Huge problem with transfering into a new chapter...HELP!!

[tld221]

Originally Posted by kathykd2005

She probably won't say...

shake her up some more and we'll find out. i mean we know it's not DZ or Pi Phi. and i swear she said something like there were only 3 sororities on her campus and that hers was one of the "not so popular ones." so if you know of any 3-NPC-having schools then narrow it down.

and this comes from an NPHCer... see how easy it can be?

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by tld221

shake her up some more and we'll find out. i mean we know it's not DZ or Pi Phi. and i swear she said something like there were only 3 sororities on her campus and that hers was one of the "not so popular ones." if that helps at all.

lol @ shake her up some more. Sarcasm?

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by OTW

No shit.

But I was hoping she'd be dumb enough to at least answer.

Thanks a lot.

You're welcome. Thanks for being such an upstanding citizen. You hurt my feel bads. <<< me

[SWTXBelle]

Hey, I don't think any of my NPC cousins should have to bear the burden of having OP outed as a member.

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Hey, I don't think any of my NPC cousins should have to bear the burden of having OP outed as a member.

True.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Hey, I don't think any of my NPC cousins should have to bear the burden of having OP outed as a member.

I love you for this.

[adpiucf]

Oh come on, you guys. Play nice. I know we like to snark, criticize spelling, etc., with the newbies, but I can appreciate that the OP is stressed out, confused and dealing with a lot of adjustments. I don't think we need to go "outing" her by looking at what campuses have X NPCs with or without sorority XYZ and QRS.

It takes some cajones to transfer to a new school where you don't know anyone, and especially to a school a lot further away from home. Added to the fact that her home chapter didn't submit paperwork that she didn't even know about (and did any of you have any clue as to the paperwork involved with initiation or communication between the chapter and HQ when you were a new initiate?), I'd be anxious and looking online to see if there were any resources to give me more info or advice about the process.

PLUS there's the very long and twisted process involved in trying to transfer into another chapter, which is something the vast majority of members will never even contemplate b/c most people don't even contemplate transferring. Think of all of the adjustments and risks involved-- losing credits, getting used to a new school, the uncertainty of fitting in with the transfer chapter, liking your old school and old chapter enough to outweigh the potential benefit of transferring for a specialized major, etc. I'd be stressed out, too.

So what if her mom is trying to help her by making phone calls on her behalf? This kid is probably all of 18-19 years old, and from the looks of it, she was going to college close to her family before she moved farther away to attend the other school. I'd be overwhelmed trying to settle in and grateful for mom's help in trying to get things squared away for me-- if it met helping me find a local doctor in the area or figuring out how to get my sorority transfer request moving along.

Whatever. I guess I just don't "get it." Her posts maybe were a little confusing to read, but I just read that as her inexperience and anxiety. Comments about the chapter not being up to what she thought it would be based on her experience at recruitment, reputations of the new chapter-- give her a break. She's been fairly discreet about not naming names or locations, and she's just being honest.

[AnchorAlumna]

Bless you for some rational thought!

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

Oh come on, you guys. Play nice. I know we like to snark, criticize spelling, etc., with the newbies, but I can appreciate that the OP is stressed out, confused and dealing with a lot of adjustments. I don't think we need to go "outing" her by looking at what campuses have X NPCs with or without sorority XYZ and QRS.

It takes some cajones to transfer to a new school where you don't know anyone, and especially to a school a lot further away from home. Added to the fact that her home chapter didn't submit paperwork that she didn't even know about (and did any of you have any clue as to the paperwork involved with initiation or communication between the chapter and HQ when you were a new initiate?), I'd be anxious and looking online to see if there were any resources to give me more info or advice about the process.

PLUS there's the very long and twisted process involved in trying to transfer into another chapter, which is something the vast majority of members will never even contemplate b/c most people don't even contemplate transferring. Think of all of the adjustments and risks involved-- losing credits, getting used to a new school, the uncertainty of fitting in with the transfer chapter, liking your old school and old chapter enough to outweigh the potential benefit of transferring for a specialized major, etc. I'd be stressed out, too.

