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09-16-2008, 10:40 AM
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My decision has not changed......I will be pledging if the sorority gives me the opportunity......But he is loyal, and has never done me wrong... I hear a lot of people saying "If you back down on what you truly want to do just for him, lated he'll be demanding other things....." So what if he decides to get over it and stay?
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He WON'T. First of all, any man who feels the need to berate you in order to get his way is (excuse my French) a B*tch ass. He called you weak because that's what he WANTS you to be, and if you sacrifice what you want for him, you will end up regretting it for the rest of your life!
Little32, AMEN to everything you just said!!
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09-15-2008, 08:10 PM
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What you want to hear: He will change and support your decision.
Are you happy now? Do you feel validated?
SMH. Are you truly ready to join a women's organization? You feel bad for a boy who dumped you because you didn't do what he wanted. You sound more like a little girl trying to please mommy and daddy than a woman on the path to sisterhood.
Go running back now and save us all the headache of 10 more pages of this BS.
And yes, I'm a bitch. Please drive through.
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09-15-2008, 08:14 PM
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Originally Posted by AOII_LB93
What you want to hear: He will change and support your decision.
Are you happy now? Do you feel validated?
SMH. Are you truly ready to join a women's organization? You feel bad for a boy who dumped you because you didn't do what he wanted. You sound more like a little girl trying to please mommy and daddy than a woman on the path to sisterhood.
Go running back now and save us all the headache of 10 more pages of this BS.
And yes, I'm a bitch. Please drive through.
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If it's Alpha Kappa Alpha she's pursuing (based on the fact that she went and posted her drama in their forum), I get the feeling the AKA members on her campus will catch on to her issues real quick.
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09-16-2008, 09:42 AM
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What I am getting at is that your boyfriend needs to be on board NOW, not later. God willing you will be working your ass off to get to know the women in the chapter -- assuming they will even be allowed a voice or vote in the selection process.
The work starts now, not later.
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09-16-2008, 09:45 AM
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Originally Posted by Senusret I
What I am getting at is that your boyfriend needs to be on board NOW, not later. God willing you will be working your ass off to get to know the women in the chapter -- assuming they will even be allowed a voice or vote in the selection process.
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They all know me very well, and were quite close......so being known is not a problem. And your right.......if he wants to be in...he does....But I'v told him what I am going to do.....so whatever happens, happens
Last edited by RareTreasure; 09-16-2008 at 09:55 AM.
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09-16-2008, 10:59 AM
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He IS going to undermine your chances, by the way.
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09-16-2008, 11:01 AM
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He IS going to undermine your chances, by the way.
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Why do you say that?
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09-16-2008, 11:03 AM
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So he can be proven right. He's already affecting your chances by distracting you.
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09-16-2008, 12:48 PM
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Originally Posted by Senusret I
He IS going to undermine your chances, by the way.
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SOOO TRUE!!!!!
what better way to hurt you like you "hurt" him than to completely screw your chances of getting on board with the sorority...and word spreads fast. if you have a crazy man clinging to you, nobody is going to want you in their org. its too much drama!
and who in a sorority/fraternity is telling him you wont be able to spend time with him? that is a crock of sh*t if you ask me...
HE IS IN YOUR HEAD... the worst place of all for him to be...clear your mind fast...
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09-16-2008, 01:31 PM
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I'm starting to wonder if the OP is even for real. It seems like she's getting off on coming back here and talking about him and making excuses for him. Notice which posts she responds to and which she ignores. If this is for real, get your ass off the internet and deal with it or see a counselor or something.
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09-16-2008, 02:18 PM
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Hmmmm....I wondered that too.
Though her behavior might just be indicative of why she has stayed with him for so long.
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09-16-2008, 02:58 PM
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OTW--Interesting that one of the AKA's platforms is "mental/emotional health"...
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Interesting. I did not know that! You learn something new on GC every day.
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Originally Posted by kddani
I'm starting to wonder if the OP is even for real. It seems like she's getting off on coming back here and talking about him and making excuses for him. Notice which posts she responds to and which she ignores. If this is for real, get your ass off the internet and deal with it or see a counselor or something.
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I wondered that too. She's quite the selective one when it comes to replies.
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09-16-2008, 11:17 AM
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09-17-2008, 04:13 PM
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So basically what you all are saying is that I'm weak now. I'm trying to give you all his side so you all wouldn't just be giving me advise hearing only one half. But I see if you all think I'm weak and so does he. He's not my 1st serious relationship, I'm not a figment of your imaginations. I'm not getting off on coming back here and talking about him and making excuses for him. I was letting you all know what he says to all of this so you all wouldn't just be judging from one side of the story. And thank all of you that understand.....and all that don't, well, thanks any way.
I guess I shouldnt have posted it any way...I just seeked other womens opinion thats all.
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09-17-2008, 05:15 PM
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So basically what you all are saying is that I'm weak now. I'm trying to give you all his side so you all wouldn't just be giving me advise hearing only one half. But I see if you all think I'm weak and so does he. He's not my 1st serious relationship, I'm not a figment of your imaginations. I'm not getting off on coming back here and talking about him and making excuses for him. I was letting you all know what he says to all of this so you all wouldn't just be judging from one side of the story. And thank all of you that understand.....and all that don't, well, thanks any way.
I guess I shouldnt have posted it any way...I just seeked other womens opinion thats all.
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Based on this big letter block response, trust when I say that I know weak when I read it; your words not mine.
Don't waste the sorority's time. You are not ready.
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