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Men and Marriage
OOOOP-ROOOO to my Bruhs!
This is a question for all the brothers out there (Greek or not).
This was sent to me by a friend. I want amale opinion of the advice in the message. Women talk about marriage and what the deal with men is all the time. (When I searched GC with the term marriage most of the topics were on Sororities forums and most of those were BGLO's!) So what do the fellas think?
"Men and Marriage: Don't Fool Yourself, It's Not That
Complicated. Last week we threw a bachelor party
for one of our good friends and then on Saturday
afternoon we stood beside him in our tuxes while he
and his fiance' said their vows. As I stood up there
looking across the crowd, I decided that our next
topic on this page would definitely talk about
marriage. I also realized that alot of women may not
want to hear the truth about men and marriage because the truth is
so simple that they could not accept it without
questioning their own relationship. But I am here to
tell you - DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT
COMPLICATED.
The sad thing about it is that it took a woman to
bring it to my attention. I had a close friend of
mine tell me that she was persuing a stable man with a
girlfriend. When I asked her did she feel wrong about
that she said "Shyt,a girlfriend ain't nothin -
girlfriends come and go. If the nigga is established
and he isn't either married or engaged, then he is not
that serious about her and he is fair game" I thought
about this for a minute and came to a cold conclusion:
IF A MAN IS STABLE IN LIFE AND HE IS IN A
RELATIONSHIP AND NOT MARRIED, THEN IT IS BECAUSE HE IS
NOT SURE ABOUT THE WOMAN THAT HE IS WITH. He is not
willing to commit to her and constantly has his eye
open for something better or is waiting for her to
become something better. Point blank. When he finds a
woman that he is satisfied with, he will make her his
wife.
And ladies, sorry to tell some of you, but it doesn't
take 4 or 5 years for that man to figure it out. It
doesn't take 2 or 3 years either. The only reason
that a man will get married after that long of a time
is because he's tired of looking for something better.
And trust me, that's definately what he was doing all
of those years.
So if you should happen to find yourself in one of
those "long term" relationships then maybe you should
step back, take a look at yourself and wonder what it
is that you're missing that this man is not willing to
fully commit. Don't make excuses to yourself and your
girlfriends saying things like "Oh he's waiting til he
gets a better job" or "he's waiting to finish school"
or "he's waiting until he moves from his apartment
to a house".
DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED. Which
one of those things can't be done with a wife or
fiance' by your side?
So ladies, when you read this think about your
situation and that man that you are living with. Or
the one that you spend many nights over his house or
him over yours. Think about your baby's father that
you are still in a sexual relationship with. Think about your
"ex" that you are in a sexual relationship with. Think
about your "boyfriend". And definately think twice
before you brag on a relationship that's a couple of
years long and you still have no commitment. Like I've
said before, I'm a man and I know the situation. I've
been there and I know that we can come up with some
extremely reasonable excuses, but.....DON'T FOOL
YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT COMPLICATED."
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