So what if her mom is trying to help her by making phone calls on her behalf? This kid is probably all of 18-19 years old, and from the looks of it, she was going to college close to her family before she moved farther away to attend the other school. I'd be overwhelmed trying to settle in and grateful for mom's help in trying to get things squared away for me-- if it met helping me find a local doctor in the area or figuring out how to get my sorority transfer request moving along.

Whatever. I guess I just don't "get it." Her posts maybe were a little confusing to read, but I just read that as her inexperience and anxiety. Comments about the chapter not being up to what she thought it would be based on her experience at recruitment, reputations of the new chapter-- give her a break. She's been fairly discreet about not naming names or locations, and she's just being honest.

I don't want to see flames, attacks, and outings. I agree about that, and you are probably right about confusion and anxiety rather than maliciousness being behind it. But ouchie, it ended up being a bad thread in general, IMO.

She managed to make one chapter of her, (yes, unnamed, thank goodness for that) GLO look terrible, her HQ look like they promoted re-rushing to her, and the new chapter look indifferent to a sister.

All because she wasn't getting what she wanted from the group fast enough, apparently.

She might not have realized where it was going when she started, but I think she should have caught on a little bit.

[jon1856]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

Oh come on, you guys. Play nice. I know we like to snark, criticize spelling, etc., with the newbies, but I can appreciate that the OP is stressed out, confused and dealing with a lot of adjustments. I don't think we need to go "outing" her by looking at what campuses have X NPCs with or without sorority XYZ and QRS.

It takes some cajones to transfer to a new school where you don't know anyone, and especially to a school a lot further away from home. Added to the fact that her home chapter didn't submit paperwork that she didn't even know about (and did any of you have any clue as to the paperwork involved with initiation or communication between the chapter and HQ when you were a new initiate?), I'd be anxious and looking online to see if there were any resources to give me more info or advice about the process.

PLUS there's the very long and twisted process involved in trying to transfer into another chapter, which is something the vast majority of members will never even contemplate b/c most people don't even contemplate transferring. Think of all of the adjustments and risks involved-- losing credits, getting used to a new school, the uncertainty of fitting in with the transfer chapter, liking your old school and old chapter enough to outweigh the potential benefit of transferring for a specialized major, etc. I'd be stressed out, too.

So what if her mom is trying to help her by making phone calls on her behalf? This kid is probably all of 18-19 years old, and from the looks of it, she was going to college close to her family before she moved farther away to attend the other school. I'd be overwhelmed trying to settle in and grateful for mom's help in trying to get things squared away for me-- if it met helping me find a local doctor in the area or figuring out how to get my sorority transfer request moving along.

Whatever. I guess I just don't "get it." Her posts maybe were a little confusing to read, but I just read that as her inexperience and anxiety. Comments about the chapter not being up to what she thought it would be based on her experience at recruitment, reputations of the new chapter-- give her a break. She's been fairly discreet about not naming names or locations, and she's just being honest.

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

I don't want to see flames, attacks, and outings. I agree about that, and you are probably right about confusion and anxiety rather than maliciousness being behind it. But ouchie, it ended up being a bad thread in general, IMO.

She managed to make one chapter of her, (yes, unnamed, thank goodness for that) GLO look terrible, her HQ look like they promoted re-rushing to her, and the new chapter look indifferent to a sister.

All because she wasn't getting what she wanted from the group fast enough, apparently.

She might not have realized where it was going when she started, but I think she should have caught on a little bit.

BON, after reading all of this, I agree with you both.
And IMVHO this thread should be locked down right about now..

