Latina Soror

[purehoney]

As a woman of mixed ethnicity, (That being Black and Puerto Rican) I have NEVER thought I was better than anyone. I would like to know why so many Black women feel inadequate next to us. Not to say that I'm not Black, because I am; this is easier than saying "dark-skinned women" over and over again. Black women tell me all the time that I have nice hair, or that they wish they had my hair. I'll be out shopping in NYC with my Black friends and they'll say stuff like: "That dress is a beautiful color, but it wouldn't look right on me, because I'm dark-skinned. You could wear it though." The one thing that gets me the most is that they think that dating is somehow easier for me. Like being light-skinned somehow makes me more attractive to all Black men. Please, how I look, and my Nationality is only the first layer of who I am. From my experience, I think it's harder sometimes. I love dark-skinned Black men. When go out with a Black man, sometimes Black women look me up and down, and give me the "disapproving-white girl-stare." It is also no secret to Latina women, that some Black men who date white women, and have very disapproving families, try dating us. Like, we're some kind of acceptable substitute. Finally, WHAT THE HELL IS THE BIG DEAL ABOUT HAIR?! If I had a dollar for everytime Black women have told me that I have "Good Hair" I could get a new car! (Or, at least buy dinner for everyone here, viewing.)
I always thought that if you love your hair, and keep it healthy, you have good hair. No matter what length or texture it is. I guess I just don't quite get it. Chris Rock's movie was good, but I still fail to see what the big deal is.
Asi pues, mi Sorores, amas a ti mismo, no importa que! (love yourself, no matter what!) Me encanta Alpha Kappa Alpha! AKA por vida!

[AOEforme]

Oh, goodie! The Tamika's mom thread was getting dull and I still have an hour to Canton!

[dreamseeker]

Originally Posted by purehoney

As a woman of mixed ethnicity, (That being Black and Puerto Rican) I have NEVER thought I was better than anyone. I would like to know why so many Black women feel inadequate next to us. Not to say that I'm not Black, because I am; this is easier than saying "dark-skinned women" over and over again. Black women tell me all the time that I have nice hair, or that they wish they had my hair. I'll be out shopping in NYC with my Black friends and they'll say stuff like: "That dress is a beautiful color, but it wouldn't look right on me, because I'm dark-skinned. You could wear it though." The one thing that gets me the most is that they think that dating is somehow easier for me. Like being light-skinned somehow makes me more attractive to all Black men. Please, how I look, and my Nationality is only the first layer of who I am. From my experience, I think it's harder sometimes. I love dark-skinned Black men. When go out with a Black man, sometimes Black women look me up and down, and give me the "disapproving-white girl-stare." It is also no secret to Latina women, that some Black men who date white women, and have very disapproving families, try dating us. Like, we're some kind of acceptable substitute. Finally, WHAT THE HELL IS THE BIG DEAL ABOUT HAIR?! If I had a dollar for everytime Black women have told me that I have "Good Hair" I could get a new car! (Or, at least buy dinner for everyone here, viewing.)
I always thought that if you love your hair, and keep it healthy, you have good hair. No matter what length or texture it is. I guess I just don't quite get it. Chris Rock's movie was good, but I still fail to see what the big deal is.
Asi pues, mi Sorores, amas a ti mismo, no importa que! (love yourself, no matter what!) Me encanta Alpha Kappa Alpha! AKA por vida!

QFP. i felt like i was reading this thread all over again.
anyway, if you still have ignorant and insecure friends like this in 2010, get some new ones.

[IlovemyAKA]

Originally Posted by dreamseeker

QFP. i felt like i was reading this thread all over again.
anyway, if you still have ignorant and insecure friends like this in 2010, get some new ones.

That was my 1st thought, too.

purehoney, go here & here.

[Little32]

Please introduce yourself in the appropriate thread; and to others that would respond, we have a thread going about this already, we can continue the discussion there.

ETA: I see my lovely soror beat me to it.