guess that's what time gives you. It's getting easier tho, and I think that I will be fine, but still a little hurt more than anything. The way I figure, I'm on a campus surrounded by tons of hot guys my age who are just waiting for the chance to meet me!

One way or another, I'll find a way to keep busy, and so far my sister's have been the biggest help!

GreekLetterGirl · #7 02-23-2002, 05:30 PM

That is so well said and true, way to have a great attitude, you rock
good things will come to you ...

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The way I figure, I'm on a campus surrounded by tons of hot guys my age who are just waiting for the chance to meet me! One way or another, I'll find a way to keep busy, and so far my sister's have been the biggest help!

James · #8 02-23-2002, 05:41 PM

Also, that distance thing helps with getting over it, even though it may have played a part in the ending.

Eirene_DGP · #9 02-23-2002, 06:44 PM

I must agree that you handled the situation really well. The best thing to do now is find things to do to occupy your time. Maybe go to the club, hang out at the bar with friends, or just have some "you" time to pamper yourself (go to the salon, get something from Bath and Body Works). Don't try and rush into another relationship to get back to your old comfort level. Seeing that he was able to move on so quickly shows that he was a dog anyways. If you are in a loving and committed relationship, you cannot be engaged on Monday and be out on the town with someone else on Tuesday.

James · #10 02-23-2002, 06:49 PM

Actually we can seem to be dating so quickly even though we were in love, because all our friends and people on bulletin boards we frequent would be telling us that we should be strong, pamper ourselves, work out and immediately get back in the saddle. lol

We really never know what other people are thinking.

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Originally posted by Eirene_DGP
I must agree that you handled the situation really well. The best thing to do now is find things to do to occupy your time. Maybe go to the club, hang out at the bar with friends, or just have some "you" time to pamper yourself (go to the salon, get something from Bath and Body Works). Don't try and rush into another relationship to get back to your old comfort level. Seeing that he was able to move on so quickly shows that he was a dog anyways. If you are in a loving and committed relationship, you cannot be engaged on Monday and be out on the town with someone else on Tuesday.

Peaches-n-Cream · #11 02-24-2002, 01:23 AM

I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. I agree that you handled this situation with dignity and grace. I'm certain that better things are in your future.

aephi alum · #12 02-24-2002, 10:29 AM

I can't really add anything to what the other folks here have said - except "That which does not kill us, makes us stronger." You're a stronger person for having gone through with this. Sounds like he was quite the scumbag. You'll be sad for a while, and wondering "what if?", but then you'll move on, with one of those "hot guys"

Just don't rush into anything, and don't go getting drunk.

tridelta4ever · #13 02-24-2002, 01:33 PM

I'm sorry you're having to go through this, but it really sounds to me like your ex was not nearly worthy of you. It baffles me that he already has a new girl, even though you recently separated. UGH! I know you'll find a Wazoo hottie, and more importantly you will preserve your self-esteem instead of having some no-good, half-wit, cheating dog squash it for you. I know it will be hard for the next few months - no matter how big a dog this guy was, it's hard to shut off feelings that you've developed over years. At least you took control of the situation and got out - I'm proud of you!

cougar15 · #14 02-24-2002, 04:09 PM

Sorry to hear that things turned out that way, but it sounds like it is definitely for the best. At least you found these things out before you got married to him. Plus, I know for a fact that there are plenty of cuties at WSU!

Of course you should wait until for a while before launching into finding a new guy, but when that time comes there are plenty to choose from in the Palouse!

Eirene_DGP · #15 02-24-2002, 04:19 PM

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Originally posted by James
Actually we can seem to be dating so quickly even though we were in love, because all our friends and people on bulletin boards we frequent would be telling us that we should be strong, pamper ourselves, work out and immediately get back in the saddle. lol

We really never know what other people are thinking.

Ok, thanks for your 2 cents worth!!