[barbino]

Originally Posted by giggle528

yeah, I hope I like them. They are known here as the prettiest and kinda slutty group, but I went to the information meeting and they had all the tables set out, and immediatly after they dismissed the meeting and asked the girls to go look around, almost everyone went toward ABC. I mean I just have to wait until the prez says I can meet them and hang out with them as ABC, and your right they might not be the type of girls I'd like to hang out with or they can be the girls who I absolutely loveee. Who knows?
i am not going to say which group it is, but it is one of the smaller organization. They dont have nearly have as many chapters as DZ or phi beta pi (i think thats rights), so It was very hard to find a school that was in a reasonable amount of distance ( I am actually 12 hrs away from home now, but thats as far as I will go)and that had my major, which is to say the least not that common.

It kinda sucks, I felt like (i dont wanna say screwed) but for lack of a better word, screwed. just because at my old school they made such a big deal about having so much fun, getting the best grades, etc. and yeah, I did feel comfortable around them, so I felt like I made the right choice, but still the fact that you say they are gung ho, is SO true!

OMG ---deactivate now, please!!!! Save another chapter of your GLO from having to experience your own personal brand of sisterhood. If you can really call this second chapter <<the prettiest and kinda slutty group>> then you really don't belong with them and they certainly would be better off without you. Sisterhood is based on ideals that don't encompass members like you who seem to take, and take. Ask yourself this: what can you give back, and what will you give back????

It's like President John F. Kennedy's famous quote: "Ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country." A GLO can be compared to one's country, and both require a great degree of loyalty from its constituents. And---look!!! I never even ran spellcheck (I rarely use it, I don't have to). But---maybe if you stayed, one of your new chapter sisters could teach you how to actually write.

Just what will you contribute to your GLO, both the national as a whole and the new chapter that you seem so intent on joining?

[adpiucf]

I find it seriously offensive that you would compare undertaking the duty to serve one's country with undertaking elective membership in a social organization...

Sorority membership is nowhere on par with serving your country, and I'm getting a little tired of people treating their sorority like it is a sacred religion.

I am also not into this new trend of Greek Chatters finding new reasons to jump all newbies for their spelling or mis-speaking a comment here or there. Sometimes it is warranted. Most of the time... not so much. I'm all for having a laugh as much as anyone else... but seriously? President Kennedy wasn't talking about sororities.

What the hell is wrong with you people? Or maybe I'm the one with the misplaced priorities...

[barbino]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

I find it seriously offensive that you would compare undertaking the duty to serve one's country with undertaking elective membership in a social organization...

Sorority membership is nowhere on par with serving your country, and I'm getting a little tired of people treating their sorority like it is a sacred religion.

I am also not into this new trend of Greek Chatters finding new reasons to jump all newbies for their spelling or mis-speaking a comment here or there. Sometimes it is warranted. Most of the time... not so much. I'm all for having a laugh as much as anyone else... but seriously? President Kennedy wasn't talking about sororities.

What the hell is wrong with you people? Or maybe I'm the one with the misplaced priorities...

No, maybe you are right. I wrote this post in reaction to her calling the second chapter "the prettiest and kinda slutty group" -her terminology upset me. Usually I read all of the comments before posting. If I had, I would not have written my last post. She asked for help & sympathy, and she deserved it. However, like other posters, I found myself quesioning so much of what she said. GLO's are not like countries, and GC cannot be compared to politics. Forgive my last post, it was written in anger & way out of line.

[adpiucf]

Thanks. And forgive me, too, for jumping on you, as well.

[Tippiechick]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

I find it seriously offensive that you would compare undertaking the duty to serve one's country with undertaking elective membership in a social organization...

Sorority membership is nowhere on par with serving your country, and I'm getting a little tired of people treating their sorority like it is a sacred religion.

I am also not into this new trend of Greek Chatters finding new reasons to jump all newbies for their spelling or mis-speaking a comment here or there. Sometimes it is warranted. Most of the time... not so much. I'm all for having a laugh as much as anyone else... but seriously? President Kennedy wasn't talking about sororities.

What the hell is wrong with you people? Or maybe I'm the one with the misplaced priorities...

Methinks the OP was simply trying to convey that you should care less about what benefits one could gain from something and focus more on what you can do for the benefit of the group.

I think you're being overly sensitive on this post/in this thread.